my bf of 2 years just told me he cheated on me.. He said this girl I knew kissed him and he let it happen and it lasted four hours. And he was drunk which is no excuse. I am stuck I dont want to break up with him. I love him and this is the first time and he cried all day before he told me... And he has been completely honest with me about the whole situation. Then he left so he had time to think. He doesnt like cheaters and then he turned into one.
2006-08-24 06:44:22 · 18 answers · asked by donna_marie_curtis 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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THANK YOU
2006-08-24 07:38:54 · update #1
4 hours? He wasn't that drunk. It is possible that he has just now learned what he really wants in life and now that he has done the deed and felt the remorse, will refuse to put himself in that situation again. I know you really love him so the truth hurts but by personal experience I have to tell you honestly that yes, he probably will do it again. Maybe the feelings he had for that girl disappeared by morning and his love for you came flowing back, but if he blames it on the drinking and he drinks again when he isn't around you, then that would be like saying he will cheat again. Don't dump him just in case he is one in a million cases where they really wont do it again, as you know you will just take him back at least this one time anyway, even though maybe you should leave. Just do your part by remaining faithful, and hope he will make it up to you and prove himself to you. If he does cheat again, beat on him so bad (jk) just leave and cry it all out and start to heal. Take care
2006-08-24 07:02:12 · answer #1 · answered by ~blessss♫☼ ♪♥ ☼ ♠♫ ♣☺☻ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you think you are able to trust him again and he's not the type to cheat, then stay and work on your relationship. However, if you know that in the back of your mind you will always wonder if more went on or if he's at it again, leave him now. It will hurt for a while, but if you have good friends, something to do in your spare time, you will be fine in no time.
I had to leave my bf of 2 years back in May. I wasn't getting what I needed from the relationship. I decided it was time to go because I deserved better. I left and got it! My new man is exactly what I needed. He treats me very well. I've known him for three years and can trust him completely.
I hope everything goes well for you either way, but think hard and long about it all. Good luck.
2006-08-24 14:34:49 · answer #2 · answered by Hpnotiq 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a really hard situation.. it is good that he was honest and told you, but he still did it. and he let it happen, and even worse, it last for four hours!! im sorry hun, but i would get rid of him.. once a cheater, always a cheater... i know you love him, but maybe if you get rid of him for awhile he will realize what he had and change for the better.. i think you need to do something.
2006-08-24 13:49:35 · answer #3 · answered by BradsBaby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u truly love this guy & you were both planning on spending the rest of your life together, then give him a second chance.... But if u don't love him just like him Dump him fast because he might be playing u.... alot of guy's do this so they can get more booty. good luck girl, and he might have been drunk at the time, but if he truly loved u he would have never done this at all... maybe a kiss i could see that.. but not the wild thing.
2006-08-24 13:51:52 · answer #4 · answered by BIG BEN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OUCH! That hurts. My condolences. You've already answered your own question. If you love him then the answer is simple, you have to forgive and learn to trust him again, but remember trust is a valuable asset and must be earned and not freely given. One more thing, it seems as if he might have had the opportunity to go further but didn't. If you believe he is telling you the truth then that should count for something. Good luck, I hope things work out.
2006-08-24 13:52:51 · answer #5 · answered by Gookofhazzard 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and tell him how this makes you feel. He has broken your trust and now he needs to try to rebuilt it. You must first be very honest with your feelings...can you trust him again? If you can, then you can forgive him, if you can not, then it is time to consider moving on as much as that would hurt, you would still be able to be friends.
2006-08-24 13:49:03 · answer #6 · answered by sharonbearup 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i know you still want to be with him
you just have to play hard ball
4hours is a long time....are you sure they didn't do anything else?
after the first 1/2 hr, nothings happened? think about it
"CHEATERS NEVER PROSPER"
2006-08-24 13:50:18 · answer #7 · answered by soul.searcher 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well he was drunk which of course ur rite no excuse, but it alters a persons feelings and dicisions. and he was honest with u which tells u that he wants to put that behind and doesnt wna lie to u. it shows he cares and wants u to forgive him. so maybe he deserves a second chance.
2006-08-24 13:49:51 · answer #8 · answered by shorty 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know, we are all humans, but that does not mean you have to put up with it.
He is being honest, gotta give him that. The remorse will probably be more than he can handle.
2006-08-24 13:48:44 · answer #9 · answered by resiste_lfc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if he is a guy that doesn't normally cheat then forgive and forget and ask to watch his drinking. He shouldn't allow anything to influence him if he loves you
2006-08-24 13:56:05 · answer #10 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋