me and my boyfriend had a chat about a week ago. he said that we needed to go on a break. he decided on it not me. but i am not sure if that means we are getting back with eachother even though he says he is nearly sure we are. both of us lost feelings for eachother because everrybody was interfering in our relaitionship and we are trying to see if we take time apart will it mean that our feelings for eachother will return and get back with eachother. but if people are honest how often do people say we need a break and decide to get back?
2006-08-24 03:13:25 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well going on a break means breaking up with an intention of getting back together if interest on both ends remains. While on this "break" both have the freedom to date, see other people ect. I had a boybriend tell me we were taking a break but then he got with another girl and that was the end of me. So it depends some breaks end up being the end of the relationship or shifting the relatiosnhsip into just friends while in other cases they may end up getting back together.
2006-08-24 03:17:46 · answer #1 · answered by K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the situation. Each couple needs breaks for different reasons and whether you get back together or not is entirely up to you guys. Greg from "He's just not into you" would say that your man wanting a break means he's just not into you- because if he really wanted to work things out, you guys would stick together and do it- thats what couples do is work through problems together! And than there's the following book "It's called a breakup because its broken"...
Alot of times, these breaks may mean he'll mess around with other girls, and after you guys come back together the excuse "But we were on a break!" will be used and, its just a mess you want to avoid if that isn't ok with you- establish with him NOW that if he does mess around with anyone else, you are not getting back together with him, that this break is to be used to figure out if you two want to be together or not, not to f*ck around.
And determine in your own mind, how long you're willing to wait, don't let him string you along, I've seen too many of my girlfriends wait and wait for a guy to come around and take her back but... what do YOU want? You said he initiated the break, you need to have SOME say in this relationship right?? And if you do want to work it out- communicate with him- its KEY in all relationships. Why does what other people say/do affect you guys, how will you guys deal with it in the future, what will you two say back to them? You two should be a TEAM. Us vs them.
There are no guarnatees on whether you two will get back together, but... all you can do is try- talk to him... and once you've tried and waited long enough- cut him loose.
2006-08-24 03:22:24 · answer #2 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time when boys say that, that's there way of sayin that they want to move on and their just not feeling the relationship anymore. But if you got a real boyfriend who cares for you then he will come back and maybe he just needs time to let things cool out being that everyone is interfering in your relationship. And tell everyone to mind their business becuase its your relationship not their's.
2006-08-24 03:19:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going on a break is a nice way of saying your dumped. He reassures you that you will get back together for one of two reasons:
1) So your feelings aren't hurt.
2) So if the girl he is trying to go out with right now dumps him, he can go back to you.
You should move on. Don't wait for him. If he does say he wants to get back with you someday then tell him you have moved on. Be smart about it. Don't wait around like some kind of puppet.
2006-08-24 03:16:43 · answer #4 · answered by Elim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love will bring you two back together.
There is not time limit as to how long the "break" will be. Sometimes it is forever.
During this "break", try not to think too much about him. Use this time to improve yourself, in terms of socially, physically, fashion? Occupy yourself and when you least expect it, something good happens.
I know this does not really answer your question but do give it a try.
Good luck!
2006-08-24 03:18:36 · answer #5 · answered by shopaholic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he needs time for himself. Sometimes people thin kthat when a guy(girl) says that it means that they dont want nothing with them anymore but sometimes its diff. i asked my guy for a break because we were fighting too much and i needed to know if we were really meant to be together. It worked out fine and now we are back together and better than ever.
If it doesnt happen like this than it just wasnt meant to be and there is someone else out there for you, Good Luck......
2006-08-24 03:22:05 · answer #6 · answered by La fresa04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some will say this when they don't want to be with you any more. And then others feel you need time apart to appreciate each other again. Sometimes we can get to comfortable in our relationships and stop appreciating each other and taking each other for granted.
2006-08-24 03:16:18 · answer #7 · answered by e_deckwa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what he means by lets go on a break i been through this my self he is basically not sure or undecided if he still wants to date or just wants to try to see other people and see if his feelings for another person is stronger then the feelings he has for you
2006-08-24 03:17:40 · answer #8 · answered by michelle b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it's other peopl causing the problem you need to put a little distance there not on your relationship if you both care for one another
2006-08-24 03:17:33 · answer #9 · answered by phyllis_neel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That usually means that he does not want to be tied down, or want to be with just one person...He wants to be single and live the bachelor lifestyle..He wants to party with his friends and not have to answer to his girl....
2006-08-24 03:16:04 · answer #10 · answered by bellita_716 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋