Leaving Church (..the cont'n)?

Question

Once again and hopefully, the last time I'm gonna bring this up.
I stopped attending my church for almost a month now. And since only 3-4 persons would follow up on me at least once a week, and the rest do not care at all, my heart has grown even the hardest, the last string of attachment to them has snapped.
Question: Do I go back to "that same house of God"? Do I look for another? Or do I join the world now?
I've really slided.. down so deep.

Answer 1

Don't go back to that CULT...Church is a joke..In the famous words of Ben Franklin...A lighthouse is more usefull then a church. So Screw them

Answer 2

You need to look for another church if the one you are going to is not working for you. It might not be an easy journey to find one that will work, but it is out there. The best thing to do is to formulate some questions, especially regarding what you are looking for in a church then call around to different churches and ask to speak with the pastor so you can ask your questions. From there you should be able to find one that is going to work. Keep in mind the larger the church, the easier it is to get lost in the frey, especially if you do nothing to involve yourself in the church. There is going to have to be some effort on your part to be noticed. With so many people that can potentially go to a church there are times when the elders and such can only give so much of their time to its individual members. Imagine you are one person trying to get noticed by many where they are one person getting pulled in many directions. The people who are involved are more easily noticed when they are not around, since they have put themselves into a position of being needed.

I am not sure what your circumstance is, but if the case is that you were going to this church, but not getting involved and are expecting multiple people to contact you when you miss a few services it is probably not going to happen, but the fact that 3-4 people call you once a wekk is good. I go to a church and if I miss a few services no one calls me. On the other hand I am not involved in the church as much as I should be nor have I made any effort to really get to know a lot of people there so I can't assume if I miss they are going to be banging down my door and wonder where I am.

I am not getting very specific information as to what is happening other than what you wrote here and I admit I haven't read your other posts so I fear to give you a specific answer that may be in correct based on what the exact situation is, but hopefully this helps somewhat. Please don't turn from God though and hold Him responsible for how a church conducts its business, you may just simply need to find a new church that doesn't disrupt your relationship with God.

Answer 3

3-4 people, once a week, for a month - if I am reading you right...

You are doing better then average. Unfortunately the committment of people in most churches is so low that if you were to leave that church you probably would not get 1person to visit for 1 week. Sounds like a better than average group to me. Or at least 3-4 people in the group who do care about you.

Sounds like you have more that just disappointment with this church going on if you are "down so deep". Please consider sitting with one of those friends who has been checking up on you and do some serious talking and praying. Let them help you.

If not them, then do seek another church. You really sound like you need that kind of support in your life right now. You won't find it "in the world".

You will be in my prayers today...

Answer 4

Well I care if you are serving God. That is why were are here, to do his will, as Jesus did. I noticed you did not mention prayer. Is going to church the only thing you stopped? Jesus stopped going to the synagogue when he had serious problems with the Scribes and Pharisees. But he still continued to pray and teach, and concluded his life faithful to God, under the most horrible circumstances. We should follow his example.

Our service to God, should not depend on any other human. It is between God and us through Jesus.

Read Revelation 2 and 3 and see the problems in the churches, and notice Jesus is judging people individually.

I cannot recommend joining the world,..it has no future, no love, no happiness, only false fun,..

I hope you pray for guidance, and make the right choice...sister, Tina

Answer 5

Well, you should be proud of your courage. It takes alot to do what you have done. Why would you go back? Even if you decide upon staying within your current belief system...why would you go back to a place where you don't feel cared about? You are far more valuable than that and you should respect yourself at least that much. Also, why do you have to do something right now? Take some time for yourself. Think about things. See how you feel with "nothing" for awhile. There are also many, many options avalible to you other than "church" or the "world".

I went through this. Many have. I like to call it "divine discontent" and "spiritual growing pains". You have begun a new journey. I wish you well and you will be in my thoughts.

Answer 6

What kind of church is it? How big is the church, and who were the 3-4 that followed up on you? Do you want the whole church to come to your house. Maybe you just feel sorry for yourself and are looking for a "spiritual" reason to quit church and follow the world. Maybe you need to go to church to worship God instead of seeking people to take care of you. Do you want to be a servant, or served? I ask these questions with a gentle rebuke in an attempt to answer your question. Quiting God is never an option!

Answer 7

A church is just a building. It is the people in it that make it a happy, spiritual place. If you feel empty without other people to worship with, start looking for a new church. I think the real question is why do you need someone to keep up with you and your attendance? It's not between you and them.

Answer 8

God has not let you down, people have. Go to a Church where you feel your needs are met, but don't blamed God for people letting you down. There is no perfect church and you are not perfect, only Jesus was perfect for the 33 years He lived on this earth. I hope you find peace soon, all churches are not created equally.

Answer 9

Dont listen to these people if you really love Jesus,find an apostolic church,and you will all the Love you need and great fellowship,the Lord is able to keep you from falling,you HAVE NOT backslidden as of yetdont Give up...if you fast 2 day 2 night you will make it

Answer 10

YOU Follow JESUS, not a Man.
Your Still a Child of GOD.
And you will be like that, ALL the WAY to HEAVEN.
Satan is just kicking you around a bit, like he used to do to me. GOD will Lead you to another church building where you can Fellowship with your Bro.'s and Sis.'s in CHRIST once again, JUST ASK HIM TO.
Maybe GOD want's you to attend a different church building?
So you can Learn some New Stuff!
Hope this helps.
Ditto.............

Answer 11

Find a Church that you really like.
I know its hard to come back.
You have to have faith that God will take care of you.
Pray, Pray, Pray.
I love my life now, that I'm back in God's will.
It's not perfect by anymeans, though.
You just have to get with Believers that you can grow with.
Start a Bible study at you house or something to get connected too.