r.e getting three year old to stay in bed?

Question

my son has always gone to bed at night at 7 o clock. he always goes to bed awake and falls asleep by himself. we have tried everything. he used to come and get in my bed first thing in the morning about 6;30,just as we are getting up, i didnt mind that. but now its any time from midnight. my baby is in her own room and quite settled, i have no where to move her.

Answer 1

Rapid return
you gotta keep putting him back as soon as he soon as he gets out!
persist with it as it might take few days but he will get the message. I did this with my youngest son and one night he got out of bed 76 times!
he don't do it anymore tho, give it try, you don't talk to him tho just keep putting him back in bed. it really does work

Answer 2

I had this problem with my little boy not long ago. He too would go to bed by himself, but get up around 12 and come to lay down with me. I fixed this pretty easy. I took him to Toys R Us and let him pick out a sleeping bag. I told him that I still wanted him to start out the night in his bed, he could even sleep in his sleeping bag on top of his bed. If he did get up in the middle of the night, he could come in my room, but he had to lay on the floor next to the bed in his sleeping bag. This lasted about a week. He now sleeps all night long in his own bed with no trouble :0) I think that just knowing that it's okay to come in your room will ease his mind. I know some people don't agree with this method (my fiance didn't) but it worked for us! I know that when your tired and need to get a good night's sleep, you'll try anything. It's worth a shot. Good luck!

Answer 3

One of my friend and had the same problem with her 3 year old. He made a chart. If he child stayed in bed for 5 night she would take he out to eat or move, park. whatever she wanted to do. The child puts the sticker on the chart so she knows where she is to get the reward

Answer 4

By any chance has he be moved into a single bed and his new sister is in his cot. This could also be part of the problem. Maybe he is jealous of the baby. In which case he needs his time with you, he will soon settle back into his old routine. Just reassure him that his new bed it better for him as he is a big boy now and big boys sleep in beds not cots.

Hope you this helps.

Answer 5

with my first 2 children i had exactly the same problem,with my 3rd i hit on the idea of a dream catcher,i told her that all the bad dreams would be taken away by the web in the middle,and that the good dreams will stay in the feathers,it worked a treat,she is now 4yrs old and not been in our bed for 1 and half years,at last,my partner and i can sleep next to each other without her in the middle,bliss

Answer 6

you could try making a star chart write the days of the week along the side and and then the number of hours along the top reward him with a stick on star wen he stays in his own bed start off low like with just say till 1 or 2 in the morn at the beginning then build it up to only giving him stars for longer periods of like i.e. till about 5 in the morn then right through the night if he makes it a week in his own bed for a certain amount of hours give him a treat. good luck!!

Answer 7

I had a similar problem with my three year old. Now he goes to bed at 8. brushes his teeth and gets into bed. He decides what story he wants to hear.

Since he gets to choose a bedtime story on his own. Either a book read to him or a story his father or I make up. He stays in his own bed now. Except to get up to go potty.

Answer 8

Try reading or telling him a story before he goes to bed and telling him to stay there. He is obviously uncomfortable about something, so you should try and ask him why he comes to your bed and when he does take him back and sit with him for a while, he may just need security and when he sees that you are there for him he may go back to sleeping regularly.

Answer 9

You need to do the rapid return technique, every time he comes in to your bed, put him straight back in his own. He probably thinks it'll be ok as you let him in to your bed in the morning. You have to show him he has his own bed otherwise his sister will end up doing the same thing when she's older.

Answer 10

Tell him he needs to sleep in his own bed until morning like a big boy