2006-08-24 02:04:17 · 19 answers · asked by bunny b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're kidding right? Do you know why there are shelters for battered women? Mental abuse 90% of the time is followed by physical abuse. Sounds like you have issues...maybe an absent or abusive father? Does your mom date creeps? You're following a path of destructive behavior, and you will be miserable your entire life if you grovel at this guy's feet while he puts you down. Break the pattern, there are millions of nice guys who would treat you like gold.
2006-08-24 02:13:52 · answer #1 · answered by mslorikoch 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself do you want your entire life to be like this? Or could there be someone out there that loves me for who and what I am. Love is never hateful or unkind, Love is constant, etc. etc. read the "Love is" poem it is very true. I have been married for 27yrs to the same guy. We do not call each other hateful names. We do not tell each other they look ugly. We try to always boost the others ego. No we don't tell each other when they are buying a suit or dress that they look nice if they do not. But we say it in a loving way that will not make them feel less of a person. People who cut people down have had this done to them all their life it is a very bad habit to break and you either need to sit down and talk straight forward to him and say It really hurts me when you talk this way to me it makes me feel like you do not love me or even like me because I would not say these things to my friends or family and you and I are supposed to be even closer than that. Sometimes you have to turn the tables on them for a little while and start making negative comments all the time to them and see if they start to feel unloved or belittled. But the one thing you do not want to do is just let it go and expect it to change, it will not.
2006-08-24 09:15:17 · answer #2 · answered by curiosity 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
RUN!!! And don't look back! My youngest daughter married a man like that, he just got more and more abusive, she left him and took their baby with her because she said he was hitting the baby for crying too much at 2 weeks of age. After 9 months away, for some insane reason she went back to him. They now have a second child and he hasn't changed a bit. Five years on he is still abusing her. If he is putting you down now, don't put up with it or it will get worse, believe me.
2006-08-24 09:08:40 · answer #3 · answered by arandbee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let him know honestly how you feel. If he gives you an argument let him know you can no longer be with him. You have to stand up for yourself and take a stand against anyone who puts you down and hurts you in any way. No man or woman should be allowed to mistreat you in any way. If you except abuse now it will get a whole lot worse later.
2006-08-24 09:12:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
JESUS why are there so many of these questions! Women are such a msart gender but there hearts confuse the HELL out of him. I bet if your friend as you this question you would already know the right answer! Why can you help others and not yourself?? THe next guy you date dont let him do the same crap, I pray you learn from your past mistakes
2006-08-24 09:09:59 · answer #5 · answered by gstolard 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Come on sweetheart...never let someone put you down...Why would you love someone that would hurt you like that?It's NOT COOL.Talk to you parents or a friend,I'm pretty sure I'm not the only one who can tell you to leave that punk alone.He doesnt deserve any love you have to give.
2006-08-24 09:08:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
mental abuse is just as bad as physical they are beating you up from the inside out.
I dated a guy that was mentally abusive and I have not completely racovered and that was over 6 years ago.
I'd say no run the other way.
2006-08-24 09:06:56 · answer #7 · answered by neicee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
'Putting you down' is also known as mental and emotional abuse. Do you really want to have a relationship with a man like that?
2006-08-24 09:07:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't be in love with someone who treats you badly. Hold your head up high, walk away from him realizing you are worth so much more than he's offering.
2006-08-24 09:06:50 · answer #9 · answered by empress_pam 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Rise above your infatuation, stop pursuing someone who is bad for you, and look for a good guy who will treat you well. Love yourself.
2006-08-24 09:09:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋