This is a serious problem I have that has been effecting me for about two years now. My boyfriend always notices attractive women and I admit I used to get a little jealous. I'm over the jealousy now and can accept that OTHER women are beauitful and blessed with genes, and I can even accept that my boyfriend is turned on by them and will fantasize about them. However, every time I see an attractive woman anywhere (grocery store, tv, etc.) I feel nothing but negative thoughts about myself. It will bother me to the point where it could effect my whole day or throw my plans off course because I will start making plans to diet, lose weight, go shopping to spend money on products to make myself look better, or whatever isn't good enough about me. My thougths will be obsessed with things that are wrong with me, and how unattractive I am. I only notice skinny perfect looking girls.. and then try to make a plan of action to be like them but it honestly is ruining my life. any help?
2006-08-24 02:05:24 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
For 2 yrs now you have been abused emotionally by your boyfriend, it's no wonder when you see an attractive woman you have the negative feelings...you have been conditioned to respond where you feel unworthy, ugly, and worthless.....The real question here is why would you be willing to accept HIS behavior?? he shouldn't be looking or fantasizing about ANYONE BUT YOU...If that's not the case, then you need to dump him, and find someone who lifts you up, rather than tears you down...you are beautiful inside and out...you say you make a plan of action to be like them.....that will never work, because you are who you are, and you are just as good as anyone else, or better! You have a self-esteem problem big time, thanx to your bf? I use that term lightly...please get counseling, because he has really messed up your head, and it will affect the rest of your life if you don't see someone! It is already beginning...Good Luck!!
2006-08-24 02:23:38 · answer #1 · answered by mousyfan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well to start you shouldn't have gotten comfortable with the whole jealous thing bc honestly u can only trust someone to a certain extent and if he would disrespect u by checkin out every other chick when he is with u, what's going on when ur not around. You have to do what u feel is right but at the same time us shouldn't let him walk all over u.
2006-08-25 09:14:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys will always look another women no matter what. I mean I use to date a guy who will go over and talk to another women because her hair looks good or she is taller than i am. The only thing you can do is be comfortable with yourself and learn to love yourself. Every one is beautiful in their on ways. If your boy friend is the one who is making you feel this way you should probably think about finding some one who can give you his undivided attention.
2006-08-24 04:15:41 · answer #3 · answered by Lady-bug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop comparing yourself with other people. You are unique and wonderful and there is no other person out there like you, and there never will be. Sure there are people who are more beautiful than you, there are also people out there who are less beautiful than you who would just die to be you and to love to know what it's like to have a boyfriend. Even the most beautiful people have flaws that they obsess about. It's all in the head, think right and you will feel right. Every time find yourself thinking negatively, stop it and immediately say something nice about yourself. Before you know it you will be thinking happy thoughts and making yourself smile!!
2006-08-24 02:13:45 · answer #4 · answered by hello 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, the best thing would be to get another boyfriend. One who loves you and sees YOU as the only beautiful woman he's ever seen.
Dump the jerk.
2006-08-24 02:14:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm- you say he "notices attractive women"... but he's *your* boyfriend. He *chose* you- you've got something they totally don't have. And don't think that scrawny=sexy. I read somewhere that Lucy Lawless (Xena) weighs 150 lbs- she's no stick figure!
2006-08-24 06:04:59 · answer #6 · answered by Megan S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your problem is dating a terrible jerk. I hope you wise up and dump him he is the problem not you. Maybe you need to figure out why you date a loser like him. He is horrible.
2006-08-24 02:17:37 · answer #7 · answered by mary texas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look girl! i knoe how u feell coz ive seen dese assholes turning all around n cheking me out in front of dere girlfreinds! n i jst feell so bad! by looking at dere faces n seeing dere expression! look u r BEAUTIFUL ! dosent matter if u not tall or skinny! every time u feel bad jst look in d mirror n look deep in ur eyes! deep real deep until u feel beauty inside of u n tell urself i am beautiful! n shout it out 'i am beautiful n if oders cant see it den dey r stupid!'
peace!
2006-08-24 02:21:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What do you do when you see an attractive man? maybe same
as your boyfiend?
2006-08-24 02:19:49 · answer #9 · answered by justmejimw 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe a menage a trois?
2006-08-24 02:14:51 · answer #10 · answered by Wiley 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋