I was a wreck before coming to know Christ. And since that fateful day I have grown up and become a nicer overall person, except I still, after 2 years, am struggling with alcohol, lust, language, and other things. I just want to become the man I know I can be, but trying doesn't seem to get the job done. Any help?
2006-08-24 03:34:50 · 24 answers · asked by djslinky77 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Think about the reason that you drink alcohol...is it to have a good time? Find another way to have fun than drinking alcohol, try getting involved in the youth group at church--those kids can be SO much fun!
Lust is tough. Just think though how much better it would be to lust after someone that you've promised to spend your whole life with, and that has promised you the same. You can lust after that one person your whole life--way better than lusting after any girl on the street (who in reality is a girl and probably a comlete b-i-you-know-what. I am a girl I know).
Language is the easiest one to cure. Think of words to use instead of the curse words. Instead of MFer, try Brother Tucker, or Other Clucker. Instead of Son of a B-I-you-know-what, try Son of a Biscuit. Instead of GD how about Gosh darnit. The more creative and humorous you get with your gosh darned, brother tucker, son of a stinkin rootin tootin biscuit cursing you get, the less fowl your mouth will be, and it will be percieved as creativity, humor and wit! (Oh, and saying "oh fart" can be very satisfying as well).
I hope that helps!
2006-08-24 03:43:10 · answer #1 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Find a good Bible-Believing Church. Pray, Pray, Pray.
Maybe you need to get help with the alcohol first. Just a thought, most of the other stuff happens after you've been drinking. we were all a wreck before coming to Christ. There are Bible based AA meetings, try those first. My Church is the reason why I am doing better at these hard things. If you spend a lot of time helping other people, and reading the Bible, you wont have time for the others.
I currently help out with the 6th-12th graders, and I lead a Bible study every Friday night at one of my friend's house. Sometimes at my own. By having to get ready for Friday, I don't have a lot of time to do the "bad" stuff. I'm not perfect of course, but I try to be more like Jesus.
Good luck to you. Watch all the negative answers you get here.
I'll pray for you, all right.
2006-08-24 03:44:31 · answer #2 · answered by Casey M 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
With God's help, you must surround ur self with Godly counsel from believers. Flee from the negative influences that brings on excessive alcohol and lust etc... Study with believers and join groups that help in those areas. Keep ur mind focus on God's word and neglect the secularism of Television and even the computer. Be not equally yoked with sinners that may cause these influences or secular pressures. Seek God daily thru prayer. He will answer you if you contrite at heart. God loves you and Is happy that you have come to know him and want to know him more. God bless!
Shalom
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2006-08-24 03:44:30 · answer #3 · answered by Pashur 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Relax. People often think that because they became Christians, they automatically change into a holy person. They also believe their troubles in life are over. When bad things happen, they think God has abandoned them.
When you were born into this world, what were you? A baby.
When you are "born-again", into God's Kingdom, what are you? A baby.
A baby grows into a healthy and happy adult only when it is cared for, nurtured, fed, loved, educated, etc. It is the same with your spiritual condtion. Why would it be different?
That is where most Christians fail. They think that because Jesus saved them, they are supposed to be super Christians. They judge and condemn themselves if they fail.
The Christian New Testament says that "Jesus is the author and finisher" of our faith. So why get down on yourself? It's not your job to bring yourself to perfection or completion. It is His.
Let yourself be open and life will be easier. A spoon of salt in a glass makes the water undrinkable. A spoon of salt in a lake is unnoticed.
Praise and blame, gain and loss, pleasure and sorrow come and go like the wind. To be happy, rest like a great tree in the midst of them.
It is admirable for you to want to improve. But I think you will get frustrated, feel guilty or unworthy, or just plain give up, if you do.
Relax! God's got this.
By the way, I am a Buddhist. There might be some things on my website that will help you and it contains many references to Christianity and your God. There is nothing at the site encouraging you to convert to another faith. It's purpose is to help people of all beliefs, so it is safe. See my profile to for the link.
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2006-08-24 03:59:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Jesus' message wasn't that you become "nicer", but that you become free.
How bad is your alcohol problem? Do you drink in the morning? Do you get so drunk you stagger and black out? Does drinking interfere with your work or decision-making? If not, I don't see that it's a problem. Drinking a beer or two isn't the same as waking up at night to drink a beer.
What you call "lust" is the natural human desire to have sex. Men produce semen constantly, and it builds up. After awhile, it seeks release, just like urine in your bladder. Releasing it isn't wrong. Releasing it into a woman who you forced into sex is wrong.
Profanity is one way of expressing our thoughts or feelings. If you don't want to cuss, stop trying to control things outside your control so they don't get to you so bad. Personally, I watch my language around some people, but I speak freely otherwise.
If you want to become something in particular, make a habit of picturing yourself as that person. Don't let other people get in the way of your goal! If someone constantly gets in the way, let go of them.
I don't hang around with people who bring me down by trying to control what I do. I know what's best for me, and if I want advice I'll ask for it.
God doesn't want to live your life for you, but to empower you to make positive change yourself. Learn from your life's experiences. That's why you're alive.
I hope this helps.
2006-08-24 03:46:31 · answer #5 · answered by Baxter 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The struggle is ultimately a lifelong journey! I struggle with things too, and I've been rededicated since I was sixteen. It sounds like a good prayer group or bible study group would help you. If there are some good Christians that you trust, start up a group! It is our responsibility to be accountable to one another, kind of like having a sponsor I suppose, but it is in God. And of course, pray, pray, pray, and press into God, have faith and He will lead you to where He wants you. Hope I could help, you can send me a message if you like :)
2006-08-24 03:42:55 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ Luveniar♫ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What you are going through is normal because you are still human and the human nature puts up a fight and doesnt take to change very easy . Bubba beat me to it, I was gonna say it talks about this in Romans....We are all created with the sinful side and if we wern't then we wouldn't need God and so you can be grateful for sin since it made you kind of look for God in your heart !
My advice to you is when we try to do things with our own strength very little gets accomplished as aposed to when we let God do things in our life. Thats why the New Testament church is supposed to be led by the spirit and that spirit is the "Holy Spirit" of Christ. Expose yourself to the words of God, for there is great power in them and pray...The two basics of Christianity !
2006-08-24 03:58:14 · answer #7 · answered by Catt 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
wow! me and my husband were the same way till not to long ago.We have recently learned that we really are living in the last days,watch the news and read the bible.We prayed that God would change us in a mighty way and we are saved and have been,but we learned that you can only serve God or man and you can only choose one.We have stayed in the word and have been praying constantly and staying in church full time and we have had no want in partying,doing drugs,cussing and other immoral sins.We see now that we were put here for his purpose not ours and so we should be serving him,not man,especially now days,time is short.I will pray for you and i hope that you will start praying and let God change your life.God Bless you! P.S. Also remember that God is a loving and Forgiving God,its never too late!
2006-08-24 03:46:49 · answer #8 · answered by stluke2125 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
James 4:7 Resist the devil and he will flee from you.
It's going to take some will power on your part. Staying away from old friends or old places, and replacing them with new things that will help you in your Christian walk. You are not the only one with these types of problems. Not by a long shot. You are not a worse Christian because these things plague you. But you must commit yourself to change. God will honor that commitment and help you.
2006-08-24 04:55:46 · answer #9 · answered by Char 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's tough because we are human and tempted. You can and will become the man you want to be. You need to fully surrender yourself and allow God to change you. It sounds like you are trying in your own flesh and not letting God work with you. Stop holding on to the things of the past. We can't do everything on our own pray and ask God to help you with these things and believe that he will change them. Also, God has his own agenda and timing for our lives. Keep the faith obviously God is doing something in your life.
2006-08-24 04:00:02 · answer #10 · answered by valentinegirl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋