I have a son with this man, and he does nothing when it comes to helping me support my son. He's cheated on me nurmerous times and had 3 kids while we were together, yet and still I was still by his side hoping that he would change. One day i finally got tired because I'm a beautiful woman and i know i deserve better, but it's still so hard to let go especially living in Madison; it's a small town to me because I'm always running into him with women and my son is with me most of the time. It's just embarrasing. How could you hurt somebody you love. This relationship has made it so hard for me to give someone else a chance to luv me because i don't trust men now. I know i need to love myself and not allow anyone to take advantage of me like that again. Some days are good but some days are tough especially when people bring up his name. I hate him, but i know i must forgive him because I'm a Christian woman. This has been so hard for me and my son.
2006-08-24 03:40:23 · 10 answers · asked by Ms. Mary 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Hi Lady,
I am a Christian. I know & understand the real pain and feeling of you. I have not undergone such pain like you've undergone. But I know there is a sure step that will lead to success. Since you've said that you are a Christian I boldly suggest one solution. Fast & pray for your son & your husband. There are many instances where we have heard such people changed. Our LORD is a GOD who answers prayers. But sometimes it is hard & persistence. Pray that your son will not be hurt in this process.
Please read the following verses.
Psalms 145:18,19
18 The LORD is nigh unto all them that call upon him, to all that call upon him in truth.
19 He will fulfil the desire of them that fear him: he also will hear their cry, and will save them.
God Bless you,
Edwin.
2006-08-24 03:58:03 · answer #1 · answered by edwin_mony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be on your own for a while. You'll be so busy taking care of and providing for your son, that it'll get to the point where you don't think about him anymore. Also if you have the means, relocate. Getting out of Madison may do you and your son some good. Ending a relationship with a child his hard, but a fresh start will keep you busy, and you don't have to see his sorry bum anymore!
2006-08-24 10:50:06 · answer #2 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's not like God would approve of this mans actions either. Whether or not you forgive him is up to you. If I were you, I think I would take my son and move to another city. If you're afraid that your son wouldn't have a father, well, what kind of example is this man to be a father to your son anyway? Do you want your son growing up like this man? I know I'm not in your situation so don't think I'm judging you. It's your decision, but you did ask what to do. Children are a precious gift from God, and if you like the small-town feel, just go find another one somewhere else.
2006-08-24 10:51:59 · answer #3 · answered by CHRISTINA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is entirely up to when to forgive him though. My son's mom and I were together for 7 years When I finally got the message to get out. It took about 3 months of no contact with her that I finally got over it. You have every right to feel hurt. He obviously did not love you as much as he thought. Pick yourself up and worry about you and your son. Remind yourself daily that it's his loss not yours. Letting go of someone you love is one of the hardest things to do. Ask yourself this is my sanity worth this one person? My answer was no.
2006-08-24 10:58:32 · answer #4 · answered by Allen the Cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man who dosen't support his Family is worse than an Infidel.
Nough said.
TIME has curative effect's.
There is a Time to every Purpose under the Heaven.
Music Please:
To every thing Turn, Turn, Turn
There is a Season Turn, Turn Tuuuurrrrrnnnn.
Ecclesiastes chapter 3
Hope this helps.
Ditto..............
2006-08-24 10:53:59 · answer #5 · answered by maguyver727 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The quicker you accept reality the better off you will be. This man does not love you and Id bet the farm he never did or will. Move on, find someone who will love you back. In the meantime you are much better off with just you and your boy. It won't be easy but it will be worth it. Best of luck
2006-08-24 10:53:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fresh starts are always good ... perhaps you could leave the 'pond' you're in and venture to new places ... though it may not be financially viable ... consider it anyway ... it's hard to wipe a relationship away overnight but a little distance always helps ...
Take care of you and start looking forward to great things ...
2006-08-24 10:54:52 · answer #7 · answered by kharas3an 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to really love yourself first.This man know"s you have a weakness and he will continue to exploit it.If you are truly a christian then you will know that "love of ones self is love of god".You are never to late to start again.
2006-08-24 10:52:51 · answer #8 · answered by porkupuss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being Christian is why its HARD for you to LOVE!
YOU are 1 Love!
he is 1 Love!
Your SON will be 1 Love!
LOVE ALL!
LOVE!
Aphrodite!
2006-08-24 10:44:53 · answer #9 · answered by Aphrodite! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
throw the bum out.
2006-08-24 10:45:26 · answer #10 · answered by digital genius 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋