Basically me and my boyfriend have been dating for 11 months. He is very serious about his future basketball career and has to train very hard for it. Recently he had written me a letter (left it on my car) telling me that" he loves me with all of his heart and he wants to spend forever with me and im the only love in his life no matter what but as of now we cannot be together because of working full time and focusing on his passion in life (which i can understand) he writes "this is not a break up just time off" .
i know theres really nothing i can do. i was thinking in a month from now around our 1 year anniversary to write him back but until then im assuming we wont be talking to eachother because he really needs to focus. i dont know when this is all going to be over and im not sure what to do. I love him so much and would do anything for himm i just hope he does come back to me one day since he wants to spend forever with me....
i need help i need serious advice
2006-08-24 06:59:43 · 21 answers · asked by nygirlsrdifferent 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Time apart isn't always bad. After the time apart and you two still love eachother, then it was meant to be. If during that time either of you date, then neither of you loved eachother enough to wait!
2006-08-24 07:02:36 · answer #1 · answered by jessigirl00781 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you love him and still want him to come back to you, then trust him. Continue living with the assumption that once he's ready, he will call you up.
I don't believe that would happen, but that's because I wouldn't be able to do it. But on the other hand, i wouldn't have let any kind of career stand between me and the woman I love.
If he loves you, then he will call you when he's ready. All you need is some patience.
Good luck :)
2006-08-24 14:23:39 · answer #2 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok just so you know there is no such thing as time off IT IS a break up and the guy is going after what he wants to do you should do the same don't be sad be glad he's happy and go PARTY or something with your friends have fun and be safe
2006-08-24 14:06:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience, "I need some time" has always been precursor to a breakup...anyone who needs time can get it without totally disassociating themselves from the person they claim to care about and love...
If you were married, would you be kewl if he moved out for a month or two to "focus"? If he can't handle all the facets of his life, perhaps he shouldn't be dating...
2006-08-24 14:04:22 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a joke. Tell him, in person not a letter, that the only way you will accept this "time off" will be if he agrees to not be with any other women. Personally, I think he just wants to fool around.
2006-08-24 14:03:55 · answer #5 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got a letter, from the postman just the other day..so i decided to write you "this lame as letter and left it on yer windshield like some flyer for a yard sale."
what a loser, wanna-be baller. make sure to let me know which popeye's chicken he ends up working at.
2006-08-24 14:08:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say just let it be. If you are that dead set on writing to him on or around your one year anniversary then keep it short, sweet, and to the point. Tell him you know he needs to focus and you don't want to take that away from him but, you just wanted to let him know that you're thinking about him and that you love him. Always remember K.I.S.S. (Keep it simple stupid)
That usually helps me out in many different situations. Let me know how this works out!!
2006-08-24 14:05:59 · answer #7 · answered by nyarka15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious, hes a coward, why didnt he said that in person? Arent u important enough? U need someone who can dedicate a part of his life to u. Forget him and look for someone who really loves u.
2006-08-24 14:03:13 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you don't want to wait for love because trust me, love does come back if it is meant to be for you. Maybe it is a time in your life where you got to see where you want to be in life. Is it truly with him? If it is, then he will come back. Don't wait but continue to love and support his decision. if you do meet someone else, just remind them that you are in love currently but you don't put love on preservation at all.
2006-08-24 14:04:34 · answer #9 · answered by writecuzimfree 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
career comes before anything else. Maybe you should rearrange your priorities too. I wonder how he would feel then.
Sounds like hes trying to blow you off. Look elsewhere, lifes short and you should be happy not waiting around for him.
2006-08-24 14:03:01 · answer #10 · answered by teulonbranchlibrary 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋