My son was sentenced to 120 days in County for failure to appear in Court 7 years ago. Now he is begging us to find $2000 to pay his fine so he can get out cause it is so terrible for him. I don't have and can't get that much money so he will most likely sit there for 120 days. I'd appreciate any info.
2006-08-24 05:05:23 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
All I know cause he is in Utah and I am in Texas, is that he had been picked up years ago for pot. He had 5 things against him but judge dropped all but the failure to appear. I have no idea how he was found now it could of been a traffic violation or just a suspicious cop. He never told me.
I do know that he can't hold a job or anything cause he doesn't want to. He'd rather live in a treehouse or sponge off someone else. he's not a mean person and would not hurt anyone but he is a self-centered selfish in a way kind of person. He has no responsibilities and wants none.
He would NOT pay me back any money. I would have to borrow the $2000 to get him out and I can't afford it now even if I could borrow the money. He is 29 years old and still wants to be a child. He says gettin him out is more important than our bills. But he is driving me nuts with phone calls that someone else is paying for cause my phones can't accept collect calls.
2006-08-24 06:31:09 · update #1
County jail in Salt Lake? To some of the places he could have ended up, or the places he may be headed, a cake walk. Failure to appear was a stupid decision! He should learn right now that there are consequences for stupid behavior. The question I wonder is, what was the offense he avoided going to court over? Let him see, in a small and minor way (SLC jail) what awaits him if he continues down the wrong path. Tough Love Mom or Dad!
2006-08-24 05:15:45 · answer #1 · answered by silverthorshammer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him sit there. If you give in, it shows him that he can continue to walk all over you (and others). Only accept the collect call if it is an emergency since it is someone else's phone line. He is a big boy, sometimes it hurts, but tough love is the strongest. Obviously he doesn't care that you would not be able to pay your bills if you were to get him out of jail! He is being selfish and self-centered, not thinking about the hardship it is going to put on you. Good luck.
2006-08-24 14:15:54 · answer #2 · answered by proud mom of 2 girls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you this hun, but Waaaaaaaaa....
Tough, your son failed to appear, and now he has to pay the price. Thats what he gets and thats what he deserves. I know as a mom you dont want any harm coming to your boy. But, he's an adult, and he has made his decisions in life that have led him to have to appear in court in the first place. I have 2 sisters who have been in and out of the state penal system for the last 15 years and I finally told one the last time she went to jail that she is no longer my sister, and I have not written, communicated or anything with her since, as far as I'm concerned she no longer exists. Its tough love, but they need to learn. 120 days is nothing. He is just wanting you to let him out so he can go back to doing things that he probably shouldnt be doing. Obviously he's been involved in some stuff that isnt exactly legal. And if he truly has reformed since then, then so what, 120 days is nothing. Personally I think you are leaving out more to the story than just that he got put in for 120 days for a failure to appear 7 years ago. He obvoulsy got pulled over or arrested for something else, it could of been for something as small as speeding, or something bigger, maybe he was picked up in raid. Eitherway, I say let him sit in the jail for 120 days and there. Maybe he'll learn a lesson. God bless...
2006-08-24 12:21:06 · answer #3 · answered by jeff the drunk 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not let him out. I had a family member once who could have been released for $100 and the family decided that letting him out would be a terrible mistake. He sat in jail for 10 months--a little over 300 days. The good news is that it saved his life. He's been out for 4 years and has a great life now. If we had bailed him out of the mess HE made, he never would have had the chance to start over.
Your son made this mess himself and needs to see that there are consequences to his actions.
2006-08-24 12:13:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well he is probably watching television, exercising, playing ball, eating healthy, going to bed early and waking up early. If he had a drug habit he is probably detoxing from that. Other than that he is probably learning a healthy respect for the law and perhaps for himself.
2006-08-24 12:22:08 · answer #5 · answered by Rob 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you cant pay dont play. Your son needs to sit there and learn. I bet he appears in court next time huh?
2006-08-24 12:11:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know & I've never been incarcerated, but I assume it is
the pitts.
Don't worry about things you can't change.
2006-08-24 12:12:31 · answer #7 · answered by anitababy.brainwash 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not supposed to be pleasant. Did you spoil him? Maybe now he'll learn.
2006-08-24 12:12:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough love dear
2006-08-24 12:07:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I di. Its tough.
2006-08-24 12:10:22 · answer #10 · answered by The Foosaaaah 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋