I have been talking to this guy in the navy for about 4 months and it is getting serious. I really like this guy and I think he likes me even though he tries to not say it over the phone. the distances part is 1500 miles and we have never met, but was set up by a good friend and i trust her judgement. It is getting hard because we can't touch each other. But I can see myself in the future with this guy and I have a feeling so can he, because he said that in his past relationships he never really talked a lot to his girlfriends. I need some guardance here
2006-08-24 06:03:16 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I met my husband on the internet when i was 16 ...he was from canada and i was from the united states (ohio) We met over a spring break (he drove to see me 5 hrs away) and we fell in love before we even met and guess what...the long distance actually made us stronger...gave us the chance to get to know each other minus the looks... and really gave us a deep understanding of each other...I kept a journal and wrote to him in it everyday before he met me and then we met i gave it to him and each time we would go back and forth to visit we would switch...Now i have a great memory of my first and true love.. and it was great reading what each other had to say when we were apart.. Im 25 now and we are still together.. married with a daughter and our relationship is great! I hope you guys meet and have a happy ending... True love is worth waiting for =)
2006-08-24 06:09:22 · answer #1 · answered by kcsgurl04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it up and find a local man. The fact that you have never met, nor have ever been in the same room together, much less the same state, is just a set up for disaster.
You don't really know someone until you spend some time with them and see how they are around other people.
Maybe he is for you, and if he is then when he gets out, and if he truly cares about you, he will come out to see you and perhaps move to your area. Or better yet ask you to move with him.
Don't waste your time and perhaps lose the chance at meeting someone local that may be Mr. Right, because your stuck on some guy that is miles away and have no idea what he is doing. You have never met! flag alert!
I get quite annoyed at women that get involved with guys overseas or even in other states, when there are perfectly good men locally that are willing to treat them like queens.
its your call, but dont stop living for someone you are not even sure is as into you as you are him.
For those of you that says it works, thats only because you may have built a foundation first. They haven't even MET. Hellooo?! Plus it sounds like this girl is just at the beginning of her adult life, so please don't just throw away your future just yet.
2006-08-24 06:12:49 · answer #2 · answered by Nord_wulf 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Weslyn
Dont expect too much.But you can make things fun for you both iming and e-mailing. If you are only emailing I suggest a phone call because
If he didn't talk to his girlfriends before....you can see he is better at writing his feelings than verbal expression.
When you see him in person and he clams up ...you WILL wonder what the heck his problem is....lol keep this in mind
I would like you to notice the Freudian slip you used....I assume you meant guidance....but you are right to be on guard!!
I need to mention I met my guy on line and I move to another part of the state to be with him. 2 years later ,We are buying a house together and are waiting for the inspection as we speak.Things CAN work but you both have to give up alot.
Good luck hon!!
2006-08-24 06:33:52 · answer #3 · answered by to tell ya the truth........... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance never work trust me from experiance. There is always a trust issue. Plus military guys are a different breed, they are very sly. Watch him, and watch yourself, try not to get hurt, cause thats how it always ends.
2006-08-24 06:07:10 · answer #4 · answered by Mike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not talk to the guy? Afterall, he's serving his country and you might be only link to home. I wouldn't make big plans for "love" or anything major until you meet him face to face. Guys in the heat of battle might be totally different when he gets home. But, who knows? It might be worth the wait. Be his friend for now and meet him when he comes home and show appreciation for his willingness to defend the good old USA. Good Luck!
2006-08-24 06:06:44 · answer #5 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go see him, but i would say that long distance relationships are good for like a year. at that point you REALLY have to meet the person.
2006-08-24 06:06:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my five year marriage started from 6 states away. If it feels right it probably is. Give it your best shot and you never know, stranger things have happend. Its a great story for the grandkids too!
2006-08-24 06:07:17 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they don't work out. i mean i was dating a guy from pa n it was just to hard cuz u could never see eachother. then it s hard to trust the person cuz there so far away n they could cheat.
2006-08-24 06:09:00 · answer #8 · answered by babyboo13032 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only if you make it possible. its gonna be tuff since he's in the navy you gotta be prepared for the long lonely nights. a lot of times its worth the wait. be patient. everything will fall in place.
good luck!!
2006-08-24 06:08:33 · answer #9 · answered by soul.searcher 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that's how I meet my fiance...so I say go for it......what have you got to loose...our relationship was 3000 miles apart.....so you got it right it can and does work.......
2006-08-24 06:07:51 · answer #10 · answered by Twiggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋