Do you believe in spanking your kids?

Question

I've also read that yelling is actually worse for their self esteem down the line.

Answer 1

you're right, yelling or any harsh verbal discipline is worse for the child's emotional health. spanking is appropriate when it is used with control and as a means to consequence....not as a means for the parent to lose their anger out on the child because they were incapable of managing their child's acting out or lack of compliancy. good question.

Answer 2

Yes I do believe in spanking, Im not talking about abusive torture or anything like that but a good old fashion spanking right on the butt is in order for some kids. I think that more kids these days need a spanking, You see so many kids talking back and totally disrespecting there parents. If you start with teaching thses kids at a young age that kind of behavior is not tolerated, then maybe we wouldn't need to spank them, But let me tell you I was spanked and I didnt do half the crap these kids no now. My mom and Dad laid the rules down and we followed them. If we didnt then we knew that belt was coming out. Needless to say we pretty much listened. Yes spankings work.

Answer 3

I don't believe in spanking my kids. I was spanked as a child and I remember the humiliation I felt the few times I was spanked. I would not want my kids to feel that way. I don't have perfect little angels, but I am proud in the way I have raised my kids. I think that they are kind, caring, respectful kids. Every now and then they try to test the limits as all kids do, but I will punish them and let them know that misbehaving is not going to be tolerated. My kids are 16, 15, 10 and I have to say for the most part they are good kids and I didn't have to spank them to get them that way.

Answer 4

Yes I believe in it but with in reason. Yelling has a greater affect on girls. I have yet to spank my son he is 19 months old and he knows that when I could he is usally doing something he should not. I have used no physical punishment except for moviing him away from the object or putting it up. Kids emotional attachment to the parent can be great force in punishment.

If a say I can not believe that just happened my 4 month old crys no matter what tone I say it in. She understand at that age that something did not go right. Kids are smart and leark early. SO I agree yelling is worse

Answer 5

I belive children are born w/ a little extra padding on the bottom for a little swat once in awhile. You should never spank your child out of your own frustration though. I was spanked on occassion as a child as was my husband. We both grew up to be very productive adults. On the other hand his brothers were given their own way, talked the way they wanted, threw tantrums etc....and they really aren't doing as well in life. They both have problems with authority whether it be in the work place or the law. I don't believe in spanking my children for being children. Not for spilling milk or making a mess. Kid's are kid's and that's what they do. I always tell my kids also if they lie to my they will be spanked. I can't stand a lie. But if they come to me first and admit what happened and tell me the truth they will not be spanked. I try to reward their good behavior before they need a spank on the bottom. That's just as important. Now for blatent disobedience like my son is grounded from video games and he went to his friends and played them anyway then he lied to me on top of it....that's a situation in which he would get a spanking. Not for opening the pantry and spilling the cereal all over the floor. That's just an accident. Does that make sense? Well that's the way we do it in our house. You should never spank a child unless it's on the bottom. Not on other parts of the body unless you need to smack a young ones hand for getting into something that could harm them. A smack on the hand will hurt much less than a burn from the stove. Also I believe that at a certain age a child is too old to be spanked. You have to adjust your methods according to their age. Like taking away privledges etc.

Answer 6

The Good Book tells us that if you "Spare the rod, you spoil the child." I believe that children should be spanked when they misbehave. I read all this modern literature about how you should treat children and talk to them like they are little adults. They are NOT little adults. They are immature, little balls of clay who need to be shaped into ethical human beings. Liberals would like people to believe that spanking a child is abuse and it does more damage than good. That is simply not true. Spanking sets you apart from your children. Children need to learn that they are not the same as an adult therefore they can't behave just any ol way they want without punishment. There is a difference between beating a child senseless than popping them when they misbehave.

Answer 7

Ahhh yes, psycho babble from people who have no kids yet seem to know, from studying in books, what is best for our children. yelling and spanking on a daily basis is bad for the kids. But just as a good yelling is necessary in some circumstance, so is a spanking.

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Wulf.....this Liberal has spanked her son. And yes, children are capable of understanding which is why an explanation is merited as to WHY you spanked them. Otherwise, how will they learn to do any different.

Answer 8

Spare the rod and spoil the child, yes I believe in spanking on the bottom,no screaming or yelling that does nothing but raise your blood pressure.But time out and taking toys away are also effective means of disciplining,save the spanking for areal lesson.

Answer 9

IF BY SPANKING YOU MEAN PUNISHMENT FOR UNBELIEVER OR SOME LIKE THAT YES I WOULD. I WAS SPANKED AND YELLED AT WHEN I DID SOMETHING WRONG AND WHEN I DID SOMETHING RIGHT I WAS PRAISED . I ALSO WAS HUGGED AND KISSED (LOVED) AND MY KIDS WILL GET THE SAME I TURNED OUT PRETTY GOOD IF I DO SAY SO MY SELF AND I OWE MY PARENTS SO MUCH FOR EVERY THING THEY DID AND CONTINUE TO DO.

Answer 10

I had 3 children. My husband started out spanking them. It didn't help. Yelling worked even less. I realized talking with them works well and whispering works well. If you talk on their age level and down at their level they listen pretty well.