i got by ok. had a cry but stood strong for my mum. rest of the family blame her which is wrong. hard listening to all their bull when they never visited but least i was there for my mum. thank u all so very very much u who replied earlier with ur words of encouragement. many many thanks
2006-08-24 05:48:00 · 23 answers · asked by Barson 6 in Health ➔ Mental Health
your really all brilliantthank u each and everyone
2006-08-24 05:58:25 · update #1
ramsbottom wot was that u prick
YES IT WORKS BUT THEN STATED TO LIVE AGAIN AND BANG eh?
2006-08-24 06:10:57 · update #2
Sometimes being there for another person is a way of handling our own grief and anger over the death of someone we loved. No matter what form of relationship we had with a person who is now passed, those feeling don't instantly vanish with the death of that person. It is normal to feel anger, sadness, desperation, regret and even relief. Our emotions and thoughts are ours to own, and what others think is not important. You are the one who has to live with your actions and feelings, no one else. If you know that you dealt with this the best way you know how, then don't let your family put doubts in your heart. I offer my most sincere condolences and wish you and your Mother all the best in the weeks to come, which will be a real trial. Shalom.
2006-08-24 05:55:40 · answer #1 · answered by julianna76301 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I lost my Dad 3 years ago. It still seems like it was last week to me. It is so difficult to loose a parent. You are a strong man to be there for your Mum. When I see a man cry - I cry because I know it is a genuine feeling of sadness. It shows that He is human and knows how to Care for someone. That is a real man to me. Cry when you need to - it helps us heal. Your Mum is lucky to have you with her in her time of need. You did good. Just take it one day at a time and you both will get through this. Take care and lots of love!
2006-08-24 13:21:08 · answer #2 · answered by LoveMyLife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For some reason - all the worst in people seems to come out at the time of high stress. Pay no attention to them. If they say something to you that you don't want to hear - tell them so - but be nice. People always have to have someone to blame for something.
Remember this, too! It's OK to cry. I lost my Dad in 1984 - and I still cry. It really does help.
I'm so very sorry for your loss. I know it doesn't seem like it now, but the passing of time will help heal.
2006-08-24 12:56:56 · answer #3 · answered by Blond Logic 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
so sorry to hear of your loss. And glad to hear you are a stand up individual looking out for your mother. Those who are giving you a gad time will have to deal with their feelings alone and that's is truly sad. An occasion such as a death in the family should bring ppl together but many times it drives them apart. May God bless you and your Mother. And time will make it less hurtful I lost my mother 2 yrs. ago Sept. 6 and it's still hard to take and deal w/ . May God give you strength .
2006-08-24 13:22:55 · answer #4 · answered by mjandmaria m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard, I know. My mom passed away a year ago. Don't try to be so strong you don't mourn, though. Your mom, I'm sure, would need to see some normal mourning behavior from you so she doesn't "worry" about you. If you don't cry at all in front of her, she may worry. I personally feel much more comfortable mourning in private, but you can't help but cry at a funeral. Especially when it's someone you love.
2006-08-24 12:56:07 · answer #5 · answered by boop 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can cry as much as you need . It doesn't make you weak it cleans your soul and its part of grieving.And you are great for standing by your mother . Remember he might not be in body but he is always in your heart and no one will ever be able to take that from you . I lost my Dad 9 yrs ago as well as two brothers yrs before him and they all 3 are still in my heart n my mind all this time
2006-08-24 13:14:48 · answer #6 · answered by peanut 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi hun im really glad it went ok .. i no funerals are hard . now just look after ur mum . take no notice of the rest of the family .. it will get better just give it time ... may ur dad rest in peice now may the lord be with him ... take care
2006-08-24 13:01:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad you got through it yourself ok.... All you can do is now is be strong for your mum, its not going to be easy and the next few weeks will be very tough, good luck babe x
2006-08-24 12:58:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to read your post i really do what your going through having lost my dad at 15 you need to let it all out otherwise it will fester and could well make you ill good luck
2006-08-24 13:00:23 · answer #9 · answered by NetNet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my condolences on your loss......my grandfather passed a month ago....I was there with my mom and kept thinking what will I do when my parents die....and nothings ever going to prepare me for it.....but we shall carry on, be strong and live the rest of our lives knowing that perhaps someday we will all be reunited in our greatest memories.....take care my friend and remember all the good times
2006-08-24 12:58:30 · answer #10 · answered by firestoneasetech 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋