i was just wanting to know how everyone else would react to the same situation i was in and i was also wanting to know how much more of trouble i could have gotten in.
2006-08-24 02:33:25 · 10 answers · asked by †Emily† 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would tell my 13yr old that behavior like that isn't going to help when I'm deciding whether or not to buy them a car in 4 years and advise to not hang out with the 16yr old if they're going to be a bad example....
I would tell the 16yr old that if that happens again, I'm calling the police and having them charged for kidnapping, since a minor in their company is my legal responsibility and if they can't be found, it's kidnapping.
2006-08-24 02:38:31 · answer #1 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By the time a young person is 13, parents should have already established boundaries for them. 13-16 is a big age difference, whether or not they are the same sex. Young people today usually get into trouble following either older or less restrained friends. For this reason parents should always have "veto" power over your choice of friends. Not to tell you who your have to be friends with-but to tell you who you can not have as friends. Reguardless of what most young people think, parents are far smarter than they seem. If they say no-you should respect their wishes. There reasons for saying no is not to keep you from having fun, but to keep something from happening to you that can not be fixed----this is far more important that you can even imagine.
Now, how much trouble can you expect? You did not give enough details about your excursion-who, what, when, where, why, and so on. If I could see easily that this was just a big mistake-then I could be satisfied with a long lecture, a serious understanding of the rules, any maybe just some measured "probation". May be a week of you not being able to do anything at all without spicific permission for each and every activity, including TV, phone, talking to friends-anything at all. The purpose being to help you understand how serious the rules are.
Now, If I could see that this was a deliberate, willfull act of breaking rules- it would be real bad. I would run your friend off for good. I would ground you completely for at least 30 days, no phone, no friends at all, no TV, only work-and a severe beating if you did not comply. Yes, beating-I would rather my child hate me for the rest of their life, than to be so lax on them that they get involved with the wrong element. Young people die every day from drugs. Hundreds oy 12-15 year old girls wind up as prostitues because some one put something in their drink and drugged them, then sell them as sex slaves. This happens every day. I would personally beat you nearly to death before I would give up on you, if you were mine.
2006-08-24 10:07:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm the mother of three children, 29, 27, and 20. You, obviously, are new to the teen years AND the law. Any 13 year old who leaves home without permission (and I'm assuming here that it wasn't to go to the store?) didn't get the discipline he/she needed at an earlier age. You need to seriously scutinize your parenting skills and THEN sit down with this child. Explain that this behavior is just not acceptable and that, should it happen again, the police will be called, they will be placed on total grounding and that their so called "friend" will spend some serious time in juvie, at the very least. For the time being, your child's total life should be controlled by you. What he/she does, eats, wears and goes. It's past time to gain control and necessary to keep it. Good luck.
2006-08-24 09:49:04 · answer #3 · answered by Joy S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 13 they definitely need some form of discipline. It is important to know why they left before punishment. You wouldn't want to inflict something that would make them want to leave anymore (like restricting freedom too much). I think it would be appropriate for them to lose something very dear to his or her heart for a while and there also needs to be allot of communication.
2006-08-24 09:52:27 · answer #4 · answered by Hockey, Guns & Beer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would not let them talk on the phone. I would also inform them that anytime they go somewhere to inform you and you dont care if its 1/2 of a block. the best answer
2006-08-24 09:47:06 · answer #5 · answered by justme 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Id punish my kid for not having better judgement! Grounded, undetermined period of time - cause i was worried for an undetermined period of time!
2006-08-24 09:39:33 · answer #6 · answered by Navid V 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you bet you would be in some big trouble in my home!!!
and as far as the friend......i would be talking to their parents and involve the police.
2006-08-24 09:39:24 · answer #7 · answered by rock 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if i were u i would be more worried about what your parents ate going to do then what others would
2006-08-24 09:41:39 · answer #8 · answered by kellewinks 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
in your room for a month
2006-08-24 09:37:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you have to ask .Then that is why they left
2006-08-24 09:39:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋