but you know you are not. I know I am not attractive but this guy I know keeps telling me I'm beautiful, it's flattering because no one has said it before but I am not sure of his intentions, I have heard he has a bit of a rep with the ladies so I think he might be sweetening me up to get in my knickers because he is desperate. Should I allow myself to be this judgemental or go out on a date and see where it goes?
2006-08-23 22:19:30 · 40 answers · asked by Blackheath rugby wife 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go with what you know. Your first instinct is usually right. If you go out on a date with him, just go for the fun and leave it at that. If you feel you may be to weak for that, then wait until you feel stronger or he gets tired of chasing you.
2006-08-23 22:23:25 · answer #1 · answered by Ray 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is beautiful! Maybe you don't look like Angelina Jolie ir Halle Berry but you are beautiful! As for the guy, if he knows you and you two have been friends for a while maybe he really does think you are beautiful and wants a relationship. If he hardly knows you then it is a good chance he just wants sex. But all you can do is give him a chance. Go ahead and go out with him. See where it goes. The second he gets fresh leave.
2006-08-23 22:24:48 · answer #2 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on a date and see how it goes. You don't have to do anyhting you don't want to. At the end of the day your the one who decides if you want to sleep with him or not not him, if his intentions are innocent then you'll know because he won't try and m,ake you sleep with him. So take your time and go on a date and take it from there, its its right you'll know just get to know him and you will soon find out his intentions, don't think too much and don't have any preconceptions because you dont know his intentions yet, so date and enjoy.
2006-08-23 22:48:49 · answer #3 · answered by Emiliana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a hard one. He really might genuinely find you attractive, (oh and by the way you say you are not attractive but everyone's got attractive features or personality so don't put yourself down) but as you say he might just be trying to get off with you. Is there a way you can get to know him a bit better before you decide? Could you go on a date but not call it a date, just go for a drink as you would with a mate?
2006-08-23 22:28:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are supposed to feel flattered. I bet it is just a confidence thing, think about this if this guy is a ladies man then he wouldn't need to pester you would he? If he is trying to get you into bed make him wait and if he is still interested and you are willing, who cares if you are both single go with your gut instinct. Have you ever thought that the people that are telling you he is a ladies man might be jealous.
2006-08-27 06:45:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wooh! I am suppose to feel wanted, sense of belonging, being noticed by others because of my beauty but then should not be carried away cos some complimentary remarks are meant to woo a woman and after the wooing, the woman becomes a public rag and cheap whore... there wont be anymore respect and regards for her by the complimentor.
2006-08-23 22:33:34 · answer #6 · answered by signorina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone thinks your beautiful in their eyes and heart then that is all that matters when it comes down to it. Enjoy the feeling because not many take to heart the true beauty of a woman.
2006-08-23 22:23:53 · answer #7 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say, give it time and be careful dont rush it or you'll be just like the many other young woman in this world that has just been taken for a ride (forgive the pun) and used just for sex, if he's realy interested and thinks that your beautiful then he should wait till your ready. Good luck chuck stay safe.
2006-08-23 23:23:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him keep talking until you find out his true intentions and then send him packing if he is not honorable. It is not uncommon for guys with reps to choose someone with low self esteem, and I say that cautiously as I dont know you, because they don't want a relationship with someone who is apt to drop them the first time someone else comes along.
2006-08-23 22:29:15 · answer #9 · answered by texbow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember all the compliaments you receive. If the guy is interested, make him wait, if he moves on, he only wants to be in your knickers.
Only the beauty part, I bet your twice as attracitve as you imagine. Confidence is also big for attractiveness, but you can't teach that, it just happens through experience.
Finally, we all have bits about us we hate, just remember to focus on your good points. And smile! :o)
2006-08-23 22:25:13 · answer #10 · answered by Chris O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋