I just received my bonus letter at work and was so excited that I phoned my girlfriend who is pregnant with our first baby.I told her that I would beable to take care of all the bills and buy all the things that our unborn child still need and offered to take her out to dinner to anyplace she wants to go.She is also working and I did mention the amt that I will be getting because I feel that we should share everything good or bad .I am working long hours to try and make life as easy as possible for her and thought she would also share this happy moment with me because this money is for all three of us.I told her first because I love her and feel that she must know that everything will be great this month but she sounded very down could she be jealous because I take it that this is not my money alone but ours please advise me what to do coz I dont want to assume
2006-08-24 07:03:58 · 10 answers · asked by Swordfish B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thank you all .I've only seen it from my side and I feel a bit guilty and I think I will take next weekend off and spend it completely with her and spoil her so that she can see that I am around thank you all and God bless
2006-08-24 07:24:03 · update #1
Talk 2 her abt what u feel
2006-08-24 07:07:13 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she is pregnant, she is under alot of stress no matter what, and she is gona worry about everything no mater what.
the only thing you can do is reassure her everything will be ok and you will be there for her and the baby no matter what. call her just bc, bring home flowers, just bc, fix supper, clean the dishes for her. make up the bed... that is a big thing. dont you ever notice when the bed is made the room looks better. hun you dont how it feels to be in her position. i am sorry i know you are saying rite now that we dont know it feels to be in your position but please please dont be mad, but we carry this baby for nine months, we get back akes, are boobs get sore, we have to go to the bathroom alot, food starts tasting different, are emotions are a rollocoster, then after the baby we are going threw tryen to look good for the husband and at the same time we are in alot of pain from just haven the bay, we are tired.... o i could go on and on, but i want. just dont jump to conclusions, be a good husband a good dady, just love her, smile and just love her...
good luck with your family, remember. life is to short for regrets!!!
2006-08-24 14:14:47 · answer #2 · answered by april 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awwwwww that gotta hurt, ok, some women dont like it when the man wants to pay for everything, they feel as though they cant do a thing 4 themself's, sont say to her that its our moneyok, i no your only being nice, but it seems to me that she like it when she to can do something, never make a women feel as though she cant stand on her own to feet, i mean some women would say great u pay 4 the lot while i spend my money at the pub, lol but yeah, just when u talk to her, watch the way she looks at u and if u feel she is upset, then stop what u r saying and find another way to say it, i hope u understand what im saying. but hey u are a great man, take care
2006-08-24 14:12:40 · answer #3 · answered by louise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in mind since you spend alot of time away from her now what are you going to do when the baby comes? don't you want to spend as much time with all of them as much as possible?
I really don't think you should have told her to quit her job what will happen if something happens to your job... It would make things a bit more easier and less time consuming if she would to keep her job... think more about her feelings and time and life and not so much about what you think would be best and what you think would be easier. And learn to be a great dad.. i'm sure you'll do well...
2006-08-24 14:10:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That really does not make sense. I dont think she is jealous, but she is pregnant and maybe she is just having a hormonal issue at the moment. What is bothering her is prob not this situation at all. When you get a chance talk to her and ask her if anything else is bothering her, because I dont see why this would.
2006-08-24 14:09:03 · answer #5 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask her if she is upset with you. She may just be feeling under the weather or something. Whatever happens, pay the bills and enjoy the money youself a bit-- you deserve it for working so hard!
2006-08-24 14:08:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because she is expecting, you worked overtime and made this money!! She also is happy that you care for her but if she encourages you, you will work more and deprive her of the closeness you have, which what she is looking forward now!!!
2006-08-24 14:11:08 · answer #7 · answered by THE WORRIER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is probley feeling like she wants you there as much as possible espically seince she os pregnant and now that you get this permotion that means less time with her. i say do as much sweet little things as you can for her. randomlly bring her flowers or come home early ne day and make dinner for her
2006-08-24 14:09:39 · answer #8 · answered by miz_kaila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she might be depressed. That happens alot after a woman has a baby. let her know how much you love her , and do things to help her out and make her feel good about herself.
2006-08-24 14:07:24 · answer #9 · answered by sweenygirll 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably just hormones; women have to bear the pregnancy, but men have to bear the women!
You're doing well.
Or...maybe she wants a husband?
2006-08-24 14:08:27 · answer #10 · answered by ALAN Q 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋