guest for the past eleven months now,...though we dated for three to four months that was when i told him about my past and that was when he withdraw from me,...after telling his co-worker about what i told him,..the co-worker also told him to be careful about me. i felt really bad then. am the kind of person that doesnt normally rush into a relationship. ever since then,...he keep sending one sms after the other,..that he still thinks about me,..that was like every one month or so,..he will sms me saying i still think of you. this is the same guy that use to tell me "you can date any guy if want",...and will also tell me at times you can also get to marry any guy if you want. but when i tell him in return,..."he is so mad at me". we were in a real distant relationship,...and he do also tell me then,.."you know am far from you,..so becareful the way you think of me",...but later he will be the one to be telling me he is still thinking of me",...that he cant get me out of his mind.
2006-08-24 06:11:29 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
WTF are U trying 2 say?!
2006-08-24 06:13:19 · answer #1 · answered by Ms Pepsi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy has issues. he doesn't know how to deal with the emotions he feels. on the one hand he can't get you out of his mind. on the other hand he is afraid that he is out of control because he likes you so much. and on the other hand he is not comfortable with who you have revealed yourself to be (which means that he is somehow not comfortable with himself).
if you care about him and you are interested then what you should do is ask him what you can do to bring you closer together or what will make things work.
he may have an answer for you. but be careful that you don't become a target for his anger, his insecurity, and his anxiety. make sure he understands what is important to you for things to work. since he has developed such a complex over you from such a distance the guy may needs some work in the realism department. he will definitely find the reality of you very different from the fantasy of you.
if you take steps and make it clear that you are willing to interact with him and he still wants to step back then just leave him alone, since he's not ready to get close to someone.
most importantly, you need to let him know that you are who you are, you can't change the past, and he needs to accept you instead of pulling away from you.
this is a complicated situation and I recommend you be careful not to hurt him and not to get hurt yourself. but I hope you can resolve this issue in a way that satisfies everyone.
2006-08-24 06:26:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOUR MESSAGE WAS HARD TO READ.
IT SEEMS LIKE YOU ARE ATTRACTED TO HIM.
It might seem to you hes giving you some hope.And I have an idea thats want you want to hear, actually he is "stringing you along" That means... I will keep giving you hope until I find someone better" if I dont find someone better you will be ok to sleep with, provided you use protection and you leave as soon as we're done.
A woman knows her own mind.And you know yours.
anything permanant here ??????...... Heed his own warning be careful what you think of me .....tell him he's a jerk and get it over with.
PS ever hear of white slavery ??
Find someone in your own neighborhood
2006-08-24 07:18:22 · answer #3 · answered by to tell ya the truth........... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, he is still maintaining contact with you. He also wants some sorta of assuarnce. I dont know what kind of assurance taht could be.
I have a crazy idea, why dont you just ask him what he wants.
2006-08-24 06:16:18 · answer #4 · answered by dionne m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whhaatt?
2006-08-24 06:15:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tel him2lose ur namba,or u wil have him arrested..if u stil want him den go get him..
2006-08-24 06:16:03 · answer #6 · answered by nkedama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes nuts
2006-08-24 06:14:00 · answer #7 · answered by Mommyof3 BGB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on. seems like he is trying to, so you should do the same.
2006-08-24 06:14:15 · answer #8 · answered by babygirl31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ignore him
2006-08-24 06:13:29 · answer #9 · answered by dannym7500 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is sweet if he is thinking of you
2006-08-24 06:16:27 · answer #10 · answered by itsme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is the question?
2006-08-24 06:14:14 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋