ive been seeing this woman for 2 weeks, we connected so much so quick. if feels so right to continue to spend time with each other to get to know her. shes giving me the same signals, but all of a sudden she got scared and wants to take a step back. is it because im treating her too good? she really has me confused!
what should i do?
2006-08-24 06:16:12 · 41 answers · asked by cakers41 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im going through almost the exact same thing but i've been with this girl for the better part of 3 years. she has kids and been through hell with past relationships and 1 marrage. Time and time again i've shown her im not like the other guys she been with. just rencently she suddenly doesnt want to talk to me, instant message me, or even be in the same room with me. i can't figure out what i did to cause this to happen, and i can't talk to her so i cant find out what is wrong. I hate to say this but i've been through a lot of heart-ach trying my best to salavege at least friendship, dont waste your life trying to to get her to see what she wants is right in front of her. Count your loses and move on.
2006-08-24 06:54:30 · answer #1 · answered by jeht_black1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Falling in love can be a scary thing...Especially if you've been hurt before. You have to understand that we never go into relationships KNOWING our guy is going to end up being a jerk, cheating on us, or being abusive...They all start out like Prince Charmings. She's probably going thru the 'Too Good To Be True' thought process in her mind and doesn't want to get burned. For now I would respect her wishes, but continue treating her the way you are and subtly let her know that it's not going to change. Good luck!
2006-08-24 06:20:24 · answer #2 · answered by Brea1243 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 41 and always been attracted to men that treat me bad. Why? Good question. The only thing I have come up with is "the diamond in the rough" syndrome. To be honest, women are attracted to men that aren't good enough in order to turn them into what is close to perfect, sad but true. From personal experience, I meet men that I'm physically attracted to but that's all, and I've tried to make them change into what society says is acceptable, doesn't work. I have just recently met a man that is not my type at all as far as looks go but in every other aspect is very close to perfect, think I've grown up enough to make this more of a priority.
2006-08-24 06:25:46 · answer #3 · answered by milkshakes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We get scared because we are always told that if its too good to be true than it probably is. Its scary because we dont know if your being this good now but then all of a sudden you turn into some freak you know. I knwo it sound complicated. Just contiue to show your true side, and if its ment to happen it will, just give her space. But not too much. You dont want her to think you are stocking her or anything.
2006-08-24 06:21:23 · answer #4 · answered by JOJO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, yet i do not comprehend any lady that needs this form of medical care!! they might sense stuck in a relationship or lengthy gone through plenty, yet that would not advise it truly is what they needed!! women persons that are abused bodily & mentally are fairly SCREWED UP!!! throughout and after the relationship is over!! believe me it isn't through decision that those thoughts are There!!! in case you discover someone you fairly like, you'll basically should be a higher individual to seem over her flaws as we are no longer all perfect!!!
2016-11-27 19:12:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, don't take it personal. EVERY woman has been picked up, just to be dropped back down flat on her[ in love] *** with no cushion!!!! It's not you, but the heart is cautious when it's been hurt. If you really like her just give her some time. Don't stop being who you are, just stay consistent and in time she will see that you really are a good guy ( I hope) lol
2006-08-24 06:23:46 · answer #6 · answered by mommy_2_b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that... it could also be that it's just moving very fast. Keep in mind that the level of intimacy you're talking about should develop over a few months, not a couple of weeks. Also, falling in love in and of itself can be very, very scary. You're talking about the loss of the control of your heart. Even when it feels right, losing control is scary. If you really like her, just move at her pace. You may or may not decide to spend your whole lives together, but you have your whole lives to figure that out.
2006-08-24 06:18:48 · answer #7 · answered by Bitsie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her space, but let her know your there for her and you don't plan on leaving anytime soon. She was probably hurt bad by a guy and so it scaries her that you are there and wanting to be there for her. We do as women want to be treated good, but it is hard if we were treated bad in the past.
2006-08-24 06:22:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with her. Being a woman, I know that communication is the key. Ask how she feels about your connection. You never know, too, she could have just gotten out of a relationship that she thought was wonderful (as yours is) and she got hurt, bad. Be patient with her...just talk with her. Let her know that you can be trusted, and you have the responsibility to keep that trust. She's giving you her heart, respect that.
2006-08-24 06:20:51 · answer #9 · answered by texasgrants 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes women think theres a catch if everything is going so well. Like the guy is being too nice for a reason, not because he actually cares. Typically this happens to women who had a bad experience.
2006-08-24 06:18:33 · answer #10 · answered by buttcheeks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋