Virginity Pain?

Question

I hate the feeling of pain or pressure lol. I know I just need to relax. I love my boyfriend a lot. So why can't I do it. Any cures to help me get over the pain. Thanx!

Answer 1

i was a virgin until i was 19. if you can't do it, you don't want to. there is nothing wrong with that. especially if you are young the chances of this being the guy you will marry are very slim. i didn't marry mine. just do what feels right for you, virginity shouldn't be painful (emotionally), it should be a source of pride that you don't cave to someone else's pressure.

Answer 2

Wait until you're 100% ready... make sure that you dont feel pressured and talk to your boyfriend about it.. one you get comfortable about the concept, you'll relax and you wont worry so much about the pain... to tell you the truth... some girl dont feel any pain... no worries... just make sure you're ready...

Answer 3

Preparing the Vagina for Intercourse

The way to avoid pain and bleeding is to slowly and gently stretch the hymen and vagina prior to engaging in intercourse. It seems if the normal course of sexual development occurs, the hymen would be slowly and painlessly dilated long before intercourse occurred for the first time. A woman can do this herself using her fingers. Lubricate your finger with a water based lubricant or saliva and then slowly and gently insert it into your vagina while masturbating. You must be sexually aroused when you do this. Use one hand to caress your clitoris while the other explores your vagina. In the beginning, only the tip of your finger may enter. With your finger or fingertip inside your vagina, gently press your finger outward from the center of your vagina. Imagine your vagina is at the center of a clock face and gently press your finger towards each number on the clock face. Press until you feel some resistance, but not so much that you feel pain, for a couple seconds, then repeat pressing in a new direction. Work your way around the clock face. This stretches the hymen and muscles. Over time, slowly work your way up to three fingers, or an object of equivalent size. Some will find they can do this without difficulty within a week or less, others will require several months. It all depends on how elastic your hymen is and how relaxed and flexible your pelvic and vaginal muscles are.

Initially, the pelvic muscles surrounding the vaginal orifice may be very tight and the hymeneal opening small. This may make the insertion of even a single finger uncomfortable or even impossible. In this case, just press against the vaginal orifice versus trying to push your finger into it. While pressing gently in, move your finger in a slow circular manner. With patience, you should slowly notice your finger entering into your body, perhaps over a period of days. It will also help to explore your vulva with a mirror, to help you locate your hymen and vaginal orifice. In most cases, the opening in the hymen will permit the insertion of at least a single lubricated finger or tampon.

A woman's partner can also do this during partner sex if they go slow and are gentle. Good communication is essential, as the woman needs to inform her partner if they are using too much pressure or going too fast. The woman's partner needs to go slowly and be very gentle. Young men tend to be overly eager and rough, they need to make a special effort to be otherwise. (Men often use much more pressure when masturbating their penis than women can tolerate on their vulva.) A woman needs to be able to spread her legs fully and relax her muscles. Doing this with pants and/or panties on will be awkward and cause needless discomfort, as will doing it in a cramped space like a car.

Women who are in their late teens or older may have access to dildos of various sizes that can be used to help stretch the hymen and vagina. If a woman is able to insert an artificial penis of appropriate size, 1.5 in. (3.8cm) in diameter and 6 in. (15 cm) in length, into her vagina, she is certainly going to be more comfortable with the idea of a real one entering her body. Realistic silicone dildos also allow teens and women to explore what a penis may look and feel like and practice fellatio (oral stimulation of the penis), putting a condom on a penis, anal sex, and may just be fun to play and experiment with, even if they are a virgin or a lesbian. Small and medium sized butt-plugs may make dilating the vagina and hymen easier because of their tapered shape.

Answer 4

hi sweetie,
im sorry i will nt be able give a solution but i can definitely suggest u that u shud gve this relation sum more time... just relax n dnt think too much.. okay.. do rmbr that the decision that u will take today will decide the decision that u will hv too take tmrw in short ur future... wish u god luck.. hope u come out this problem asap....
take care.. god bless

Answer 5

It sounds like you're not truly ready yet? If you really are ready and you just can't get your body to cooperate, try using lube, LOTS of foreplay, and candles, and RELAX. Life doesn't change on the other side, I promise ;)

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Sounds like you are not quite ready yet, when you are, you'll relax enough. Don't rush, you have all the time in the world

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Try to use a lubricant that can help with the pain

Answer 10

ouch! I think you might want to give him oral instead. That will keep him around for a while. I would suggest using a pain killer, like vodka when you are ready.