What should I do when my boyfriend always accidentally piss on me during sex?

Question

Well he's my new boyfriend and I really like him. Unfortunately, I noticed that twice taht we had sex there was a pee on the bed. The first time it happened he said it was me, that i was squirting. I don't think so as I didn't feel anything at all. The second time it happened, I know for sure that he peed on me that is why the bed is so wet. Still, he denies it and tells me it was me. What should I do as I really like him but I don't want to get peed again. Is there something wrong with him? What should I tell him?

Answer 1

kick him in the nads!

Answer 2

It sounds like he has a bladder problem:

"Some survey respondents confessed that their partner discovered their (bladder) condition because he/she had a wetting accident during sex. Many also said that they limit their activities or take steps to minimize the chance of having an accident while being intimate."

http://www.drdonnica.com/press/00003548.htm

I'll give you a link to more information:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Urinary_incontinence

This condition - if that's what your boyfriend has - is definitely treatable. But because it's seen as being an embarrassing thing that only little kids do (not at all true), it can be extremely hard for someone with this problem to admit it or seek help. Now, this doesn't mean it's what your boyfriend has - the only way to know is by talking to him!

I suggesting you keep these tips in mind, they've helped me discussing sensitive issues like this:

1. "Not a Big Deal" Tone of Voice

The key is not making it seem like a big deal. Being nonchalant means looking unemotional and unfazed, like you're talking about what to have for dinner. Don't say it as though it's an embarrassing thing, don't hesitate or use a different voice than normal - don't even try to make eye contact that you normally wouldn't. You may want to wait until you're both alone, but still occupied - for example, you're both alone in a kitchen and you're putting dishes away. Then you can tell him casually without making it seem like big private "talk". You might want to practice talking about it normally into a mirror.

2. "Not a Big Deal" Language

You want to emphasize that this is common (it is!) and that you are not freaked out by it, or disgusted by him. That means saying something like, "You know, I was thinking you might have this thing called urinary incontinence that my cousin had..." Basically, explain what it is in very biological, scientific terms - and say "the", not "your". (For example, "It's when the bladder releases..." instead of "It's when you release your bladder...") Make sure you mention (whether it's true or not) some relative or friend of yours who had it, and mention that your friend just took some medication from his doctor and did some exercises and then it was fine. You've got to treat this problem like a common cold! Remember, don't ever describe the problem is being gross or weird or immature - only describe it as "common" and "no big deal".

3. Stick to Your Guns

He will, as you have experienced, try to squirm out of this one. If he doesn't look like he's paying attention or taking you seriously, let him know that you have a pretty good understanding of your body and you'd know if you "squirted" as that's a big reaction (and a woman can definitely feel it). Emphasize that there's no harm in seeing a doctor anyway, just to see if everything's working normally, even if he doesn't think that's what it is. (Getting him to be honest at the doctor's appointment is a whole other ballgame.) Finally, as a last resort, tell him you just won't feel comfortable having sex with him until he sees a doctor about it. You can make things easier by also seeing a doctor, and making it a couple's thing instead of just him.

Chances are, if its urinary incontinence, he would have known already (even without seeing a doctor) and would feel ashamed and humiliated about it. Go easy but firm, and I wish you luck!

Answer 3

Well, reguardless of who is peeing in the bed, you both should pee before and after sex to make sure that you won't go during it, and to also make sure that you both don't get infections. It isn't as easy for a guy to pee during sex because during sex, men have a muscle that usually prevents urination because at the time, urination isn't what is going on, it is the passing of sperm. Women don't have that security blanket that men have during sex. Talk to him about it, and pee before sex. I hope that answers your Q.

Answer 4

that's sick.
sorry for your luck.
too bad you didn't know before the romping sessions.
get him some pull-ups!
just imagine what his bed looks/smells like.
what's it gonna be like when he's 30,40,50? wet!!
i guess some girls like the kinky sex?
tell him to keep the condomn on till he's ALL the way done!
if he's blaming you, what else would he deny?
good luck.
if it was me, i'd be done with that one.
what an insult, to pee on someone. or even next to them.

Answer 5

Make sure he pees before he gets in bed with you. If it is still a problem insist that he see a doctor about the problem before he touches you again.

How in the world can you get that pee smell out of the mattress?

Answer 6

If u make him wear a hat he will just make piss balloons!!!! If that dosent work cut a hole in the crotch of a wet suit and after he can pee all over you!!!

Answer 7

tell him the 1st thing that comes 2 mind cuz he's lying on u about being wet and u know it's not u u need 2 put his *** n check

Answer 8

Well maybe he does have a problem, just tell him whatever it is you are uncomfortable with it and you think he may need to see a doctor about this and you are letting him know because you love him.

Answer 9

actually, he may need to seek out the help of a urologist. it's probably a bladder dysfunction which loosens the urinary sphincter in the bladder during ejaculation. (if you think he's just being funky-kink, then just accidentally crap on his chest when he goes to sleep. that'll fix him). heehee. but really, he needs to see a doc, urine inside your vagina is a bad thing-wastes present in urine include urea(strong alkiline) carbon (think burnt wood)some fatty acids and other wastes which are absolute treachery to the delicate balance of your inner Ph. you don't want this-get him to a doc.

Answer 10

Considering the fact that he cums out of the same hole that he pisses out of, he may just need to go to the bathroom before you guys do anything to empty it out. To make it less embarrassing for him, go to the bathroom first and have him follow suit. He's not proud of the fact so try not to point it out - Handle it casually.

Answer 11

LOL, that doesn't sound accidental to me. Next time he does it, reach down and put a good squeeze on his johnson! That will get his attention real quick.