my mother had a baby 12 days ago. she's 36, i'm 20 and i am the eldest of 6.
2006-08-24 04:43:13 · 21 answers · asked by Jessica G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
it was crack that i found. i wsnt looking in her room to be nosey, i was looking for PJ's for bed
2006-08-24 04:50:45 · update #1
The same thing happened to me. First off, what kind, then I can help you figure out what to say.
That could have hurt the baby very bad. Try to get her alone, and if your father is around talk to him too, Say what you where doing in her room and tell her you are worried about something. If she has brought you up saying to not do drugs bring that up too. Tell her what you found and ask her about it. It will be hard, but there is a very small baby involved. If she gets mad, do not worry, my mother was p'ed too. I only found pot and speed, but it still worried me, then come to find out she does more and for a VERY long time. More than ten years. I am 20 too, but my mother is older than yours. just talk to her alone, and make her listen, find out if she was doing it during pregnancy would be the first step, but make sure it isn't your fathers or her boyfriends, make sure it is hers. But it is very important to find out if she was doing it during pregnancy, if she was, take the baby to the doctor and tell him/her about what you found out. They can not tell the cops, so she will be safe. But just make sure she listens and try to get her to stop, if she is breastfeeding, she definitely needs to stop. I hope you have luck with this. Here is my email if you need anything else, or if you need someone to talk to, gin_jackson@yahoo.com.
2006-08-24 04:45:52 · answer #1 · answered by gin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a serious problem here. First, why was you in her bedroom for? You said that you have a husband, so that is why I was wondering what you were doing in her room even if you live with her! Plus the fact that you yourself have a record.I know that people do make mistakes and I am not downing you by no means. Yes, your mom does need help, that is for sure.What really surprises me is the fact that if she is using drugs, why did it not show up on the baby when she had it. If it had showed up, they would have taken the baby away from her after she had it. And what your saying about the age of you and her, she was 16 when she had you.
2006-08-24 11:56:31 · answer #2 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What type of drugs were they? If it was Percocet, Tylenol with Codeine, Darvocet or the like, they were probably prescribed for your mother after delivery.
If it was MJ, cocaine, or the like, I guess I would ask her about it. If she denies that she has/uses them, then I would talk to your father, an aunt, some family member you can trust.
If she is using illicit drugs, she is putting the baby at risk.
AND it she is breast feeding, the drugs are passing through to the baby. Babies can become addicted, and watching a baby go through withdrawl is one of the most heartbreaking things I've ever seen.
Tell someone, you have to advocate for your younger siblings. It's a heavy burden for someone so young, but they need you.
Good luck, and I'll be praying for you and your family.
2006-08-24 11:54:00 · answer #3 · answered by kids and cats 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what kind...I would start off by talking to your mom about it! Just tell her you accidentally found something in her room and you want to talk to her about it, just as she would if she found it in your room...If you tell someone the baby and all the kids will be jeopardized and taken away. If it is only weed, it's not that big of a deal and not worth splitting the family up over. If it's crack, meth or something like that then yes there is a problem!
2006-08-24 11:52:41 · answer #4 · answered by Workinmamma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why were you snooping? Rx drugs or illicit? Has her behavior changed? Is she likely to harm you or any of your siblings? How would you want to be approached if roles were reversed? Any of you six kids helping her out with house work? Cooking? Washing? Yes, she has a responsibility to you and your brothers and sisters, but try a little kindness and give her a day off once and a while.
2006-08-24 11:53:20 · answer #5 · answered by smecky809042003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mother about it.If its not a major drug problem keep it in your family. Mention it to a relative if your mother does'nt respond to your satisfaction. You did not say what kind of drug it was & why you were in your mothers room in the first place.Nobody likes a snoop or a rat.I'm sure if the shoe was on the other foot you would want your mother to respond in the same fashion.
2006-08-24 12:00:50 · answer #6 · answered by guvner_46 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not just confront her you said you are 20 and it seems to me if you are concerned about your sibling you are old enough to care for them in the interim.....is it possible the drugs are not hers? Get all your facts before proceeding and then go with Gin's suggestion but you are an adult and need to take some resposibilty for the younger kids
2006-08-24 11:51:09 · answer #7 · answered by leoan_rasan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what kind of drugs were they? pills? weed? cocaine? do you even know if it's not medically prescribed? and what were you doing looking around her room? Im not saying your the one at fault in this situation just trying to give you soem insight on how your mom could see it. but you should talk to her about it maybe later at night when all the other childrewn are asleep, thats not something that should be talked about in front of the kids
2006-08-24 11:47:46 · answer #8 · answered by Uninvited_Ideas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why were you going through her things in the first place, does she not deserve any privacy. i think if you confront her she may get very angry with you. i did not know it was crack, you need to talk to her she is putting all her kids in harms way including you. i thought it was just weed at first. crack is a serious drug and i have more than my fair share of friends go down the crack alley, they will steal lie cheat anything to get more crack.
2006-08-24 11:50:57 · answer #9 · answered by native 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's 36 .. with 6 kids .. eldest was a teenager last year .. I can imagine what she's going through .. maybe drugs isn't so bad!!
2006-08-24 13:44:04 · answer #10 · answered by hoi polloi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋