I was seeing this guy & then he left to back to his island.... but he's givin up his job & coming back to my island, in two weeks, but've started seeing one of my old school friends & i've fallin for him...... i have two weeks to choose & dont know what to do.... I'm trying to keep them as friends but its not as easy as it sounds.... HELP!!!!
2006-08-24 04:17:12 · 23 answers · asked by mis_zim 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-08-24 04:18:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this guy moving just because he wants to, or moving to be with you? If it's that latter, you can't let him give up his job and move islands for you if you're seeing someone else!!
Seriously, you can't be selfish about this if this guy is making major life changes with you in mind....you need to give him all the information so that he can decide for himself. Why don't you go and visit him and see how you feel. When you get back to your other guy, hopefully it should be obvious which one you like best...then let the other one down gently.
Alternatively, if this man is moving to your island anyway, you should just tell him now that you're seeing someone else, otherwise it'll be a bit awkward in 2 weeks! If you've fallen for your school friend you should stick with him, and if you decide you want to go back to the other guy after he's moved, then it'll all sort itself out then
2006-08-24 04:34:08 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
old cliche saying - but apparently if you stray toward someone else, you were never in love in the first place!! Only you can answer your question hun - make a list of pros and cons and see who the better catch is!! However you should move fast as you could be the reason why the first guy is giving up his job - to live nearer to you - and thats not fair on him at all.
Good luck!
2006-08-24 04:30:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Which do you think is better? Maybe the guy from the other island is kind of mean or something.... Maybe it will be the best to choose the one that u know really well.
2006-08-24 04:22:57 · answer #4 · answered by TRINI YASMINA L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you tell the guy from the island that you only want to be friends right now, I would kill someone if i moved for them and found out that they weren't as serious as me. Just be honest and tell him that you aren't ready to be in a relationship right now!
2006-08-24 04:19:52 · answer #5 · answered by qtiebabie06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are not married, or planning to marry, you don't have to choose. You should make guy #1 aware that you are still playing the field and remaining uncommitted, so he doesn't make some life-altering plans based upon faulty assumptions.
Don't hold your breath for keeping them both as friends.
good luck.
2006-08-24 04:20:32 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. October 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he giving up his job and returning to the island for you?
If so, he's already made quite a commitment to you.
2006-08-24 04:28:39 · answer #7 · answered by Trish D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out with the one you fancy most or remain friends with both and get to know them then choose.
2006-08-24 04:21:51 · answer #8 · answered by Saucy B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he is just interested in the opportunities to be found on your Island.
2006-08-24 04:20:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honesty s d best policy ! !
so be honest to yourself and n to ur heart ! !
buht b4 taking d decision ! !
make sure of the love security, financial security, and social security.
itz not always that whom we like to be wid is the best option for us!!
so try thinking from others perspective!!!
and dont just consider what your heart says!! TRUST ME!!
we are still not matured to listen to our heart !! thereby, we are not matured enough to make decisions based on our hearts decision!!
2006-08-24 04:35:09 · answer #10 · answered by xyz a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your cake and eat it, men do it all the time,keep both just don't let them find out about each other.
2006-08-24 04:23:20 · answer #11 · answered by Sherzade 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋