I am younger than my fiance but I want 4 kids and he said he will be happy with however many I want. Please advise.
2006-08-24 04:26:02 · 28 answers · asked by bubbles26 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am older than 25 yrs old but under 30 yrs old.
2006-08-24 04:30:13 · update #1
Myself and my future husband will make enough money to support our children.
2006-08-24 04:32:03 · update #2
Forgot to ADD I do own my own house, thanks for the supportive answers.
2006-08-24 04:42:20 · update #3
However many you think you can handle. Each child is a blessing.
My father has 8 other siblings... my Grandma said that God blessed her greatly.
2006-08-24 04:27:56 · answer #1 · answered by Kamunyak 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what sort of job you have. If you make big bucks, then it is affordable. If you are very poor, our system provides reduced or free meals at school for the children. For some children, this is embarrassing. I recommend 2 or at the most 3 children. If you just have two, then you have simply replaced yourselves on this planet...if three, then you have contributed to its over-population. Have enough children that you can enjoy them, and have more than one so they learn the joy of having a sibling and the skills for life such as give-and-take, negotiating and communication. Do not have more than you can handle. They are expensive...I don't know what the government says they cost to raise but it will make your eyes pop out. My friends and family with 4 or more are so burned out after the 3rd child. I had three and have made my contribution to overpopulation, love who I have but am glad that I don't ever have to live with another teenager again... ;0) They will all be college graduates before long...and no, we are not even close to being wealthy. We might have been if we hadn't had children, but I have no regrets. They have all become good, compassionate responsible adults. Now, I can look forward to the benefits someday of having grandchildren. You are wise to ask for opinions. Have enough children but remember to take time for yourself, too. I didn't do that for a long time and was a very tired mother. When it occured to me that I was being neglected, things got better for everyone. Please keep that in mind. Life is not like the movies.
2006-08-24 11:36:04 · answer #2 · answered by Sally M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is only too many kids if you cannot support or take proper care of them. If you can afford to give 4 children a great life and your husband is up for it, then 4 kids is perfect. But you might want to wait until after you have one before you get to worried about it. It may not even be an issue.
2006-08-24 11:31:03 · answer #3 · answered by dani_anne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go with whatever feels right for you ;)
normally i would say as many as possible coz that is like delegating a whole heap of responsibility upon others (kids) after taking a huge responsibility (raising the kids) :) the more the merier remember that ;) and you can have far more than 4, but its the quality above the quantity ... think also on adoption to get diversity :)
2006-08-24 11:34:25 · answer #4 · answered by ash_wiz4rd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still young enough to get started on your family. 4 is a good number.....I am the oldest of 12 siblings and I have 3 kids myself....there is no right or wrong answer here...it all depends on what you and your husband want to do
2006-08-24 11:34:41 · answer #5 · answered by sputmonkey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a family that has like 8 children.
As long as u can financially support that many theres nuthing wrong with 4 children.
2006-08-24 11:31:34 · answer #6 · answered by aregitar_jake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babysit 4 kids various ages, then decide. Remember not to sleep during the night before the kids come in the morning and see how your day goes with them. but with your own its 24/7 it don't stop at 5pm.
2006-08-24 11:38:53 · answer #7 · answered by c k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 4 kids. My husband only wanted 2. After our second child was born is swore he was going to go "get snipped" Then the twins were born. He still has not gotten "snipped" but I have. 4 is a great number- I wanted 5
2006-08-24 11:29:42 · answer #8 · answered by cranky_gut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as it is agreed between yourself and husband, have as many children as you want. Each child is a blessing and different from any other child. I personally have 5 and wouldn't want it any other way. It gets a bit crazy at times but at the end of the day when they are all giving you hugs and kisses and saying they love you......priceless.
2006-08-24 11:45:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is entirely up to you . If you want 4 children, than go with 4 children. I personally think it's too many (I want to have 2 children).
2006-08-24 11:33:04 · answer #10 · answered by mthtchr05 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should decide based on what you think your mental stamina is. I come from a family of 6 kids. I do not think i could handle more than 4. It's important to think about your future kids as well as your self.
2006-08-24 11:32:51 · answer #11 · answered by Sarah K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋