She is not really open to new things..just last night we had sex i wanted to give her oral and she said no she has never liked it i even have a tounge ring we are both 29. I think if she tried she would like but i dont know how to ask her. I thought about just buying one and seeing if she would let me use it on her. She is one of the few women i think has never tried masturbation
2006-08-24 00:11:34 · 15 answers · asked by Eastern N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
normally women like trying out new things when they discover their friends are doing it.i tried outoral sex when i discovered my friends were doing it. i swallowed sperm after a friend told me it wasnt too bad .maybe you can ask a friend who is married to have his wife talk to her. she just needs another woman to convince its fun
2006-08-24 00:21:02 · answer #1 · answered by hieandbye 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if she is not up for new things then it will be hard. You just have to talk to her about it and see how she feels. I use to be the same way with this stuff with my ex wife. But now, I have a new love and things are different. We haven't tried the sex toys yet but she did ask. I am still not sure but maybe someday. She probably feels uncomfortable with all of this. If she says no then don't ask again. Maybe she will come around later on.
2006-08-24 07:16:43 · answer #2 · answered by bigdog_0032 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start adding straight gentle massage to your play (backs, buttocks, legs, shoulders etc. Get an Hitachi Magic Wand and tell her it is to make the massaging nicer. Don't rush but have it a bit close to her sex while working on her butt and thighs. Take it from there. I say this because I just know when she feels the buzz going through the flesh of her sex she will guide you to where she will like it most. Just remember to be a little surprised at what happens or it will look planned.
2006-08-24 07:24:53 · answer #3 · answered by patti_felz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably shy and self-conscious. Maybe someone in her past made her feel some things were 'dirty' or made her want to keep control of her feelings because being open left her open to attack or criticism. You need to go slow, with patience, and don't push for what you want (at least not yet) but let her lead the way. Try talking first about your feelings for each other.
Something women sometimes react is to the fear that whatever their husband wants to do, he either did with or learned from another woman, and that makes the wife uncomfortable. So don't ever refer to experiences with other women in suggesting new things.
Put things in the context of what your love for her makes you feel and how you want to express it, and take it slow! Maybe she won't try oral sex right away, but try kissing her thighs, her tummy, talking to her lovingly. The next time, try stroking her lightly as you kiss her inner thighs. Wait for her to relax and take your time, let her give you the clues as to what she's ready for.
Try taking a bath together first, since a warm bath relaxes most women, and perhaps try a glass of wine.
2006-08-24 07:23:43 · answer #4 · answered by wynterwood 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her, but be careful not to make her feel pressured. Get some books and read them together. Some women have blocks when it comes to their own sexuality, in time she can change. Let her know that you love her as she is, be patient....and be very careful that she doesn't get the idea that she disappoints you.
2006-08-24 07:16:24 · answer #5 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was her father sexually abusive or something? Most women don't turn down oral. Reassure her and go into player mode with sweet words. Tell her you love her and want to try something on her that would pleasure her. Good luck. :\
2006-08-24 07:15:16 · answer #6 · answered by descartesprotege 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pretty sad to think that you are both 29 and already bored of sex. maybe try having a 'dry out period' and minimze sex for a short time to rebuild the bond between you.
2006-08-24 07:14:25 · answer #7 · answered by cvy2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried just sitting down and discussing it with her? if you just start bringing toys to bed with you it will put her off. i think there are some books you can get that will help you get through to her.
2006-08-24 07:16:38 · answer #8 · answered by glazer_098 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your going have to only last half the time in bed... But if you go down on her so will do anything for you
2006-08-24 07:20:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try whip cream bring food strawberrys mabe you should find somebody else sorry bro ur hurtin
2006-08-24 07:21:15 · answer #10 · answered by jimborock 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋