I want to talk to this girl in school but i dont know what to say.?

Question

this girls name is jessie, she is very good looking, and smart, i want to talk to her, but i dont know what to say. i was introduced to her by my friend, but i never talked to her. and it has got to the point to where i look lame because i walk past her every day and never talk to her. i do not have this problem with any other girls, but i cant seem to open my mouth and talk to her when i see her. i cant seem to walk up to her and generate a conversation out of thin air, but i like her. what should i say, and how should i say it.

Answer 1

It has been my experience that women like a confident man who is not an arrogant man. Women also seem to like a guy who has something to say. Sadly, you are neither. You lack confidence and you become tongue-tied when you see her. The problem is that, while you are waiting for inspiration, some guy is going to bird-dog you and you will lose whatever shot you have. Clearly, you can't wait too long to get your act together. To that end, I offer the following suggestions:

1.) Try to remember that she is just a person, not the goddess you are making her out to be. Just because you are attracted to someone shouldn't put them out of your reach.

2.) Define your objective. If you are just trying to strike up a friendship with her then just say hello and see where it goes. You could try paying her an innocuous compliment. Try "Hi Jessie, you look really nice today." Don't overdo it with the compliments, but the judicious use of them can work wonders. Also, when trying to strike up a conversation, be interesting. In other words talk about something you both have in common or something that you are passionate about. However, don't drone on and on about the inner-workings of something she couldn't care less about. Instead, find something she might also have an interest in. Solicit her opinions and feelings. Make her feel special by listening to her and being genuinely interested in what she has to say. It costs you nothing and can get you where you want to go, if you know what I mean.

3.) If you want her romantically, you need to determine whether she is available. If she is, then ask her out on a date. Plan an event, be decisive, be direct, and be confident. If she says yes, great. If not, move on. Always remember that life involves risk but fortune favors the bold. Take a look around. How many guys are there out there who are way dorkier than you but have girlfriends?

Answer 2

Don't say too much the first time you talk to her, People always blow it by trying to generate a long conversation when they are nervous.. Have a few nice things to say and an excuse to politely leave. Soccer practice starts in 5 minutes etc.

Keep the conversation focused on her, get her number tell her you will call her and then have no contact for at least 2 days. Otherwise she will think you are desperate, especially if you have a stupid grin on your face.

Then call her, immediately tell her how nice it was talking with her last time and offer to do something neutral with other people around so you two can get to know each other with less pressure.

Then if things work out you are ready to plan some time alone together.

Answer 3

This is the same exact problem for me, (except the guy i like is friends with me, but i feel so dumb when I'm around him coz i say and do the stupidest things!) Anyways, what you should do is talk about something you two have in common like your friend who introduced her to you, or your fav bands.etc..

Don’t think too much when you’re around her, coz it just makes you do and say stupid things that you later think ‘OMG what was I thinkin’ – (trust me, I know from experience).

And also, always be yourself - coz there's no point in pretending to be someone else and her later on finding out you were just faking it. It takes too much effort & in the end if she ends up liking you, you'd want it to be because she likes you for who YOU are.

Check out this site: it might help you more with this. I understand what you are going through..!! good luck men!, hope you end up with the chiq in the end :)

Answer 4

"Hi" is always a good start. Then why don't you ask what she's doing after school. Or if she's smart, tell her you need some help with one of your classes and see if she's willing to lend a hand.

Answer 5

Frist try being yourself find out from her friend what she like and when you go up to her make sure your breath smells good,a girl like when a guy smells good and look their best and don't try to be some one esle talk to her and be honest and pick your words care fully

Answer 6

why don't you write a note that says:
i admire u. i felt too awkward to tell you in person. want to talk sometime? maybe hang out. please take this seriously. i am a shy person. and please keep this confidential. thanks.
-your name

if shes a good person she'll realize that u care about her and that ur not teasing. she might just even call u. i know that the hardest part is giving/writing the note but try to give it to her when shes not with her friends. or put it into her locker. good luck
;)

Answer 7

Better pretend to fall on her as if you got slipped on a damp floor, and then look into her eyes and utter a sorry, well start your conversation.It worked for me.

Answer 8

Its easy-you just say hello jessie-or whats up


chicken s@#$

Answer 9

start with hi and then you can go with one of these
a. a question about schoolwork
b. what shes doing after school
c. ask her about her favorite band what music she likes, if she does theatre ask her about that anything that will let her know that your intrested in what she's doing

Answer 10

complement what she is wearing
ask her a question about school
or about one of the books she is carrying
talk to her about the friend that introduced you to her