Do you think that a father can be just as emotionally involved with a child as the mother?

Question

your answers are very important society changes and we must with it. Reality is that the family unit is very diffrent then it was years ago but the family court system has yet to adjust. Please encourage change.

Answer 1

Yes, never has there been a time when so many men stayed home with the children while the wife goes to work.
Don't know how the answers here will encourage change though.

Answer 2

Good question. We had this discussion in Sociology class. Of course it's a no brainer answer of yes. But I think what you're really asking is, Is society ready to accept this?

That answer is mostly NO. While mothers have made strides in education, family planning, and career decisions...fathers are still expected to be the main provider for the family, yet stay out of family planning decisions. After divorce, the courts reinforce this idea by awarding custody to the mother while the father can only see the kids once or twice a month if lucky. All the while, he is court ordered to pay for the wife and the kids he can't see.

I think both men AND women have trouble accepting men as active fathers and not just wallets. Once people can accept that gender roles have changed, then they will force the legal system to change also.

Answer 3

Sure they can, being a woman doesn't mean you are a good mother, and being a man doesn't mean you are a good father. It takes a lot of work and love to be a good parent, has nothing to do with gender, and you are right, the court system is way behind. It is very difficult for a man to win custody, no matter what is in the best interest of the child, but 20 years ago it was impossible! So improvements are being made, just slowly.

Answer 4

My god YES

I don't know what my son would do with out his daddy

And my 6 month old daughter don't just sit and say dadadadadadada for nothing. When he walks into the room her face and eyes light up like a bright light bulb.

If my husband and I ever split up I really don't think I would have to use the court system. I believe that he should be able to see his children when it is wanted by the children and their father.

My brother is allowed to have his children every other weekend...but he works weekends (just wekends) and can't see his children but a few hours a day when he has them (works 12 hrs) and she won't allow him to take them after school a couple of days a week. So yes i believe that the courts need to change but a child needs TWO PARENTS NOT ONE

Answer 5

Of course he can. But he has to make the effort, just like the mother. Fathers that get their kicks and then walk off, of course aren't going to be emotionally involved with the resulting child. Yes, carrying and nursing help a mother and child bond...but those by no means are the only ways for a parent to bond with a child.

Answer 6

The fact that the mother gives birth to the child and has carried it for nine months, creates a bond between mother and child a father can only dream of. It is up to him to make up for the lost time and to be just as emotionally involved. I am a young father and I am very emotionally involved when it comes to my daughter but at certain times she longs for warmth and always instinctively looks for the mother. It is fact of nature and also has a lot to do with breast feeding.

Answer 7

Very much so. And it doesn't necessarily become limited to "father" and "mother". My parents are divorced, and I know that my step mother is as emotionally involved with me as my mom. My daughter's father and I are not together, yet I know that my boyfriend loves my daughter as if she was his. I think the emotional involvement for all persons involved with a child now a days is completely different than what it was 5, 10, 15 years ago.

Answer 8

Yes, A man can be very involved with a child. Men do have feelings and do feel emotions just as women do. In the same vein women are walking out and away from their kids more and more.They run off with other men and wish very little to do with their young children. Just as men have done in the past.

Answer 9

Depends on who spends more time with the kids. If the father is home and doing everything that mother should be doing then they become more emotionally attached to him.
So yes, I'd say it's 100% possible

Answer 10

yes , a child needs a father unless his a bad man
a child will feel excluded from peers if he/she doesn't have a father.A farther stands as a role model so that a child could be encourage to be same like him