Adoption/abortion?

Question

If all the women out there who have abortions realized that a private adoption (i.e. a family contacts an attorney looking for an infant, and finds you, versus placing your baby with the state after he/she is born) could put as much as $30,000 in your pocket, would you still have an abortion or would you suffer through your pregnancy to make this much money?

Not trying to start an argument here--just curious.

Thanks for all the answers! However, I think so far, Auld Mom is the only one who is really getting the jist of my question.

OK, maybe this will clarify things a bit: This is a question of ETHICS AND MORALS.

Answer 1

Wouldn't agree with it, really, but if women were paid money for continuing an unexpected pregnancy they would have otherwise aborted and then giving adopting the baby out, it would probably put a huge slash in the number of abortions performed. Surrogates, depending on where they live, are paid upwards of $35,000 for carrying a baby for couples who can't carry their own baby.

For the prolife people who are against paying a mother to carry her child to term and placing that child for adoption, how much is a life worth? To me, monetary reimbursement for life is better than the blood money paid to an abortionist.

Some of these answers make me wonder if people know how much it costs for a childless couple to adopt. We've friends who've paid $10K and more to an adoption agency and all those blood suckers do is find the baby or child. As I think about it, why should they get paid and the mother who did all the work get nothing?

Answer 2

I can only speak about my own experiences. I used to be a strong Pro-Lifer, openly protesting abortion and involved in groups to make abortion once again illegal. Then when I was in college, I got pregnant. I lost most of my friends and many family members stopped talking to me because of this. I never wanted to become a parent. I then realized why some women consider abortion. I even thought about it. I was so confused and uncertain that the time passed where I could legally have an abortion in my state. I did end up giving birth to my son and giving him up for adoption. I went through a local group than helps out unwed mothers and facilitates adoption. I made it my business to find the most suitable parents for my child. I could never justify going through the classified and picking an ad for a couple willing to PAY for my child. You never know what kind of people they are.

The decision to have an abortion or give a child up for adoption should NEVER have to do with money. If that was the case, do you realize how many women would get pregnant just to make some money? People have done less for money.

I think if you're really looking to stop abortion, you need to pursue the education of young men and women on safe sex. There are too many young people in the world who are uneducated and think they are safe when they're not. Elliminate the uneducated and you'll elliminate (or at least greatly lessen the number of) abortions.

Answer 3

Put the money aside, Abortion is murder!!! I know all pro-choice activist say "It's the mothers right". But come on, doesn't the baby get a choice?? Do you think they would chose to die just because its mother was in high school or has problems??
Here's a good way to put it.... A woman walks out of a doctors office where she has just found out that she is 2 weeks pregnant. A man in a car does a drive by shooting, woman gets shot and dies. That was his chioce to kill her, but doesn't the man still get a double homicide rap?? So how is it OK if the woman gets an abortion at two weeks pregnant?? Adoption is always the way to go.
And in the case of an "accidental pregnancy", the moment the condom breaks (because that would be the only "accidental" way to get pregnant) call your doctor and get the morning after pill to keep from getting pregnant.
Yes there will be at least a small bond between the unborn baby and the mother but with counseling and help the mother, in time, will heal. But at least the baby will be alive and well taken care of, and the mother won't live with the regret of KILLING the baby that SHE and here PARTNER made!!!

Answer 4

I would still have an abortion for an unplanned pregnancy if:
- in high school or college years and all birth control methods failed
- rape or incest occurred
- it would be performed ideally within 2 weeks of my first missed period

If I had an unplanned pregnancy after I was out of school and a reasonably mature adult, I don't think that I could endure a pregnancy just to give it away for any amount of money.

There is also another option to rescue women from the panic and anguish of an unplanned pregnancy; medicine. Plan B can be taken within the first 72 of the condom breaking, etc. to prevent a pregnancy form occurring. RU-486 can help women after the 72 hour window has passed.

Pregnancy, labor and the birthing process is far more dangerous to woman's health and life, and much riskier than an abortion or abortion pills.

I don't believe that anyone should get in between a woman and her doctor when it comes to making a decision about an unplanned and unwanted pregnancy.

Answer 5

If I was in the position where I was not ABLE to raise a baby and my options were either abortion or adoption. I would definitely go with adoption. First off, I would not be murdering a baby. Second, it would be getting a better home than I could ever give, and lots of love. Third, I would get some money for my trouble. Fourth, I would have the satisfaction of knowing that I helped bring happiness to a deserving family, and that more good came out of a rough situation. Everyone is happy!

Answer 6

I would never have an abortion but with that said...I would think that some women think that it's hard to have a baby and that connection and then just have to leave. They feel they will be constantly thinking about the child and want to come in contact and may not be able to. They might wonder if the child resents them or if they just don't care about them. Women are strange if you ask me. Wether you give your child up for adoption or abortion it's going to cause some pain. That's why I say to just keep your legs closed or get on birth control before taking that risk. Great question though!

Answer 7

Adoption isn't always a good answer. I was adopted. My parents divorced when I was 11. My moms boyfriend after the divorce raped me. My dad told me I was lying, and he was always abusive anyway. "Daddy's little idiot", I always was. Got called retarded, stupid, a thief and liar. He won't help me go back to school and I qualify for almost no financial aid because of his financial position. His new wife is a raving maniac that tried to smash my face into a mirror and clawed my face. I would never put a child up for adoption after what I've been through. There's no way to know the people you're giving your baby to are actually good people. Just because they pass a background check doesn't mean they're good people.

Get over the illusion that you're giving a baby to a perfect family. My family life was far from perfect and I bear the scars from a less than responsible birth mother giving me to a family that passed a background check but were otherwise horrible people.

Answer 8

I think having the child and allowing it to be adopted is a wonderful idea, but I don't think a stigma should be placed on accepting $30,000 from the adopting couple if they can afford it and are willing to pay it. It doesn't have to be considered "selling the child". The money could be donated to an orphanage or other youth programs, or whatever charity the birth mother chooses. It's a win-win situation.
And don't be afraid of starting an argument . Discussion is healthy.

Answer 9

I would hope that the women giving up her child would do it because she knew that she was not in a position to take care of the child and not for money. Of course, the adoptive family isnt a perfect family. But the alternative for the child is death or years in the system as a foster child or in group homes. So adoption is the best choice. Both of my little angels are adopted. :D I love them as though they are my own. Sometimes i actually forget for a few seconds....lol. That is the amazing thing about the human spirit...when we are willing too we can open up our hearts and bond with offspring that is not even our own.

Answer 10

Probably not. The act of carrying a child, and birthing it, is a selfless one.

The whole concept of abortion is selfishness. A desire to live ones life uninhibited.

Besides that, most of these girls dont have insurance, and the cost of a regular vaginal birth is on average 8,000 dollars, almost twice as much for an emergency c section.

Either way theyre face with a cost, unless they can find an adoptive family willing to absorb it. But in most cases, as with everything in our instant gratification society, its easier to simply get an abortion and pretend a baby was never made.

Its a baby when you make it, its a fetus when you dont want it. Its all about what feels good at the time.