OK, this guy moved in a couple houses down last year. Well, this summer he has been working outside a lot and he looks soo awsome!! I cant help but walk by and watch him, what a awsome tan and body! Anyway mom talked to him and found he is like 41 or 42 (I cant believe it though, he looks in his 30's). I want to meet him soooo bad. Every time I think Im going to walk up and start talking to him I get so nervous, that I cant do it. He is also so much older than me too (Im 19), but I think I dont care (I know, sounds crazy, but...). What should I do??? I know he isnt married or anything, and I KNOW he has seen me because he waved and said hi (I just about melted on the spot!). Was he just being friendly? Does he like me? How can I tell? What sould I do???
2006-08-24 03:41:19 · 17 answers · asked by HOT LORI 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, first Im amased that most people didnt think I was crazy!! (thanks) But I decided to take your advice and go talk to him (sorry, no bikini). He was so nice to me. He figured out that I was flirting with him pretty quick and asked if that was what I was doing. I just wanted to vanish right there!! But since I couldnt, I just told him what I thought of him. He was very surprised and said that if he were 15 - 20 years younger he would have asked me out months ago. He said I was incredibily beautiful but thought it would be better if we didnt go out. He was worried about what everyone would think and said I should be too. He thought we should do some serious thinking about it first, and I should decide what I would want out of it. I dont know what I want out of it but I guess the door is still open for me, if I decide to walk through it.
Oh well, not what I expected, but then again, I didnt know what to expect.
2006-08-28 02:18:38 · update #1
Yes he was just being friendly, this is because he doesn't know you like him yet. the man is (in his 40s)he is not looking at you as a lover as of yet. but if you have feelings for him you should let him know. because if you dont he will always look at you as the little girl that live a few houses down. it always help to be simple and tell a person you like them, even if it does sound lame. but he may not like you like that because you are (very young). talk to him and see what happens. i hope i helped.
2006-08-24 04:01:46 · answer #1 · answered by charming 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he have children? Ur age? Anyway I think he may just be a friendly neighbor. He is a man however, and will most likely not past up a fling with a young pretty thing, trust me. But he is older, and u guys think different. If it becomes "something", he may want just sex, while u may catch feellings. Make sure that if u start something u know what ur getting urself into. Dont fall for a guy who is just going to use u. He's 40, so he will probably think, "Hey a young, esay target", Proceed with caution. If u think u can handle it go ahead. And remember this is only the beginning, u will also have nosy gossipy neighbors talking about why u were coming from his house, why u guys were seen talking so long, etc. My friend dated a 30 something guy in her neighborhood, and her mom was all over her, because the mom liked him too! Good luck
2006-08-24 03:56:32 · answer #2 · answered by funkygurll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's too old for you honey,5 or 6 years all right,but 22 years? It happens more then you think,it might be puppy love,when i was 16 i was in love with my 36 year old teacher,she was a knockout,big **** and booty.You should try meeting guys your age or a little older if you like,but 22 years?When he's 63 and ready for social security,you will be 40 and in the prime of your life1 Get a brain,let your mother date him!lol
2006-08-24 03:52:18 · answer #3 · answered by foolish_pleasure5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question you should be asking yourself is whether you want to have fun or be involved in a serious relationship. If it's fun you want, get your butt over there and invite the guy out! If it's love you're looking for, I would say there is a bit of a large gap in ages for you. Good luck!
2006-08-24 03:49:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello HOT LORI,
Next time he's working outside, get into a bikini and walk over there with an icy cold lemonade for him. He'll appreciate both.
--Rick
2006-08-24 03:50:21 · answer #5 · answered by rickrudge 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"SLOW DOWN" you are to young, What I mean is...You have so much to see and do,and by you being attracted to an older man it could limit you to your own dreams, And as far as him waving and all it could just mean that he is being friendly neighbor,try not to let your emotions read it any further!!!! And I am sure that you could find someone even better towards your own age. "good luck"
2006-08-24 03:53:28 · answer #6 · answered by JENN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you guys havent spoken chances are he doesnt like you because he hasnt gotten a chance to. Age doesnt matter . Just go up and ask how hes doing. Introduce yourself. You never know...you might get invited inside
2006-08-24 03:48:06 · answer #7 · answered by gingersnappz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him leftovers! Tell him that you've seen him outside working hard.. and you made waaay too much for dinner tonight.. so you thought you would share... dont be nervous.. just be a flirt.. and wear something sexy!
2006-08-24 03:46:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it, I'm sure he'd be flattered that a young girl thought of him like that. Your mom might not like the whole idea though.
2006-08-24 03:45:47 · answer #9 · answered by Yen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go and ask him to put something on because he`s turning you on and see what happens. Make sure you have a huge smile on your face, so if he doesn`t take it very well you can say it was a joke.... And if you want to go further make sure you use a condom..... and make sure nobody knows...
2006-08-24 05:22:30 · answer #10 · answered by sweet_bb_eyes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋