Last Monday I was making plans to hang out with friends, I was just finishing up a call as I walked to the dinner table. I was in the middle of saying, see you in an hour, when my dad started yelling at me about how "incredibly rude it is of me to bring a phone to the table." For record I had never taken my cell to the table before.
Then, the very next day, at dinner, he reached over to the main phone and started calling his parents. I said "That's way rude." He got really mad at me and said I had no right to say that and it was in no way rude.
The next night he decided he wanted to watch the news during dinner, while we all sat at the table. Who's wrong in this situation? Was it wrong of me to call him on what he just said I couldn't do? I'm the youngest of 4 and i'll be out of the house in a few years, should he still be acting like this towards me?
2006-08-24 05:16:04 · 19 answers · asked by hodagwriter 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hes just a control freak. Move out as soon as you can because its going to get worse before it gets better. Good luck!
2006-08-24 05:22:22 · answer #1 · answered by kermit 6 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Unfortunately, parents are often hypocritical and sometimes it is necessary. For example, if your parents smoke, they still don't want you to. Just respect your father and don't make an issue out of it. As long as he is paying for a roof over your head, he makes the rules. I'm sure he loves you and at least he is making time to eat dinner with you. Better than a lot of parents out there!
2006-08-24 05:19:03 · answer #2 · answered by Nunya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you paying for the house/ are you paying the phone, electric bills? As long as H'es you'r dad and you're still young enough where you have to live under his roof, you'd better start listening to him and quit popping attitudes. One day in the near future it'll be you in his position, Yes parents are often hypocritical, but so isn't everything,ie...religon, polotics. But he's the parent...you should just do what he says no matter how stupid it seems.
2006-08-24 05:22:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Parents always want what is best for their children. But they sometimes cannot make the best choices themselves and therefore do or say hypocritical things. The only way, in my opinion, to teach your child to "be a certain way" is to be that way as the parent. Example: if you don't want your children to cuss, you must not cuss. If you want to have "G rated" children, you must be a G rated parent. Parents must remember this: "Children watch examples better than they listen to sermons" - It's so true!
p.s. This is my nice way of saying you are right, your dad is being hypocritical. He is asking you to be one way but showing you that he is not gonna be that way. You know your dad best so maybe you want to just let it go 'til you are out of the house in a few years.
2006-08-24 05:24:04 · answer #4 · answered by Steph 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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In light of your specific example with marijuana, I would approach that as an age thing... I mean, is it hypocritical that its legal for an 18 year old to smoke, 21 year old to drink, but not a 15 year old? In many situations its not that the parent is saying the activity itself is bad, but that it is not appropriate for a child. I DO think there is a lack of openness as well. I think a lot of times parents just dont want their kids to make the same mistakes. But many parents dont want to talk about their mistakes and why they were mistakes to their kids. They just want to shove it under a rug and pretend it never happened. They assume that if their child knows they did it, that it gives the impression it wasnt wrong - and it will if you dont openly talk about *why* it was wrong and the consequences you faced.
2016-04-11 06:24:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Old Dad's probably been thru the wringer w/ your older siblings & is likely burned out dealing w/ the many issues & controversies teens present everyday. If you love yer Dad, try to respect him & the fact that the world is literally on his shoulders. He may be wrong in this case (I'm not saying 1 way or another here) but to have it thrown back in his face by some1 he's taking care of might cause him to lose his perspective & his temper. Life has a way of kicking yer @$$ & daily frustration boils hot frequently over nothing. I'd say cut him some slack & maybe during a quiet moment alone w/ him, gently broach the topic. You might be surprised to find out that he agrees w/ you but his day-to-day work life sometimes spills into his day-to-day family life. You'll find out yourself when it's your time to take care for the ones you love someday soon.
Be well~
2006-08-24 05:26:00 · answer #6 · answered by Dookiee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nobody's perfect.
Your dad is trying the best he can for you and him.
Yeah, call him if you have to, but you can do it in a joking manner - don't take it too seriously.
Lots of kids have much bigger problems with their parents. Some kids have no parents!! When he calls you tell him your not perfect either, and ask for a little tolerance.
One of the problems with all people is that they can become upset or angry about something, and then this affects the way they treat everybody. Your dad might appear angry with you, when really he is angry with something or someone else.
2006-08-24 05:26:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like a case of "do as I say, not as I do". Your father should teach by example. He should not call you rude, if he does the same thing. It is your mothers place to point it out (if your mom is in the picture) Talk to your mother and see if she will talk to your father. Don't go to her, calling him rude and a hypocrite or she will get on the defensive. Present your problem very calmly. Your mother should be able to point out his "error" in private. Parents don't like to have their "flaws" pointed out by their children, that is probably why he got so mad. Your dad was wrong, but it is his house. Good luck.
2006-08-24 05:40:30 · answer #8 · answered by mad_hat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, parents have a tendency to be hypocritical........but don't let something as small as this turn into something bigger.....I'm sure you are a good kid and your dad was probably upset about something and snapped at you......i'm almost certain that was it......Hang in there
2006-08-24 05:21:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
HELL NO... You should always call your parents on crap they tell you you cant do. My dad is always telling me NOT to have kids... He had 9 that we know of. I dont have any yet, but Im sure as hell not going to let him decide if I should have kids or not. (im 26 for the record) It sounds like he is under stress somewhere in his life... Id try and talk to him about it, when the two of you are NOT arguing.
2006-08-24 05:20:01 · answer #10 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A bit of "Do as I say not as I do". That was and still is BS. There's really nothing you can do about it, because your dad will get upset at you "talking back" to him. Best just to grin and bear it until your 18!
2006-08-24 05:18:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋