We're suppose to attend a 3 PM Sunday Wedding in two weeks. Didn't realize it was going to be the end of our vacation. Would it be bad to say we can't attend after sending in the RSVP saying we were attending?
2006-08-24 01:16:22 · 27 answers · asked by boston77gal 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It's a wedding for a high school friend that I've seen three times in the last year, I went to her bridal shower. I've never even met the husband to-be. Use to be close friends, not any more. Is is okay to send an email, then send nice gift and note?
2006-08-24 01:22:46 · update #1
Is is terrible if I email the bride-to-be? Just a conversation I'm dreading.
2006-08-24 01:54:51 · update #2
THANK-YOU! Please give them a call or e-mail them that you aren't able to attend the wedding after all. My daughter got married in May, got a lot of RSVP's so, had all the food prepared for them, and quess what they didn't show. I wouldn't have been upset if they had call even the day before, because I could have stopped some of the food that I had trash from being fixed.
So, do it today, let them know something has came up that makes it impossible for you to attend. You went to the shower, so I think that's all that you need to do. If she was a closer friend, then I would suggest another gift and card, but from what you said, I think you after the phone call, will be just fine.
Have fun on your vacation!
God bless us all!
2006-08-24 01:34:37 · answer #1 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would send a handwritten note to the address you mailed the original RSVP, saying that you will not be able to attend the wedding as planned. No explanation is required. Email would be tacky, and probably more confusing for the bride in her planning. And yes, sending a gift is very appropriate even if you can't attend the wedding.
2006-08-24 05:25:32 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 22:30:37 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not bad if you call immediately! Like right after reading this. Dont give a bunch of excuses, but let them know you won't be coming because she is buying a plate for both you, and who knows she may have someone else who will go in your places. Two weeks is plenty of time to find replacement guests or save the money. You can still send a nice card or gift off the registry to wish them well. Enjoy your vacation :)
2006-08-24 01:25:40 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't send an email, the decent thing to do would be to call her, just say "I am really sorry but a family commitment has come up which I must attend to, I am really sorry but that means we are unable to attend the wedding" with 2 weeks notice that should be fine.
2006-08-24 03:13:02 · answer #5 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not going to attend, let the bride know NOW so she can change the plate count. It's not too late for her to let the restaurant/function hall know.
Just tell the bride that you didn't realize when you sent the RSVP that you would just be getting back from vacation. Honest mistake.
2006-08-24 01:21:35 · answer #6 · answered by Avid 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure, it happens. Sending the note would be nice, and a gift if you feel the need. Just explain that you accidentally goofed the dates. 2 weeks should be time enough for them to let the caterer know so they don't spend unneccessary money on your meals, too.
2006-08-24 12:27:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay or not, if you aren't going to be there, you have to tell her ASAP. Do you know her Mom? Call her Mom and let her know - most brides are so overwelmed at this point that having someone else "handle it" will take some stress off of the bride.
2006-08-24 04:27:46 · answer #8 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's ok, but you should try and call her ASAP to explain... so they can try to replace you. Because they end up paying for the spot, even if you don't come!! Send a nice gift that covers the cost of the meal!
2006-08-24 01:35:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to CALL HER right away.
It's bad enough you have to duck out after RSVPing yes. It's even worse if you let it go any longer. She is going to be in the position of paying for catering food for two people who won't even be there-- that could be close to $200 depending on what kind of reception she planned.
You need to call this person right away so her head count will be right.
2006-08-24 10:35:22 · answer #10 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋