I have been dating this guy for about 6 weeks now, we have done tons of stuff together and have several things planned in the next couple of weeks, a wedding, a overnight stay at a hotel, etc. He has met my dad briefly in the driveway but not my mom or sister. I asked him last night if he would like to join my family to dinner for my moms bday. He said he wasnt sure about it, thought maybe it was too early for that and that it might be better a different time. He said he is sure it would be fine because everything he has heard about my family seems awesome, he is just not sure a bday is the best situation.....I am nervous that maybe I scared him off. He does not have a solid family background, and to be honest I dont think he knows what is like to have a family like mine. He will fit in perfect...I am worried I might have pushed it too far. I told him I didnt want to make him feel umcomfortable or rush things, just thought I would ask. What do I do from here? Back off a little?
2006-08-24 02:37:33 · 4 answers · asked by Belize 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd say his fears are quite justified. all you can do is talk to him about it. tell him you aren't trying to rush him into marrying you or anything like that, it's just that he makes you really happy, and you want your family to meet him because he's a really good friend with a wonderful personality. Let him know that they know you two are just dating casually, and are taking things a day at a time.
Tell him there is no pressure to come, it's just a party and you'd like for him to share in the festivities because you think you'd both have a good time together and it's something for you guys to do together on a friday night(or whenever it is).
He could also be hiding something. Parents sometimes have a sixth sense about these things too, and maybe he fears he'll be "found out" or something like that. Because a birthday party is less formal than a wedding, so I don't see what the big deal is. basically it could go either way. You have to decide on this one. Just follow your gut feelings, and if you have that nervous gut-wrenching feeling or something just doesn't seem right, go to the party with someone else or fly solo.
2006-08-24 02:54:26 · answer #1 · answered by Fiona70 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you have made the gesture i would just wait a while until he is ready...he does not know what it is to have close family ties...but maybe he will want to come when there will not be so many to meet at once....i would not worry about pushing him away....just if he really cares for you then he knows that he has to meet your family some day...i would not push things anymore though..just relax and have fun together and let him tell you the good time or maybe it will happen unplanned....
2006-08-24 09:43:56 · answer #2 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry. just tell him u didn't wanna scare him, u were just wondering and wanting to know if he wanted to come.
2006-08-24 12:15:53 · answer #3 · answered by ♥NoSense♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd say meeting parents of your partner is a tough job!
2006-08-24 09:41:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋