When is SPANKING considered child abuse?

Question

What are your views on spanking children and what do you consider abuse?

Personally, I do not agree with spanking but would like to hear other's views on the subject.

Answer 1

It really depends on how hard you hit your child, where you hit your child, and for what reason you are hittig your child. If you are doing it in order to discipline your child so that he or she grows up to be a better person, and if you don't do it so that it leaves welts or bruises on the child, and if you don't hit on the face or somewhere fragile, then it should be ok. Children sometimes need guidance. You should first try to talk to them, and if that dosn't work then you can try "time outs", but if that dosn't work you will have to spank. But just spank responsibly. Usually when you spank it hurts the parents more then the child because no real parent wants to hit their own child or cause them any harm.

Answer 2

Abuse is when a parent deliberately hits the child and the child did not do anything wrong or doesn't know they did anything wrong. Spanking is still a necessary discipline, even though society has blown it way out of proportion. I can guarantee if half of those children who don't get spanked would, the world wouldn't have as many delinquents. On the other hand, I would not go out of my way to hit my child for my benefit. I've heard of those parents who find that 'spanking' their children is a good way to release anger....those people should be shot and their children should go to someone who can show real discipline and real love. There is a line one shouldn't cross, right at the point where it is not considered discipline or a means for the child to learn right from wrong.

Answer 3

Hi s.chica! ya know i don't like spanking either, but i have a4 1/2 yr. old and she can be a little terror at times, not minding or listening and throw her tantrums in public. I believe that spanking is not at all a bad thing i just think that it should be given when they are at their worst. as far as it ever being child abuse, no way! if you are hitting or spanking your child over and over again, then i would consider it child abuse. but don't ever let anyone tell you that spanking is wrong. It's not! its a way for your child to know you are the boss and they need to listen and mind. i hope this helps you a little bit. good luck!

Answer 4

Spanking is a tool that can be used when a other forms of discipline do not work.

With that said, spanking should never be done out of rage. It should be done in a controlled setting. I feel a standard leather belt without a buckle or metal decorations is ok to use. The child should be told why he /she is getting spanked. And also how many swats they are going to get. Usually three good swats will suffice. If you want it to have a long impression, wait a little bit between swats so the stinging dies down so the next swat renews the sting.

Corporal punishment in my opinion should be given back to the schools. The schools have now resorted to the laws designed for adults to govern students. Kids make mistakes, society has made it a criminal offense for their mistakes made while growing up.

Answer 5

If there done anywhere but the bottom, or when bruises, welts, or any other permanent marks are left. Redness is OK. A child covered head to toe with bruises has been abused not spanked.

Answer 6

Spanking a child is not child abuse UNTIL you start leaving marks. I personally will spank my 7 yr old for doing something he is told not to. But only because all other measures have failed to work.

Sitting in a chair for 30 mins don't phase him he just sits and plays with his hands.

Standing in a corner don't work because he plays with his hands the wall and finds a way to peel the paint.

we even went as far as making his stand in the middle of the room with his hands at his sides and that didn't work.

So time outs don't work her.

But spanking him only when the crime fits, we have found better punishments...(taking TV time away)
(boredom)(no outside time)

What is a punishable spanking. He has a 6 month old sister and thinks he is big boy and carries her all over and brings her to me and drops her and telling him and taking things away don't work, so now every time he carries her he get a spanking (HAND TO BUTT--NO OTHER OBJECT SHOULD BE USED) 4 or 5 times is enough and that settles him for the rest of the day. One of these wonderful fine days he will realize that a spanking isn't worth it and stop carrying her around like he is a big boy. He has to realize that he is only 7 and that the baby is to small and fragle for him to carry around.

Answer 7

Spanking is abuse when its done out of anger and not out of love for the child.

Its abuse when a parent spanks a child to make themselves feel better, instead of to reinforce a lesson.

Spanking is also abusive when its born out of rage and hatred for the child, and fault finding.

Everyone in every generation of my family on both sides were spanked. Thank God. We all grew up well.

Its bull crap taht kids cant tell the difference between not hitting and mom spanking them. I never considered hitting another person, and i was spanked. I knew spanking was a result of my disobedience, and not out of moms anger or frustration.

Kids get mixed signals when parents are unable to separate their own emotions from the situation.

Answer 8

I think spanking is ok as long as it's not excessive, done simply out of anger/annoyance or done hard enough to leave welts/bruises. All that stuff about spanking causing a child to have low self-esteem & stuff is a bunch of bull$h!t....i was spanked as a child & I'm a pretty level-headed person with good self-esteem (& common sense!) now. I don't condone using items for spanking though...my dad used a belt on me & it hurt something terrible. I didn't like to be spanked but if anything, I would've preferred a hand over a belt! Not punishing a child just lets them grow up thinking they can do what they want & won't get in trouble for it. My youngest sister is a prime example...my parents rarely (if ever!) punish(ed) her & she's now got the most horrible attitude & really does think she can do what she wants. Our city has a curfew for kids under 17 & one night we had to have her listed as a runaway & ARRESTED just to be brought home because at 15 she decided she wanted to stay out until all hours of the night on a school night (messing around w/ a friend's bf) & refused to come home when we told her to which was actually a decent time.

Answer 9

i will never now why spanking is considered abuse. my parents spanked me when i was smaller. i think it's just the way some parents go overboard when spanking their children. i don't think a child should have bruises or bleed when it comes to being spanked; i think that is considered abuse. there's a line between disciplining a child and abusing a child.

Answer 10

abuse is when the kid has black eyes and bleeding from everywhere and stuff or is being thrown against the wall. Spanking is being spanked with any and everything that causes pain but gets the point across without a trip to the hospital.