Ok my husband and I have been married for almost 8 years. He's 28 and I'm 24. I'm 100% sure hes not cheating on me cause he comes home right after work, never goes out, and I see his paycheck. He doesn't wanna have sex that often, and he loves porn and masturbating. I've asked him why and he never answers just clams up. And i've asked him if its me, and of course he says its not. I've given him oppertunities to leave if it was me. he says he loves me and wants to be with me. what do i do. i need help. i'm a very sexual person. i want it at LEAST everyother day. hmmm...oh and i'm always up for new things with him.. PLEASE THIS IS VERY SERIOUS. NO JOKES PLEASE.
2006-08-24 05:49:53 · 18 answers · asked by Crystal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
join him in watching porn and maybe that will give him some ideas, he's got to get horny from watching them, right?
2006-08-24 05:53:19 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried to communicate with him about what he likes about the porn? Put it on while you have sex or even ( if your comfortable with it) get another girl to join. If he has a healthy sexual drive then all you have to do is tune into what he likes and do it. You could do the masturbating for him as the movie is on and make it lead to more through oral sex. I think he just likes new things and if you apply your self you can receive the affection that you are seeking. Have you ever been to a sex party? My wife went and came back with some simple toys that we have alot of fun with! Be creative and tell him you can be as nasty as any of those girls in those porn! Masturbating in front of him may be a good starter as well, and toys cant hurt. if you like e-mail me and maybe I can figure out what he is seeing in the porn. Like, what kind of porn is it? Also what is your sex like? Do you talk during sex? Have you ever asked him if he wanted to try something different? If so what have you recommended? How does your typical sex start up? Do you come on to him or him to you? Ever tried sexy panties?
I think I can help you from a guys point of view. No jokes, seriously.
2006-08-24 13:15:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is 29 and he went through a time similar to this...I have too actually...everybody does to some degree. Just try to be supportive and understanding. If you know he's not "stepping out" then I wouldn't worry too much. It's normal for people to go through phases like that. It could be stress from work, or stress from anything really...do you guys argue a lot? Just give it some time. If there's nothing "physically" wrong with him, chances are, he will eventually "snap out of it." You could try to talk to him about health related issues. Not to scare you or anything, but he is getting to the age where he needs to be concerned about prostate problems and getting yearly checkups. His lack of libido could be a hundred different medical problems...some minor, some major!
2006-08-24 12:56:35 · answer #3 · answered by mjboog2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he is into porn and masturbation, try having him sit and watch you masturbate. Dont allow him to touch you, but encourage him to do the same. Be sexy about it, set up a room with candles, lay in bed facing him, and get into it with noises and motions. If that works, after awhile, he wont be able to resist having sex with you. If it doesnt work, call me. Good luck!
2006-08-24 13:00:39 · answer #4 · answered by startnover2day 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will he let you watch too?
You have to try doing some new things!
For one thing he has to get to know the true sexual being that you are and in order for him to understand You ARE GOING TO HAVE TO F**K HIS BRAINS OUT!
If that doesn't work then you should stop asking all of us here on yahoo answers and go ask a therapist!
2006-08-24 13:35:22 · answer #5 · answered by Bunnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok you're sure he's not impotent? (flaccid, unable to maintain an erection)
if you are craving sexual activity that much you should just masturbate because i've heard sex (for women) isn't anything you can't do yourself, as you do not always reach climax
you should really talk to him about it because if you have been married that long it really shouldn't be much of an issue to talk about your sex life
there are sex therapists and relationship counselors as well if that does not help
2006-08-24 12:57:11 · answer #6 · answered by adamzan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okie if he like masturbating and porn movies just leave him. u move on in ur life tell him how u feels about this and go out find a guy for ur slef.
2006-08-24 12:58:15 · answer #7 · answered by jaishankar4202002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered seeing a marriage councelor? Seriously.
Earlier is better than later.
he may feel very close to you but is not physically attracted to you for several reasons... mental block, perhaps. But seriously this is a question for a marriage councelor not Yahoo answers.
2006-08-24 12:56:24 · answer #8 · answered by lucky_777sevens 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either he has a low sex drive or he feels hes not big enough to satisfy you. seeing how he like to masterbate, try masterbating in front of him and see if that turns him on. if not he might want to go see a dr. theres all sorts of meds they have now that can help with his problem. dont give up. just keep trying new things.
2006-08-24 12:57:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men find masturbating better than sex, granted they are a small percentage. Get your husband to talk to you, tell him you would like it more often they you get it. Talk it out.
2006-08-24 12:53:53 · answer #10 · answered by Becky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of your responses was close...next time he's watching porn, join him! If he starts to masturbate, you can try to replace his hand with yours, or you could even go down on him while he's watching. If he is too embrassed to masturbate, you start doing it to yourself, and then ask him to finish you off! Then try to get him to more after that....
2006-08-24 13:01:50 · answer #11 · answered by mrron_1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋