How do u do it?

Question

Girls, tell me how do you tell your boyfriend about your whole self?thing like you were raped, your background, your previous relationships?

Realy tell me how do u tell them ?

Answer 1

Overtime...I have alot of wounds still trying to heal...I would rather not go there.

But I can tell you that although things like that have happened, we still need to be able to open our hearts to someone that is willing to be with us. Do we really wanna be with them enough to let our guard down? I look for an understanding and tender caring heart. Not many people find that but when they do, it's precious...And he just deals with it. Past scenarios just mold someone into who they are now, better or worse case. I think it's fine to open up only when your ready to. I'm sure US WOMEN arent the only ones with past experiences that left a scar on our lives. So, as our own nature we need to be able to listen up as well. I admit I have a hard time doing it. But no one should rush a person when getting to know and understand them. Only time prevails....Why do you ask?

Answer 2

You have to be honest .. if they are bothered enough to ask then they will care about the answers .. it is FAR better for them to find out at the start than as a surprise from an old friend / or in the heat of an argument.

Of course you also have to consider whether you wish to share your private life 'before' them in that way ... if you dont you are quite within your rights to say no but be prepared for a backlash if they think you are 'hiding things' from them.

Answer 3

It takes time, it was hard telling my hubby (then boyfriend)everthing in my past. I have lots of things in my past that still hurt. I am lucky that he is a very sweet, understanding man and so lucky to have him in my life. Truth is, EVERYONE has skeletons in their closet, so your boyfriend probably has some fessing up to do himself.

Answer 4

I HAVE ALWAYS THOUGHT HONEST ISTHE ONLY WAY TO BUILD A REALATIONSHIP IF YOU CANT FACE HIM THAN WRITE HIM A LETTER AND TELL HIM THAT YOU THINK ENOUGH OF HIM TO TELL HIM THE WHOLE STORY OF YOUR PAST AND HOW YOU SERVIVED IT TELL HIM HOW HE MAKES A POSITIVE DIFFERNTS IN YOUR LIFE AND MAKE SURE U TELL HIM ALL THINGS ARE IN THE PAST YOU NEED TO REMEMBER THAT TOO AND TRY TO MOVE ON AND HAVE A HAPPIER LIFE GOD BLESS

Answer 5

It depends on how serius you are. If you think that this has a future you should tell him these things. If he can't accept them then you don't need him.

Answer 6

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