Talking dirty during sex ... advice?

Question

How can I get into doing this during sex?

My partner always talks dirty during sex, which I have no problems with however he's commented a few times that I don't say anything myself.

I know he would like it if I reciprocated and I would like to as well but no matter what I always chicken out. It's like I don't know what to say and the thought of saying something makes me feel a little awkward or something. I guess I don't want to sound silly and ruin the moment.

I know it's all in my head and I'm just not letting myself go completely when we're doing it.

Suggestions anyone?

Moaning and groaning isn't a problem for me, I do that all the time!

I'm more of a moaner/groaner whereas he's the dirty talker.

Answer 1

watch a porno

get into character

Answer 2

I have that same problem but my husband and compromised a bit. He isn't good at talking dirty, to me, in emails and instant messages but I am. I am not any good at talking dirty, to him, when we are having sex but he is.
So when we can't be together, I send out stuff for him to read and it turns him on during the working hours, and at night when we have sex and he talks dirty.
Of course, the alternative is to ask him what he wants to hear you say. you both can practice saying it [without sex] and see how it sounds.
More than anything just relax when and say what you feel. When you're in the throes of passion it's all good.
I don't know about you but the thing I find silly is the expression on my husband's face when we have sex. that is way funnier than talking dirty. Sometimes it's hard not to giggle. Next time you are together sneak a peak. It will relax you and take your mind off your troubles.

Answer 3

Gee, I don't have any advice to give but I can say I know the feeling. My husband is always on me to talk to him but like you said, I just feel awkward and not sure of what to say.
I've tried opening up a little bit and I think it helps to watch the dirty movies too. Them girls can definitely give you some ideas. But Don't feel that you are alone. There's more of us out there that are at a loss for words than there is talkers.

Answer 4

Just start out with some moans and groans and just look in to his eyes and say what you're feeling. I mean, he's not going to laugh or anything. It will probably make him get off faster. Just let go, don't be worried!

Answer 5

Yes, I tend to get wrapped up in what I'm doing and don't realize I'm being quiet while she's making all the noise. I just try to express to her what I'm feeling, so she'll know exactly what I like.

Answer 6

First, RELAX...yeah I know, easy to say, hard to do..but you have an advantage ..you already know how hes going to respond to your dirty mouth...he will love it!
So go ahead, say those things you're already thinking about ..It doesn't have to be filthy,,,just go with the flow..how much you like what he's doing and how good it feels when he puts his_________ in your_________, and how much you look forward to doing it with him again and again..now here's the secret..SAY IT OUT LOUD! instead of these hot thoughts running around in your mind, just speak them..or better whisper them into his ear..at least till his groans and heavy breathing lets you know you've found his favorite,,,,then moan it baby...let him know his response is getting to you..and give it back to him!
In no time you will be doing the nasty talk without any hesitation!

Have fun babe

Answer 7

YOU EITHER DON'T KNOW WHAT TO SAY OR YOU HAVE A HANGUP ABOUT SAYING IT.
IF YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT TO SAY, TRY READING SOME EROTIC SOTRIES ONLINE AT THE NIFTY ARCHIVE.
IF YOU ARE JUST EMBARRASSED, THEN USE CELL PHONES. THAT WAY YOU WON'T HAVE TO ACTUALLY FACE HIM OR SEE HIM....UNTIL YOU GET INTO THE BEDROOM. FEEL FREE TO KEEP CHATTING ON THE PHONE EVEN WHILE IN THE SAME ROOM.
START BY HAVING NAUGHTY CONVERSATIONS ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT TO DO TO HIM, OR WHAT YOU WANT HIM TO DO TO YOU. USE ONLY WORDS THAT YOU ARE COMFORTABLE SAYING, AT FIRST.
DO THAT AND YOU WILL SOON BECOME MORE COMFORTABLE WITH TALKING NAUGHTY.
YOU WILL BE MORE COMFORTABLE WITH CERTAIN WORDS, AND COMFORTABLE ENOUGH TO GRAPHICALLY DESCRIBE THINGS AND HOW THEY MAKE YOU FEEL.
OR, YOU COULD START WRITING STORIES IN EMAILS. LEAVE THEM UNFINISHED AND LET HIM ADD ON TO THEM. PASS THEM BACK AND FORTH TO KEEP ADDING TO. CLOSE EACH PART WITH A "......YOUR TURN!"

Answer 8

ok Im a good guy but but I love talkin dirty 2 my girlfriend and she Loves it!! But she also doesnt say anything back and I've asked her before"Baby don't worry about it just say anything" well she just thinks just like u said that she can mess things up and kill the mood. But it's not gonna kill anything. I think that if im askin for u to talk dirty to me. that i know your gonna have your growing pains so its not gonna bother me if u say something that is a lil ackward. just relax just go along with what he says kinda just use variations of what he says or change what he says to you around where u can use it for you.

Answer 9

say whta you're feeling. You don't have to think hard. Just let out anything and don't be afraid to sound stupid. When you're in the mood it doesn't matter.

Answer 10

GO FOR IT I HAD THE SAME PROBLEM. but as some of the others said dont think too hard let whatever u feel come out of ur mouth it may not start of as recognisable words ....if u do it and u enjoy it continue but if u keep on doing it and u dont feel anymore comfortable.. then stop and stick with moans. either way try to have fun.

Answer 11

No need to talk. Just be a bit noisy...
a lot of moans, and screams, and "oh my god thats awesome" and "harder, faster", and "oh yeah baby... like that"
is perfect.
You don't need an imagination or super dirty talk to turn him more.
Just relax and have fun!