I can't stand my boyfriend mother because every time we get into it she is in the middle of it . So one day I had a agreement with his and the kids was in the other room (I don't fuss in font of the kid) I told his that this is to much and left. So my child came to me and said the grandmother told him that I was a slut,my baby is only 4years old. What should I do about this I don't take my kids over there anymore. Is that the right thing to do .
2006-08-24 07:00:25 · 10 answers · asked by sweetboo_05 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Be civil and don't spend too much time with her. Tell her you don't appreciate her using such ugly words in front of your children, especially about you. Do NOT fight with your partner in her house.
2006-08-24 07:03:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can't stand your boyfriend's mother then there will be more problems once you get married (if that's what your plans are). It just sounds like she's extremely protective of her son. If you want the relationship to work, and possible future marriage, then you must try to put your feet in her shoes just one time. Sit down and communicate with her. Look at both sides of the issue. You would be amazed at how different things will appear. It's like a paradigm; 2 people see the same picture in different ways - neither is right or wrong.
It also sounds like you and your boy friend have issues. There seems to be a ton of 'bad vibes' going on here. If everyone wants to get along - then everyone needs to work on peaceful solutions. If no one can - then move on in your life - look for someone else.
2006-08-24 07:15:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't stand my boyfriends mother either. I'd love to slap the **** outta that lady sometimes. I just bite my tongue, and try to stay out of her way. Pretty much I'm completely fake to her. Well most people call it civil. As far as the mother telling your child bad things about you is just completely messed up. I would have my boyfriend come with me over to her house and all 3 of you sit down and tell her how she shouldn't speak to your child about you like that. There is no reason for her to teach your child that is right to talk like that. Let her know that if she continues to be a bad role model for your children that you will have to keep children from her. And make sure HER SON AGREES WITH YOU!!!
2006-08-24 07:10:47 · answer #3 · answered by peachez082 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who in the hell* told your boyfriend's mom that you are not good enough for him ? You are correct, your children do not need such an influence in their lives. Tell her on the phone when she decides to behave civilly then the visits shall Begin again. What does your lover think ? Is she trying to break both of you up ?
2006-08-26 11:03:11 · answer #4 · answered by rc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a problem not so survere with my husband's mother....If your mother-in-law (you know what I mean) is saying those things to your child...tell her you don't want her to have anything to do with you guys for a while as that is setting a bad exaple for your child. I'm so sorry you have a mother-in-law who is such a *****. Good Luck and hang in there...
2006-08-24 07:08:07 · answer #5 · answered by .vato. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its perfectly fine...he should act as a mediator and make his mother understand that you are part of his life..you are the mother to his kids, and you deserve the same respect that she wants. As for the bad name calling in front of the child...that is terrible behaviour on her part, and she should apologize to you and the child.
2006-08-24 07:25:07 · answer #6 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sit down with her and tell her that you do not appreciate her telling your child things like that and whether she likes you personally or not, it's between you and her and not to bring the baby into it. She needs to be an adult about it and so do you. Work together in figuring it out.
2006-08-24 07:08:55 · answer #7 · answered by KC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK THE MOTHER IN LAW NEEDS TO STAY OUT OF IT BC THE ONLY PERSON THAT SHE IS HURTING IS THE BABIES.. ALL I THINK IN A WAY YOU ARE DOING THE RIGHT THING BY KEEPING THE CHILD AWAY BUT YOU NEED TO EXPLAIN IT TO YOUR CHILD OF WHY HE/SHE CANT GO OVER THERE
2006-08-24 12:17:23 · answer #8 · answered by KIMBERLY M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that she raised him.
Her irritating ways will surface in him little by little.
When you take a mate, you take the whole package.
Get along or get out.
2006-08-24 07:07:47 · answer #9 · answered by mnm75932 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should tell her off. thats what i had to do to my mother in law! after that she kept her mouth shut and she doesnt intervene in none of our stuff any more. also tell your boyfriend to tell her something too cause believe me if he doesnt shes gonna do this FOREVER!
2006-08-24 07:05:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋