I moved in with a bf 3 months ago. In doing that, I destroyed my personal relationships with my sons. Now the bf is going on a month long "vacation" to another state without me. This does not feel right to me..any opinions?
2006-08-24 06:52:02 · 25 answers · asked by redheadAK 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
arrgh!!! baby girl, what have you done. it sounds like you made a bad choice. first you need to just think for a moment. can you see what you did right and what you did wrong? first your son is the most precious thing that a mother could have. and the loser of a bf had left on his own vacation with out you. come on now, can't you see it? here is an old saying "men come and go, but blood stays with you for ever". fix the relationship with your son. rethink about your relationship. baby girl, do the right thing.
2006-08-24 12:02:29 · answer #1 · answered by harmony 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your sons always come first...don't let a man destroy the relationship w/ your sons. If he can't accept your sons then he's not a man you should be with. By the way, how old are your sons? If they're young adults then you really need to stay close with them because at those age they really need a mother the most.
2006-08-24 06:57:50 · answer #2 · answered by cheesie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should if you have not already, let him know how you feel about this. It could be a test....If he positively has to go on this vacation, let him know that it would be a good idea if he does something for you when he gets back. "movies" intimate night alone with dinner etc.. Also tell him that if you are a couple, no more one man vacations. Take care and good luck..
2006-08-24 06:59:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say get rid of the bf and start re-building your relationship with your sons.
Your sons should come first no matter. If the man you want to bring into your life does not agree, then he should be in it.
2006-08-24 06:55:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sons should always come first before a man. Also he went on a month long vacation ALONE!
2006-08-24 06:56:41 · answer #5 · answered by stormy angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are the 2 of u looking for in a relationship? it seems to me that both of u r on different pages if you are asking this question. can u have "visitors" without reprocussion while he is away and/or there? you need to determine what you want and have a discussion with your b/f.
now, to the most important part:
How old are your sons? if they are young, they should be the primary concern of any parent.
2006-08-24 07:01:11 · answer #6 · answered by dukktraxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boyfriends come and go, but your sons are your sons forever. I'd say for you to repair the relationship you have with them because they should come first.
Your sons need you, and you need them. Any "boyfriend" who can't fit into that scenario doesn't need to be there. There are plenty of guys out there who would welcome a ready-made family. Don't settle for another like this one.
2006-08-24 07:01:36 · answer #7 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find that odd, that he goes away for so long without you, especially since it's not like he's going overseas or something. He's not being very nice to you. You should consider reevaluating your relationship options. See why he is going away without you and if the reason isn't satisfactory, it may be time to... ahem, move on.
2006-08-24 06:58:44 · answer #8 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, you are not being selfish. if you live with someone and you are in love, why would you want to take a solo vacation? I mean, I could see like a weekend, just to be alone, that would be ok, but a month? no way..sounds like somethin fishy is goin on there....
2006-08-24 07:40:20 · answer #9 · answered by spaceyinla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not right and are you sure he isn't seeing someone else on the side that might be taking this vaction with him? Tell him you want to go....... if he says no then tell him you won't be there when he gets back......... if he tells you to do what you have to as he walks out the door, then you have your answer and its time to move on and please............. repair your relationship with your sons........ No man is worth a quarrel between you and your children........ seriously....... get your priorities straight.
2006-08-24 07:00:04 · answer #10 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋