Anyone know what its like?

Question

Hey i'm 17 and i'm pregnant to my fiance who's 20,i'm happy,it wasnt planned though,i'm just super nervous i have no friends to support me,i'm finding myself crying all night because i'm so scared and need someone who's been through everything to help me if thats possible,or anyone else whos my age and pregnant i think it would be wonderful to support each other its such a huge thing that cannot be dealt with alone,my fiance is very happy but he doesnt know anything about babies or anything so i feel i need a woman to talk to

Answer 1

i dont know anything about parenting but i got tips on how to take care of a baby...

the father should get a job that pays well for bills, food and baby stuff...the mother should take care of the child everyday...both parents should give love and support...no fooling around because everyday is a serious day...there WILL be time for both parents to be intimate but remember the baby before yourself...

plus, if there are no friends that are supporting you and your fiance`, are they really your friends? find people that will care for you and do what they can to help...dont just be friends with anyone...

Answer 2

I am 31 years old and I have a 15 year ol son, an 11 year old daughter, and a 13 month old daughter. I could write a book about my life. I got pregnant when I was 15. It was devastating, but I had my family's support. They never missed a beat. My father took me to the doctor, took me to other places I needed to go, and took me to the hospital when I was in labor. My mother was shocked at first,but when I told her that everything would be fine, she came around. The friends that I had, including my teachers and classmates were surprisingly supportive. The guy was someone's boyfriend and only 17. He denied it all the way until my child was 7 years old, but he came around as soon as child support was issued.
While in college I had my second child at 19. i felt terrible that I had to tell my parents once again that I was pregnant. They were calmer this time. Nothing changed. My family still had my back. Over the years there was drama. It took me almost 11 years to get my Psychology degree but I did it.
My third child was born last year. I'm married now and I'm learning that as long as you have support you can make it. Baby girl don't fret. God is watching over you. Your hormones are raging and you don't know what to do. Your boyfriend is there for you if no one else is. But you have to step up to the plate and be the WOMAN! Do not and I repeat DO NOT depend on him for everything. You have to be strong and pray. Everything will work out just fine. Email me if you want to. I don't mind helping someone, because someone sure enough helped me.
By the way I graduated at the top of my class with honors my high school year. Keep your head in those books and don't give college up either. You have a child to raise now and you want him or her to have the best.

Answer 3

You have something many women don't, a man who cares.

I would say do what you can to keep your family together. It's the 21st century, so don't accept those old rules that people give you that its now ONLY about your baby. Or that your fiance must work and you must sit at home and babysit all day. Things change, you can work and he can help raise the child too. But make sure you and your man include each other in all major decisions and keep giving each other plenty of attention. This will help things to work out better.

Answer 4

OK, here is my advice because I went through almost the same thing.
I was 22 pregnant and my best friend left for the military. All I had was my mom and his mom, I didn't even have him, he left to.
Anyway, I asked my mom as much as I could, I think that it brought us closer together. I asked his mom a lot to, we have now become best friends.
I never got along with other girls, I always got along with guys. Find a local support group. I am not preaching but my parents go to church at our local Salvation Army, they have a young mothers group. New mothers and soon to be mothers your age and mine go there a few times a month to talk, help each other, and get a few moments peace away from there babies, because the day care people watch them. Try something like that.
I have learned that in order to get help you either have to ask, or find it yourself.
You can even email me with questions or even if you just want to vent, I don't know you but I really do know what it is like.

Answer 5

Hi Chanelle,
I'm a single parent of two & had them young, although I know it can be freighting when you don't know what to expect, the bright side is you have your fiance beside you and he's happy. So don't be concerned about him or you knowing how to deal with a newborn baby, it will come to both of you. Actually you end learning along the way, you can talk to people with experience, you can buy and read books, but the kids themselves will teach you alot. If your parents are around they can be a great support.
If you'd like you can email me any time.
Adriana

Answer 6

the best thing is if you have a mother or other female relative to talk to

my pregnancy and everything was very similar to the ones my mom had, so she could relate

if you have any questions, feel free to contact me
I would try to help answer them if I can