will my relationship work out?

Question

We have dated for 1 and a half years and she broke up w/ me b/c she said she is only 18 and she wants some comparison, she wants to know if I am the best? I said okay but then 2 days later she went out w/ another guy, i yelled at her, and then she broke up w/ him after 2 dates. We are currently getting back together idk what her reasoning is behind it. I realize the relationship won't be the same but that is a good thing. I really believe it can work now, that she won't be always on my back about my mistakes, she made mistakes of her own. Can this relationship last longer?

Actually during the real relationship, she was the controlling type. She kept calling me back, saying she loves me while she was with him, that's why i got a little angry, I don't know if it will work out again, but I am willing to give it another chance for both of us to change, and yes we are really young im 19 shes 18...

i yelled at her because my understanding of the situation was that we were both going to be single for awhile until we got over each other, that's why i said ok, it wasn't okay for her to go out with another man 2 days later...

to complicate things further, we are a long-distance relationship, and had problems like that in the past.

with that in the past sry

Answer 1

When someone breaks up with you, have some self-respect and move on.

Stop trying to control women. Let them make their own choices. If you don't like the choices she has made, discontinue the relationship and find a woman who makes the kinds of choices you respect.

When she broke up with you, you said OK, but then, by yelling at her, you made yourself a liar. Clearly, it was not OK. And if it was not OK for her to break up with you, it makes no sense for you to even want to date her again. Clearly, you have not forgiven her.

Furthermore, you have not forgiven yourself for your "mistakes," whatever those were. This is an important skill in a relationship, and here is how it is done, in three easy steps:

1) Admit in your heart that what you did was wrong.
2) Apologize sincerely to everyone you harmed.
3) Resolve to never do the same thing again, and have a plan for helping yourself prevent it.

Answer 2

I doubt this is going to work. Come on, buddy, this girl broke up with you to find some comparision! To see if you were the best? Why do you still want to be with somebody like that? She would of happily dumped you (and if she would of found somebody she liked back) just left forever.

There's no way I would ever take a girl back who told me she wanted to find out if there were better guys out there. That's just horrible - and you're a sucker if you get back with her, no offense. Leave this girl and find somebody who thinks you ARE the best.

Answer 3

Hey, you two sound really young! In my experience everyone I know, (and I mean everyone) has this period in their early twenties where things are in an uproar! You want to commit, but then you don't. Especially with girls. It is worse for us.It is really hard to explain! I don't have enough space. You know that song by Sting? I f you love something set it free; this is true. You have to let this thing that is going on with her run its' course! Like the flu.If she loves you deep down, she'll come back to you. You need to be patient, and she needs room to grow up!! Give her that space she needs!

Answer 4

It could work. But you need to be a little more compassionate with her. You don't yell at someone you love and distress them.

Answer 5

It can be what you BOTH want it to be. If she and you want it together, of course it can last longer.

You are very young, so have fun.

Answer 6

it could, to make a relationship work is with trust, communication, and truthfulness

Answer 7

it wont work because of you.