I have 2 beautiful baby girls- 2 1/2 and 7 months. My husband and I are about to die for a night out just us... just for dinner and a movie or something. We haven't had a night out together since I got pregnant with my 7 month old... My mother and his mother both make up excuses EVERY weekend that they have too much to do to keep them for a few hours. They hardly ever see our kids but don't seem to care that they are giving up precious time with them. My 2 year old has been counting to 10 by herself for about a month and my mother still thinks she can't even count to 3... What do I do to try to get some alone time with my husband--- AND get my kids connected with their grandparents again?!?! (PS my kids are good kids- it's not an issue of being terrors or anything)
2006-08-24 06:52:02 · 14 answers · asked by KC 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Don't limit yourself to grandparents. There are lots of people who I'm sure would be more than happy to give you guys a break. Also, don't blame anyone but the grandparents for losing time with their grandkids...they will eventually realize it and be sorry they missed out on all the baby stuff.
2006-08-24 06:57:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mother is the same with my kids. Unfortunately that's just the way she is, and the only way she's going to change is if she wants too. Do you have a girlfriend that could watch them? Perhaps some of your mother friends know of a good babysitter. Perhaps you or your husband have siblings that could watch them for an evening?
2006-08-24 14:09:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe a friend could swap you. You watch her kids on a Friday and then she watches yours on a Saturday. If you go to church put out the word that you need an occasional babysitter. The American Red Cross in our area also offers a babysitter training class in our area. If you have one in your area maybe they can put you in touch with someone who will babysit. As far as the grandparents goes, I would ask them if they are free to babysit sometime, and then make plans for when they are available.
2006-08-24 14:11:08 · answer #3 · answered by Aumatra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be flexible about the time and day. Call her up and ask, "Is there a day this month where you can watch the kids for a while so we can go out?" Surely if you give her a whole MONTH to choose from, she can come up with 4 hours somewhere!
Offer that they can watch them at their home or yours, which ever would work best.
Be specific about how long you hope to be gone.
Be available by cel phone while you are gone.
2006-08-24 13:54:29 · answer #4 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ask some friends if they know a reputable babysitter or even a good friend to babysit or have date night at home after the kids are asleep.
I've never actually hired a babysitter but occasionally ask a good friend to come sit. A good friend will do that!
2006-08-25 12:10:14 · answer #5 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your extend family is not a built in baby-sitter. It's not manditory for them to help you watch your kids. Granted if you haven't been out for a long time and this isn't and regular thing, they should help you out. But, if neither one of the grandmothers is willing to baby-sit. Find someone in the neighbourhood that will. There are a lot of good baby-sitters out there that are trustworthy.
2006-08-24 14:00:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some grandparents just don't want to connect with their grand kids. My husband's in the military and we just had our first...my parents and his parents haven't even seen him yet (he's 6 months) They probably won't be able to see him until Christmas. It's not because they don't want to see him or we don't want them to see him...it's because that's the way it is sometimes. We live several states away from them both...we live in Florida they live in Ohio and New Mexico. Grandparents don't have to always be there for your children to know who they are and love them. As for a night out...sorry I don't have sympathy...we NEVER get a night out. I just wanted to let you know not to expect anything out of your/his parents...
2006-08-24 14:00:17 · answer #7 · answered by .vato. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow! I have the opposite problem...my parents are always trying to steal my kids. Maybe just ask them straight up "why don't you want to watch our kids?" If it's inconvenience offer to help them out with stuff they need to get done in trade for babysitting.
2006-08-24 13:58:41 · answer #8 · answered by mommyem 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you consider getting a babysitter there are tons of them around and they don't really charge much like Say 5-6 bucks an hour most of them are about 14-16 years old just ask around your friends they most likely have someone they recommend.
2006-08-24 13:59:41 · answer #9 · answered by Jeff L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to the local high school and ask a guidance counselor for recommendations. Also - make sure they've taken the babysitting course (They exist! Really!)
2006-08-24 13:56:39 · answer #10 · answered by Nickygrack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋