I met my boyfriend 2 years ago online. He lives one state over and we see each other every coulple of months, or longer. When we are together, it's absolute bliss. I feel like I'm the happiest person on the earth. But when we are apart, it's not so good. I find myself getting mad and annoyed at him often. I can't figure out why, so I was wondering if the Dr. Phils and Oprahs out there could help me.
Also, I recently met a new "friend" online (online again, I know. Spare me). He is THE sweetest guy I know. It started when he was play flirting with me, and I did it back, thinking it was no harm. Well, a week later, we're always "cuddling", "kissing" etc (it's through chat), but I find myself REALLY enjoying it. I actually really put myself into it. I do NOT want to hurt this guy. His morales are so high, if I told him I do have a BF, I'm pretty sure he would never talk to me again. But there is no way I'm telling my BF about him either. What do I do? I don't want to hurt them...
2006-08-23 23:58:18 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think I'm pretty damn mature for my age. I do have offline friends. I work, I go to college, but I don't fit in the scene nowadays. I don't do drugs or drink, and don't like people that do. People never give me a chance when they see me, so I never have many friends/relationships. This is kinda my escape from the real world. Please don't tell me how I should live my life in this respect.
2006-08-24 00:09:05 · update #1
That Jerry Springer comment was probably THE worst response I have ever heard. There are no transvestites, no family love triangle, and no coming out of the closet.
2006-08-24 00:22:52 · update #2
grow up and make some offline friends
2006-08-24 00:00:44 · answer #1 · answered by arooon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could be getting upset due to the fact that you like this guy and want to be with him, but you know you can't which could be causing some resentment (with the situation). Or you're simply not getting the attention you need. There's obviously some reason why you're getting upset so often with him. The question is can you get over it and continue as things are, or could it be that it's your subtle way of telling yourself that things are done?
As far as your new "friend", it's not fair to play around with him knowing that you have a bf and aren't going anywhere (unless you are). If you're staying with the bf, tell your friend. If you don't tell either of them, you're hurting everyone involved, including yourself. Be an adult and make a decision. you need to stop playing with these guys' hearts. YOu wouldn't want it done to you.
2006-08-24 07:07:31 · answer #2 · answered by T.G. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Distance does not make the heart grow fonder. That's where the anger and the annoyance come into play. You are probably wondering what he's doing when you're not around, and perhaps, since you seem to have found another "friend" on line no less, are you wondering if he has too? How about some actual "going out there" to make some new friends. On line dating doesn't seem to be the most safe way to meet people to me, no offense to anyone out there, it just doesn't. Try singles activities at your church, or local colleges sometimes offer relatively inexpensive classes in various things of interest.
2006-08-24 07:08:15 · answer #3 · answered by Laurie K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At some point you're going to have to decide to be honest with both fellows. You'll feel better about yourself. Things will only get worse the longer you allow the situation to continue.
2006-08-24 07:01:42 · answer #4 · answered by indian_ernie42 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need Oprah or Dr. Phil...
You need to take this strange threesome to Jerry Springers Show
LMAO
2006-08-24 07:16:19 · answer #5 · answered by fredglendenning 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some where down the line you are going to hurt someone; you, the new guy, or your boyfriend, because it will come out one day so before things get older come clean with someone including yourself
Love does not hurt
2006-08-24 07:03:24 · answer #6 · answered by kim 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can keep lying, and dig a bigger ditch for yourself, or you can be honest and see if he will accept you as you are. Now, are you planning on staying with your boyfriend, if so, you need to ask yourself what the hell you are doing.
2006-08-24 07:02:02 · answer #7 · answered by Kerry 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've got yourself in a pickel girl. I've been there. You'll have to eventually make a choice...or possibly lose both.
2006-08-24 07:01:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a real boyfriend or admit to your fictional 'teddy bear tea party' love life.
2006-08-24 07:00:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
grow up and make a decision before they both find out about each other that is possible you know
2006-08-24 07:01:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋