I recently broke up with my boyfriend and I met a guy before that. I was with my bf for 6 and half years. I met this guy a few weeks ago. I have two kids (2 and 4) and my ex is their daddy. How long should I wait before moving on with the new guy? He is so nice. And, he has kids of his own. He loves my kids too. We have so much in common, and I want to start something, but what is the right amount of time to wait before moving on?
2006-08-24 05:36:02 · 12 answers · asked by Jessie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
when you are good and ready. there is no set time for moving on. if you are completely over your ex, have no left over feelings, then you are fine. i moved on in less then two weeks after i left my ex of 7 years. emotionally i had moved on before we had even broken up. so it's all about how you feel. the only person who will really be upset, is your ex. and that's only because he still has feelings for you. or maybe he's just a prick and doesn't want to see you happy. but you do what makes you happy!
2006-08-24 05:41:41 · answer #1 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really is no set time frame for this. You may have been with this guy for 6+ years but when did you emotionally leave him after the 4th or 5th year? It all depends. Follow your heart and you instincts. Some men like to prey on women they think are vulnerable. There's nothing wrong with just being friends for a while, get to know him. Most importantly don't rush into anything, the fact that you posted this question tells me that you are not 100% sure about the new guy in your life. Remember you got two little kids that are watching your every move.
2006-08-24 05:43:03 · answer #2 · answered by waterfunners 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean by "moving on"? If you mean relationship-wise, looks like you've already done that. If you mean, "move in with the new guy", that's a big mistake. The kids will think you're trying to replace their Dad. Lighten up for a while and see what happens. If he's such a nice guy, he'll understand that your kids come first.
2006-08-24 05:38:55 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel right about it then move on. There really not a set amount of time. Just as long as you are sure your over your ex you don't want to bring any extra baggage into a relationship.
2006-08-24 05:39:31 · answer #4 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know if you know the Lord my sister but I would encourage you not to enter into another "relationship" that is out of God's Will. Seek God's Will for your life. Your relationship with the children's father is salvagable if you both will submit to the Lord. Dont exchange one sin for another...no matter how "nice" the enemy makes this "new" guy appear.
2006-08-24 05:51:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful about jumping into relationships. Having things in common is not enough. Go slow ...
Good luck!
2006-08-24 05:43:44 · answer #6 · answered by Recreantess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are emotionally over your ex, go for it... just don't let the kids in on it for a good year...
2006-08-24 05:40:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your problems began when you had two kids with a man you weren't married to. You can't expect life to turn out rosey thereafter.
2006-08-24 05:39:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As soon as you roll off of her and leave the money on the dresser
2006-08-24 05:38:05 · answer #9 · answered by Cowherd, Jr. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it slow you'll know when things are headed in the right direction
2006-08-24 05:40:20 · answer #10 · answered by s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋