I still love my ex "4yrs", it hurts she has another man, she still loves me and i want her back, what do i do?

Question

i was faithful but she was jealous because i cared for other females friends too, not in an intimate way but as support and encouragement for them, now she has anothe man 2 months later staying with her, he is 30, she is 25, i 21 i know i am young but i am wise. this guy is from another city and she met him on a website. he is living with her with no current job or money, car was stolen and he left a ten year relationship in which his two young boys are in another far state with no support from their mother. I feel that she does not want to be lonely so she is acting out to hurt me, she says he is there for her emotionally and maybe she needs that, but i luv her and i know i was not fully experienced cause of my age but I can't live without her and i see her in church always , we still talk and she asks me for money help and to pick her up cause she does not have a car. We still love each other but there is this hurdle we can't get over i am seeing another but can't fully luv her

Answer 1

Man can't you see that she's using you, dump her, you are young smart and wise be a freebird enjoy your life for another 7-8 years and then settle for a permanent girl friend or marry. work hard, play
hard for another 8 years. best of luck

Answer 2

Your situation is a train wreck. First, switch churches so you won't see her and move on to someone else. Before you go dragging someone else into this nonsense, take time to be on your own a while. What you are doing is cruel to the woman you are currently involved with, though I doubt you realize that from what you've said. Your "love" has taken in another man who has no means of support and sounds like a total loser. If that is the kind of man she finds acceptable, then she is not.

Answer 3

If you guys still love each other then you guys have to decide what you want. The whole other guy thing is to get you off of her mind. Trying to distract herself but also it is like a validation. That someone else does find her attractive. List things that you guys need to work on for the relationship to work and not just a quick fixer upper.

Answer 4

Well you do have a problem here......first off it isn't fair to your current relationship, you love another,so this one will never work. We all need time to breath after such a long term relationship. to heal.

I suggest explaining this to your current GF, she will understand, then make a date with your ex and lay your thoughts out to her and see if she feels the same way.

Good luck
Jenn

Answer 5

your ex made her decision .... now let her live with it. sounds harsh, but you're not the reason she's living with a drifter she's not married to (and she in the church). That guy could be feeding her a bag of lies and she wouldn't know.....but he's sucking her resources dry. Don't let him suck yours too (thru her). Cut your losses and work on your new relationship. That old one is nothing but trouble. You ARE wise, so be wise enuff to move on

Answer 6

you are what guys like myself call a dipshi*. You need to think with your head instead of of your heart. If she were to come back; would you really want used goods? if she cared about you, then why is she getting railed by another guy? think about it. This is why men become dogs, because of girls like that. You should just move on and you should screw one of her good friends. That would teach the Bi*ch!

Answer 7

Shes an ex for a reason.leave her that way

Answer 8

please find another woman and get on with your life find a woman around your age you say you have found a nother you will learn to love her give it time you are young

Answer 9

Move on. If she 'loved' you, she would be with you. Asking you for rides and money is not love!! It is YOU letting her use you.

Answer 10

dude If I was in your situation, I would sick a fine honey on him and hope he takes the bait, then you have grounds for dismissing his .....