I'm starting to be in love with this very good looking, bit nerdy and shy, very gentleman but party-a-lot-guy, who I've been dating for 2 months. He understands me when I said I can't have sex with someone who's not in a relationship with, and still wants to spend weekends with me. I think he's into me, and I'm into him. He invited me to his home town, booked a hotel with twin bed to make me comfortable, and would book another room if I'm worried. He's sweet.
And I met this guy who's a banker, very successful, very smart, sporty and fit, good looking as well, Australian, speeks extreemly straight, and he's telling the person we know both that he fell in love with me, and thought of marrige first time in his life. I only met him first time, we're going to have a dinner in 2 weeks. Just starting to see him.
I do want to get married in this 3 years, and I might be moving countries. The latter one knows, the first one doesn't yet...
What would you do if this happened...?
2006-08-24 02:29:58 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well the banker you met only once and he wants to marry you already ??? he don't know who any of your inside feelings he just fall in love because of your looks
the first one know you better he understands you for not having sex with him and he is interesting to go further in a relationship because of your personality
so i would go to the first one
good luck
2006-08-24 02:41:29 · answer #1 · answered by salsa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not choose simply on the basis of a thick wallet. It's the man who you can be yourself around that you should choose. If you find yourself primping more for the rich guy, I'd be a little hesitant. I think rushing into marriage is also a mistake(as i speak from experience), you need to really get to know him before you even THINK of tying the knot.
And as far as the party-alot nerdy guy, I would not get too caught up with him either. If he parties alot, then do you want to sit home at nights alone because you don't feel like going out to party every other night and he does? I would spend the weekend with him in separate rooms. I would have a seperate car too(and money on hand), in the event things don't go as well as you expected, and you can bolt if things go wrong, or you just don't feel comfortable. I'm sure he's a nice guy, just take it slow. that's the key to your whole dilemma here. You don't want to rush into any relationship to quickly. Slow down and enjoy the attention of these two men, and eventually you will find out which one is a true "catch" for you. Nobody's telling you to get married right away, and although the thought of marriage, and kids and a dog or fish and a white picket fence sounds totally exciting, you need to make an informed decision and not a decision based on feelings that may be love or may simply be lust. enjoy the moment but don't base lifetime decisions in the moment.
good luck.
2006-08-24 02:42:30 · answer #2 · answered by Fiona70 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was me i would go for the underdog. I would be drawn to charm not money. You need to decide who you feel most relaxed/comfortable around, who you most feel like yourself around. Basically who your heart is drawn to not your head. It's sounds like you want to like the australian guy b/c he's got money and is successful which i don't think is a good idea to convince yourself you like him b/c you want to. Any way if he's successful and rich he probably works all hours and cares about money alot, also you'll have more fun with this other guy. Go for the charming! :)
2006-08-24 02:55:17 · answer #3 · answered by missy minx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As my granny always says " Go for the man who likes you and not the one that you like" Reasons being if they like you they'll appreciate every thing from you. But if you like them you'll have to work hard at keeping them because they didn't find the one that they love....
2006-08-24 02:36:36 · answer #4 · answered by thicksauce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart, not the guy's wallet.
If he's so perfect, then why is he still single....
The first guy realllly seems to care about you....
the second is new and he's rushing things already! It says alot about his character!
2006-08-24 02:34:30 · answer #5 · answered by Navid V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with the one who loves you not the one who you love
2006-08-24 02:31:56 · answer #6 · answered by cutie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just date them both and make up your mind as you go along.no use in letting one go and bein stuck with the wrong one from the start?
2006-08-24 02:36:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to me its better to go for charming guy rather then rich one
2006-08-24 02:34:36 · answer #8 · answered by Akshatha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should pick the one that makes you happier. i mean happier as felling loved. you should never date someone because of money.
2006-08-24 02:35:42 · answer #9 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow the heart
2006-08-24 03:27:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋