He also stated that he doesn't have much time to hang out or anything like that but before he told me that we were constanly together even if it was w./ his and mine friends. His name is Cole and i would do anything to get him back. Cole wants us to be just great friends right now but i don't want to accept that fact. Please tell me what should and can do about this. Thanks
2006-08-24 06:39:16 · 43 answers · asked by Kaula Bear 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
respect his feelings on this matter, he shouldnt have been with you anyway
2006-08-24 06:41:57 · answer #1 · answered by vanman8u 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does your parents approve of your b/f and age difference? If they do then your b/f has no worries. Right now there is a big gap in your ages. In 3 years you will be back on the same level. It could be your b/f wants to hang out with his own age group and not have to worry about some one that is under age. Keep the good friendship going. This gives you an opener to attend school dances, etc. with boys in your age group from your school. Who knows you might meet some one who has more in common with you to tide you over until you and your b/f are more compatible, or you might meet up with a special some one and you will blow off the idea of a romance with your current b/f who turned out to be your very best friend. Take it one day at a time and don't try to change destiny. What will be will be. LOL... during my early teen years there was a popular song titled, "What ever will be, Will be." My Mom used that phrase for me many many times before I reached the ripe old age of 18 ;-) Good luck with your journey of life sweetie.
2006-08-24 06:56:50 · answer #2 · answered by Vida 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby girl read in between the lines. He is trying to brush you off in a nice way by saying he has no time to hang with you. Let him go he is too old and it will only complicate matters.
He may be sweet and all but he has a understanding of what can go wrong if you both continue to date, and he respects you to some extent cause he does not want a problem to arrise so he is doing what he feels is right.
Let him go wait till you are of age if you wish and if he is still there it will work out for the better than you trying to have a relationship that could cause a lot of heartache for both of you.
2006-08-24 06:44:30 · answer #3 · answered by Shadow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like him, you would understand and respect his wishes because he probably saved himself from some serious potential trouble. Statutory rape, even though you consented, is still against the law - if you guys are doing it. Even if, it still doesn't look good.
When I was a sr. in high school, I always thought it was somehow wrong that guys in my class were dating freshmen girls. I kept reminding them that they were 14-15 years old. It's wrong and against the law if they were having sex.
Plus, your little bit on you two being constantly together, honestly, guys like to have a little bit of space or breathing room in a relationship and frankly, you should too. The fact that he's older than you already gives him a little edge in calling the shots in the relationship but you put the ball in his hands by not giving him enough space. When you suffocate a person you like, they kind of get sick of you. And it shows that you have nothing going on for yourself besides him. I'm not telling you to play games with guys but you shouldn't make guys the pinnacle of your life. Get a hobby, grab lunch or coffee with some girlfriends, play a sport... Do something besides sit at home and sulk about it. You can't MAKE someone like you again. I'd much rather be sad but know everything's going to be ok with time than to think that the only reason some guy likes me is because I pressured him to.
2006-08-24 06:51:56 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am soo sorry that you are hurting, but in the long run, he did the right thing. if you really care about him, try to understand that he was doing this because he could get in serious trouble. just try to remember that this doesnt take away the great times you did have together. just accept that he at least wants you to still be a part of his life and who knows, maybe when you turn 18 youll come back together. whats meant to be will always find a way.
2006-08-24 06:45:54 · answer #5 · answered by BradsBaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunny, you should never force a man to be with you. how many girls get themselves pregnant to keep their man and it never turns out the way they thought. you bf sounds like a smart guy. give him the space he wants.atleast he still wants to be friendly. I know it hurts, but think about it, what is a 18 year old guy need to be with a 15 year old for. thats just gross. guys that age are into on thing and on thing only. what man wants to go to jail over having sex with a minor. if that happened, you can hang up ever getting back together with him.just give it time. if it was meant to be,it will happen when he is ready. you just enjoy the friends you have. i hope you still have friends left, teen girls tend to stray away from their friends when they have a bf. girls spend so much time with the bf that friends sometimes get left on the wayside. sweetie, it will happen for you one day. God will send you who is meant to be yours and their will be no questions, no problems, no "he will get arrested". come on, you should have realized that that could be a problem.
2006-08-24 06:50:28 · answer #6 · answered by wifeofsickening 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read the sign ahead of you: COLE DOES NOT WANT YOU.
Whether Cole has found someone else to replace you remains to be seen, but honey, the truth is he doesn't want to be with you anymore. It's not only about your wanting him, he must want you, too. And, if he doesn't, you just have to accept that and move on.
You're still 15.....
Good Luck!
2006-08-24 06:43:50 · answer #7 · answered by blunt_yet_sharp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, honey, I am sorry you are sad. But he did the right thing. Wait until you are older.
He still wants you in his life, so I would appreciate his committment to wanting the best for you, and be his friend. In time (when you are 18) it could be better for you, and look - you would have spent 3 years building a great foundation of friendship.
Good luck!
2006-08-24 06:40:57 · answer #8 · answered by Leah 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but you need to respect his decision, no matter how genuine your feelings, and the severity of your pain. Really, you don't have the right to expect him to risk ruining his life. Try for him later. If he's involved with someone then, it might not have been meant to be. But, if you want to try, that's your business. It's the business of propriety, perhaps the law, depending on where you live, right now, but, when you're of age, there's no law against asking him to consider you over whomever he might be with. It's not really appropriate in most cases, but it's not a legal matter, and is far less improper.
2006-08-24 06:44:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK you don't need to win him back, He is right why get into trouble, you are only 15. One wrong thing to you will put his butt in jail. Just be friends with him and understand his point. You got to accept this fact.
2006-08-24 06:42:43 · answer #10 · answered by BabyGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn 18
2006-08-24 06:44:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋