my boyfriend and i have been 2gether for 1.5yrs, both our x's were full on n ive told mine to stop speaking to me but my boyfriends ex contacts him even to let him know she is going away, even after my boyfriend tells her to stop contacting. i get upset and my boyfriend said he doesnt know what else to do..its ruining our relationship what do i do???
2006-08-24 00:13:47 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my boyfriend and i have been 2gether for 1.5yrs, both our x's were full on n ive told mine to stop speaking to me but my boyfriends ex contacts him even to let him know she is going away, even after my boyfriend tells her to stop contacting. i get upset and my boyfriend said he doesnt know what else to do..its ruining our relationship what do i do??? my boyfriend cant chnage his number as its also a work phone n she calls on private....what do i do
2006-08-24 00:22:41 · update #1
Have him change his phone number and make it unlisted.
2006-08-24 00:16:18 · answer #1 · answered by Elim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your boyfriend to make it clear to her that he is with you and not interested in speaking to her anymore. He may not have been blunt enough in fear of upsetting her, even though someone is an ex you don't always want to be harsh to them or hurt their feelings. However, he needs to be straight with her, even if he ends up hurting her, because his relationship with you is more important! You need to be honest wih him and tell him that if he doesn't sort it out then it will come between the two of you.
If she still doesn't get the message then the only other thing he can do is change his number, she should get the message then.
It sounds like she is probably single and prehaps lonely. Most of us have gotton in touch with an ex at some point when we're on our own. Hopefully she will find a boyfriend soon and then she'll forget about him. You could always try and slyly set her up with someone!! :-) I hope you get it sorted, I'll keep my fingers crossed for you!
2006-08-24 01:29:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can use this reverse phone lookup service ( http://reversephones.info ) PhoneDetective is a caller ID application that covers landline numbers, cell phones and business lines. It's a cheap service that works great! It could be used for a much deeper search. You can use it to get hold of different varieties of background reports, and in addition cell numbers, addresses and names.. you can get unlimited reports... I ran with this because I required to verify more numbers. You can get the name, other phone number, address history, relatives, and much more about anyone! The completly free reverse phone lookup generally doesn't provide anything interesting. To get interesting information, money will must be paid. The free searches don't provide considerably more than what may be found through the phone directory or personal information and they simply require your email to send spam. The reverse phone detective search tool does work, but you should use just the service that I posted above. The last thing you want to do, is pay for a service and find the numbers you want to lookup are not available in their directory.
2014-10-02 14:52:40 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does his ex know that he's going out with you? What does she call him for? What's his feelings about her? What does she want from him and what does he want from her? These are some of the questions you need to find answers for. This will help you to know where you stand and to take your decision. Does he still love her very much and prefers her to you. Then you should forget about him and look for the one who will love you and appreciate/prefer you above others.
2006-08-31 04:54:06 · answer #4 · answered by Davidkay! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't given you any reason to worry and is upfront with you when she calls~ let it go. She is just jealous and insecure. If he tries hiding it from you or does actually see her~ dump him~ if he isn't now...he will be doing something wrong.
Some guys need the benefit of the doubt...maybe he really is a great guy with a psycho ex!
2006-08-24 00:20:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup, get him to change his number. If he really isn't bothered about his ex it'll be no big deal to him. My bro's ex was like that, he's now on his 4th number change, but she keeps finding out the new one. He can block the number she uses too, but my bro found out that completely ignoring her worked. Took 6 months tho....Some wimmin eh??!
2006-08-31 00:45:19 · answer #6 · answered by kitten3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me luv, if your boyfriend doesn't want her to contact him, he would make sure that he leaves it on a note so that it she doesn't. It seems like really your boyfriends gets a bit of an ego boost out of her still contacting him which may mean he still has feelings for her or he is going to cheat on you at some point as he doesn't really want to commit 100%!
2006-08-31 00:18:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to stop answering her calls. When he sees that she's calling, he mustn't answer. After a while, she'll stop calling or at least not as much. And don't let it ruin your relationship. THat's exactly what she's trying to do. Hang in there.
2006-08-24 00:18:02 · answer #8 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the boyfriend's ex is trying to get to you. Have him change his number so that she can't contact him anymore. If she gets the new number, then you know that he is instigating the situation.
2006-08-31 08:37:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you cannot be in a relationship with someone who puts soeone else before you. Then really be honestly ready to leavehim, that should make him see he needs to cut it off, or he may not.. depends on who is more important to him.
2006-08-24 00:17:53 · answer #10 · answered by little mama kat 23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he answers the phone and it's her can't he hang up? If he WANTED to he could end all contact with her. Obviously he doesn't want to...
2006-08-31 20:44:09 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋