do i have the right to be mad?

Question

my boyfriend and i have been together for officially 6 months...i know all of his friends and hang out with them occassionally, but he does not know any of my friends...he hasnt met my parents yet, and i just recently invited him to my boss's birthday dinner, but he never wants to go..my close friend went into the hospital like a month ago and i asked him to go with me to visit her, but he wouldnt..his reason is because he is "shy" and he'll feel dumb just sitting around not knowing any of my friends...do i have the right to be mad at him? i always do, and i always end up giving him **** and saying "whatever..its not a big deal and i'll just have to keep reminding myself that i cant expect much from you since u never wanna do anything"

Answer 1

baby girl, this sounds like it starts to be a problem. if you want a healthy relationship, you need to talk to him about it. tell him that you're frustrated that he doesn't want be part of your life. if he keeps selling you "i'm shy" respond, then baby girl, it's time to tell him that this's not working out. let him know how serious you feel about it. and it's up to him to change a little bit in order to keep your relationship alive. we all have our comfort zone. he needs to break his. so, be upfront and don't back down.

Answer 2

K, ill break it down for you...
If he didn't want to take an active role in your life after:

1 month- it would be understandable
2 months- Hmmm, it could be allowed
3 months- Something doesn't seem so right
4 months- Damn, what's wrong with him
But 6 Months- AAaaaaah hell no

If you ask me, the being "shy" excuse is overused and abused and if my boy told me dat I would yawn, stretch, sit back and say...uhmmm, k next excuse?

To be quite fank it seems as if he's only interested in having you as his asset and shows no interest in playing a bigger role in your life.

So hell yes, by all means be mad but don't spend too much wasted time on staying that way
If it aint working girl move on and find a guy who gives a damn and can see a bit further than over the top of his own nose.

Peace, love and happiness
Playa

Answer 3

If he already knows how you feel about him not coming around or wanting to meet any of your friends or family then you need to decide whether or not this is the guy for you. Sometime it takes awhile for people to warm up to their partners family and friends and that is something that you need to take into concideration as well. However, it seems to me that he just has no interest in doing so ....I'd let him know exactly how you feel and make a choice to love him or leave him. You're feelings count too ya know!!

Answer 4

yes, you have a right to be mad. half of a relationship is how you socialize with the world around you as a couple. to be seen together, to be recognized as a couple when you are seen separately. socializing as a couple announces to the world that you are a couple, and everything that that implies. if he won't socialize, there's a reason. is this guy seeing someone else? is he ashamed to be seen in public with you? even shy people can be coaxed into meeting new people with the reassurance that you'll be there to pick up the slack. stay on his butt, girl, you deserve to be sported about. we all do.

Answer 5

i think that at this point in your relationship, he ought to be willing to accept mild discomfort for your sake. after all, all the times you've hung out with his friends don't count for nothing. he should be willing to meet your parents and friends, and be willing to go out and be with you, and in that respect, you definitely have the right to be frustrated, or even angry. however, the fact that you said what you said (the quote in the question) may be contributing to his resistance. if you keep saying that you don't expect him to, he's not going to do it. and the way that you word it is a little harsh, so he may be shying away for that reason. i suggest the next time you have an opportunity, id say, "would you please go with me to (such and such event) it would really mean a lot to me. I want you to be a bigger part of my life and so I want you to meet the people who make up the rest of it. They're all excited to meet you and are really anxious to know you. Please, please meet them for me, as a favor." he'll probably cave in, and once he's met everyone, it only gets easier to interact with them more. good luck!

Answer 6

I would have to say yes & no, it seems he may have some sort of anxiety or laziness, if he doesnt ever want to do anything? I would suggest just doing those things without asking him and when he asks, tell him he always says no, so you've stopped asking. he will either take the hint or hit the road! If you love him, talk to him, thats the best thing to do.

Answer 7

yes, i think you have the right to be MAD at your bf, cuz he's a fag. he should care & be more concern for your friends, family, & boss. if he doesn't show the love, i think he gotta go.. can you imagine that you're one of your friend, and he was with his gf & he doesn't want to know you? i think he's L*A*M*E or maybe he's just a chicken.. afraid to meet new strangers.. sorwie, if i said something mean that you don't want to hear.. i'm very honest & sometimes sincere too.. =)

Answer 8

He needs to make more of an effort if he wants to be with you. Sounds like he is taking you for granted.

Answer 9

well why should hang out with his friends and his family if he doesn't want to ever meet yours...ur relationship should go both ways

Answer 10

u could be slightly pissed. i mean it sounds like he's barely spending some time with with u. he's actinglike he doesn't care in my opinion. but other than that sounds like a good guy