dads funeral at 2pm how do i keep it together?

Question

scared of breaking down big time and embarrassing myself

Answer 1

Hey

It's your Dad's funeral. You don't HAVE to keep it together. No-one will think any worse of you if you cry. That's what funerals are for you know - to let some of the grief out and to begin to deal with it all in your head.

It is also to celebrate the person's life - so rejoice in memories of the good times and smile if you can at these memories.

Please don't think that breaking down at the funeral is somehow wrong. Let yourself release some of that sorrow!

Above all - embrace each day from now on as a step further towards acceptance and recovery from the grief.

Take deep breaths and move past this day.

Answer 2

First off all im sorry about your Dad passing away i do feel for you.I see alot off deaths in my job and i sometimes cry its natural,so dont be silly and say you will embarrasing its your dads funeral you have the right to cry and many others will too.I have had 2 funerals lately,my nan who was 87 i found the funeral hard but i coped as there was family and friends there all supporting each other.Then my 18mth old Nephew died,well that was very very hard i will admit it,i wanted to die too as i was so close to hime and loved him so so much.At the funeral i broke down and cryed and cryed i didnt stop to think i was embarrassing myself its your feelings all coming out.It will be hard at the end off the day all funerals are,be strong and if you want a cry then do it no one will look and laugh its nature,people will be there too too comfort you .I really hope it goes ok today for you all.Be pround there as it was your dad.Take Care xxxx

Answer 3

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Here's the hard part: Pretend she never existed, like it was all a dream, don't call her, that will make you the smaller person, be the bigger person since you deserve better, what she did to you on Valentines Day was immature, especially after dating for four years. This person wasted allot of your time and through it out the window. Go out tonight, even it it is only yourself, don't drink and call or feel sorry for yourself, this will only cause you embarrassment! I know your hurting..This will eventually will go away in time. Today is not a good day for you and your emotions are spinning all over the place.

Please, whatever you do, don't answer her calls and don't call her. If she keeps calling, which she pro bally won't, don't return her call for 5 days. Make her sweat and DO Not get back together right away if you discuss this in 5 days. Tell her since she Broke up with you, you have done allot of thinking, and had the taste of "being single again" and you would like more time being "friends" for now, so you are sure you are making the right decision. Remember "She decided she didn't want to be with you" so the door is open for you to get out and see what you have been missing for four years. You honestly need to do this for yourself.

She doesn't know, but what she did was give you the best valentines day present you will ever get! A new start and a new beginning, use it to your advantage. You will look back on this and Thank God this happened now instead of 4 more wasted years of YOUR life. Today does suck, stay Strong and I promise you your life is going to be so much more exciting and you are going to be happy. If you continue to call and call her, she will think of you as needy and won't want you. She is going to rethink what she did to you today and will be hurt, if you act like you could care less. Girls always want the ones they can't have. That is who you are now to her. Let her suffer,realizing what a mistake she made. This will drive her crazy. Right now she is on cloud 9 thinking you will take her back, OH, is she stupid!

Your life isn't ruined, hers is..She lost someone special, and gave you a gift to let to live life and find someone you deserve. You are not getting back at her, your teaching her what an idiot she is and what she lost and what you gained without her. SO when You eventually talk to her, tell her thank you for what she did...
She will be hurt and you will be happy!

Answer 4

You know that everyone there will be upset, and it was your dad, so it is okay for you to cry, break down, or even not be able to handle it.Get angry if it helps, and don't let anybody tell you that it is not manly to cry. I wouls be sort of worried if I knew a guy and he had just lost someone close and did not cry some. When I lost my mom, I felt like I was going to die inside before the funeral. I did not want to go, but I knew that I had to be strong for my dad. Yes it is going to be hard to handle, and it might be easier for you to talk to someone, and find a friend that understands. I am sorry for your loss, but cry and let it out...

Answer 5

Don't worry about breaking down today, people will understand. It is a tough enough day for you to go through without having to worry about what other people are thinking. Anyway, if you do feel like crying then let it out as it will do you more good than bottling all your feelings up. Whoever said men don't cry was wrong. They do and it is only natural as it shows you are a normal human being with feelings. Thinking of you today, take care xx

Answer 6

I buried my Dad a few weeks ago at a Woodland burial site. All I can say to you is that it is a time to say a formal goodbye in front of others. It is an emotional time, and any way that you react is fine. The important thing is to be true to your feelings and however they manifest themself at the funeral let them out.

For my own part I found it much easier than I had thought it was going to be - everyone was there for me and it was actually a very comforting experience.

Answer 7

Y0u have nothing to feel embarrassed about. Crying is therapeutic and if you do cry then it's OK! It is going to be very hard for you but your last good bye so whether you keep it together or not doesn't matter. Those with you will know exactly how you feel, they will be there to support you as they should be.

I'm very sorry to hear about your sad loss. I lost my mum 6 years ago and i didn't know whether or not i was going to be able to go through with the funeral and crematorium. I managed with great difficulties, cried at times but supoprted my children as they cried and they supported me when i did too.

Take care

Answer 8

I'm so sorry about your dad; I lost mine too. Don't be concerned ahead of time how you will react, just let it be what it is. People understand. If you cry or get upset, that just shows genuine feeling. If you don't, that's okay, too. It's easy to get overwhelmed by all of this - talk with your family members and friends. You really do need to remember "the good times" - it's a cliche because it's true. I'm sure your dad really loved you, and you loved him. The hurt will pass away with time, but you will never forget...

Answer 9

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. Don't feel like you cannot let out your feelings. If you keep things bottled up it will catch up with you in the end. There will be many tears today but your dad loved you for who you are and he would be very proud of you and all your friends here on Yahoo Answers are all right behind you. Love and best wishes to you and your family. We're all here for you!

Answer 10

when mum died 2 months ago i felt exactly the same way that you do but you mustnt worry its ok to break down at this most unpleasant time nobody will mind as it is only natural to feel this way you mustnt be scared about this just sit down and take a few deep breaths and if you do cry or anything like that then you cry nobody can critisise you for that lol i hope it all goes well and i will be thinking of you take care if you want to talk im on
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