Ladies HELP!!!! I need to convince my girlfriend!!?

Question

I love my girlfriend n I think she's so beautiful and sexy. The problem is sometimes she gets me so hot that when we have sex I climax too soon. I feel so embarresed that I dont say anything and I tell her to hold on and give me a minute or that I have to use the bathroom. She thinks it's because I don't find her attractive and that I can't get it up. But the exact opposite is true!! I've told her my side and since I always use a condom, I've offered to show her the evidence (yes I know thats gross). But she will not listen to me and now she says she doesn't want to have sex anymore!! It's killin me because if she only knew how hot I thought she is. She is so pretty that it never occured to me that she would think it's possible that I believe she is undesirable. Please Help!!!!

Answer 1

Well sry I really can't help ya. I'm a virgin who never had that experience where a guy climaxes too soon bc I'm a virgin.
I'd love to help, but I can't, sry....

Answer 2

Okay, try this. When you know you're going to see her, go ahead and get one out of the way before she gets there. Get what I mean? Usually the second time around lasts longer so even if you are excited, you can still give her her moneys worth so to speak. If that doesn't work then maybe you should see a doctor because you may really have a problem there. I think she should be supportive and you two work this out together. You have to communicate with her and let her know what's going on. There's things she can do to help you actually that are quite enjoyable as well as helpful. She just has to be willing to try.

Answer 3

Show her the evidence and explain everything. Just tell the truth...that you feel bad when you're coming too soon.
I know how she feels. I've been in the same situation. I thought my bf didn't find me attractive and even though he tried to explain that to me our sex life was ruined. I just believed him when I overheard by chance a phone conversation he was having with his friend, telling him how he really felt towards me.
Our reunion was great. So my dear, just try to be sincere and tell her EXACTLY how you feel towards her. Do it as soon as possible, before it's too late. Reassure her that you love her, and that you think she is the hottest girl in the world.
Maybe you can speak to her while having sex, telling her that she drives you crazy etc...
Just speak up what you feel.

Good luck

Answer 4

I wish you could talk with my boyfriend . . . he has AMAZING self control . . . he does not even get an erection unless he wants to, let alone ejaculate too soon. Not only that, he can get another one as soon after the last as he wants to (as long as the AC doesn't get him)
So my advice: 1) learn self control and 2)make sure she knows when you are cumming
One way to learn self control is to go to the brink of climax then back off . . . you can do this by yourself or as a couple.
When you are having sex, if you feel you are about to blow, but it is too soon, slow down or stop . . . give yourself a second to regroup and go again . . . that should help keep you from cumming too soon.

Answer 5

well hun if i were you - Id print out this question and show it straight to her!! IT explains a lot!!! Shes kinda insensitive for not believing you - but maybe it might help if you read up on tantric sex books or something that will show you how to hold off coming for a bit. Failing that - you're just gonna have to tell her to cop on a bit and be patient with you - you dont say how long you two have been going out, but it will get better over time!

Answer 6

Two words:

More foreplay.

Say it over and over until you believe it. If she's as ready as you are when you get there, then you can both climax quickly.

Answer 7

What i can't understand, is why she doesn't believe you. You sound adorable, and im sure you will get many similar responses. Maybe you should show her what we all say them maybe she will realise just how lucky she is.