I live wit my boyfriend of 3 years and we have 7 month old son...and my 8 year old daughter, also lives with us...we live in rented house and he is always late paying the rent...which is cheap...700.00 a month on a 3 bedroom(yeah, the roof leaks in the garage but other than that, not bad for the price), he is late on all the bills...we got the water shut off today, my boyfriend called and we are getting it put back on sometime today but this is how it goes.it's driving me crazy!!!!! i am so frickin stressed. he is still married but seperated for 5 years from this woman in australia, he can not afford to get a divorce which pisses me off...he is driving around with a suspended leicense that they will not renew for a year as he is a habitual offender so if he gets stopped, he will most likely serve time. i take care of our son all day by myself(he is very demanding and he cant even do the bills right with all the work he does. does anyone else deal with something similiar??
2006-08-24 04:24:24 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
and i talk to guys so if anything happens, i can always fall back on on of them or my family. he gets mad that i talk to guys but i tell him do the right thing and i wont.
2006-08-24 04:26:06 · update #1
he is a good boyfriend and very caring but not when he is always not paying the bills and waiting til they get shut off and then paying them
2006-08-24 04:28:20 · update #2
I need a back up plan fior me and my kids so if *hit hits the fan one way or the other, i will be o.k. but i cant afford daycare and the subsized daycare list is long.
2006-08-24 04:44:22 · update #3
honey it sounds to me like you need to take his paychecks and pay bills yourself, just give him allowance if you have any left after bills. I deal with the same thing, my husband of 11 years has the same problem. He works hard and has pretty much always had a job, but when bills are due he just wont pay them. So now when he gets a check he brings straight to me and I pay what needs paying and give him allowance. So far so good!!!!!
As for him being married honey you knew that up front im assuming, so don't get mad at him for that. Help him to help you, it works both ways. If you love him you wont be talking to other men, but since you are then I would say you don't care as much for him as you should!
But there are 2 sides to every story!
2006-08-24 04:41:14 · answer #1 · answered by StacieR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry dear, but you're shacked up with a loser. Your first clue should have been the fact that he is still married but separated from some Aussie-chick. Why did you start living with him in the first place? Is this how you want to spend the rest of your life -- worrying every month if you're going to get evicted or have your water/electricity shut off? Even worse, why are you just sitting around waiting for the day when you get the call from him saying he got nailed by the cops for speeding and now he needs you to bail him out? Do yourself a favor and get out.
2006-08-24 04:33:42 · answer #2 · answered by sarge927 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Darlin' the reason you only have a boyfriend and he's always late is he's a loser. Look at his track record. He has a wife (maybe he does -mqaybe he doesn't) in Australia. He thinks the rules don't apply to him. And you have his son with no concept of commitment from him.
He's got the milk and he didn't have to pay for the cow. What do you expect? This guy sounds a lot like my daughter's ex husband. He did a lot of the same things AND tried to get in the pants of anyone who didn't have testacles.
2006-08-24 04:47:02 · answer #3 · answered by namsaev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay if you are talking to guys then you dont need to be with him. You should not fall back on another guy. Always fall back on family. paying bills late is not that big of deal as long as it does not get shut off. But when it comes to that yuou need to dump him. Got to you parents take your kids and get a job ans start making a better life for them. If he doesn't want to get a divorce then he is not into you he is into the sex. He needs to be dumped. That is no life for kids to see and you as a mother should protect htem from growing up in that kind of enviroment and you should want to protect them from this. Quit thinking about you and other guys cause that is not going to help think about you kids put them first. Quit worring about who you can fall back on , get a job take care of yourself there are things and places to help with daycare. Sorry to be so blunt
2006-08-24 04:34:50 · answer #4 · answered by helpif i can 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know whatz up with your man, but to seea man with responsibility to act like that, its not good at all. I think that you have to get up and get a job, put the kids in day care and try to do whatever it takes to provide for them and you, your man is a ticking time bomb, ready to explode. What if he gets into trouble with the law and have to serve time, then you'll be in a lot more then late bills. Create a back up plan, and that back up plan is you. Do it for the kids and you.
2006-08-24 04:40:51 · answer #5 · answered by Soldier 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good back up plan might be finding a job and not falling back on another man or your family for support!
2006-08-24 06:16:56 · answer #6 · answered by eddysmomma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's got A LOT of growing up to do. He needs to grow up and be responsible. If you truly love him, be open with him about your feelings and give him a chance to straighten up his life. But you also don't want to wait around, for someone who will never change... A year tops and that's it! If he doesn't make a change, I'd leave him... Life is too short to devote your life to someone who makes your life miserable.
2006-08-24 04:37:23 · answer #7 · answered by Engage Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job, get a new place to live & dump the married loser. It's really simple actually.
2006-08-24 06:33:33 · answer #8 · answered by mamabens 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's very good when you have kids......You should tell him get his crap together or get lost.....If he lets something else get shut off, you have to put your foot down for your children.
2006-08-24 04:32:58 · answer #9 · answered by sane_nut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him to let you start paying the bills. i stay home and can handle the checkbook to make sure things get paid.
2006-08-24 04:59:06 · answer #10 · answered by ♥mommy of 4♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋